For the Post-Ops....
Ok, we have all done it... it has happened and we have dealt.... well, most of us have dealt. What am I talking about? The dreaded concept of reverting to old habits. Sure, we can't eat as much as we used to... sure, we "know" what we should be eating, how much of it and all that blah. We know we should exercise daily and eat low carb- high protein... we know. Its like telling an overweight person how to eat properly... they know. Knowing isn't the problem. So, here I am wondering how in the world I am going to break these darned bad habits for good. Yes, I am sensible. I know what the ramifications of my actions will be. I will gain weight. I will be unhappy. I know these things. But seriously, how many times have we thought about going to a support meeting and then realized that our schedules won't permit that? So, has anyone else had these issues? Has anyone really considered how to curb the bad habits years after WLS? We are talking over two years and all of a sudden "blam" bad habits come walking through the door... What do you do when you don't have the time to go to support meetings? What do you do when you need guidance in your diet? And please, spare me the "go talk to the nutritionalist" answer... we have all been... and paid... a couple times... for the same piece of paper and lecture on eating protein first, veggies second, and NO CARBS. Suggestions? Advice? Comments?
First off, you come HERE every day! You have to be accountable for everything, you might as well start here. It doesn't take much to show up "here". You go back to basics--you KNOW what you should be eating and what you shouldn't be eating. YOU KNOW how much water you should be drinking. YOU KNOW how much exercise you need.
I am certainly not as far out as you, but so far I've not regained my hunger and pray to God it won't come back. I can totally live with that! I will gladly take my small grumbling, noisy, pouch for a full-sized worthless one any day.
You are the one with the power.
You are the one that makes the decisions.
You are the only one that can make choices for you.
Hang in there!
I am certainly not as far out as you, but so far I've not regained my hunger and pray to God it won't come back. I can totally live with that! I will gladly take my small grumbling, noisy, pouch for a full-sized worthless one any day.
You are the one with the power.
You are the one that makes the decisions.
You are the only one that can make choices for you.
Hang in there!
Lisa J
HW: 277 Day of Surgery: 234 CW: 161 Goal: 135 sounds good but....? Who knows!
HW/277 EVAL/260 PREOP/246 SURGERY DAY/243 CW/162 1/3/2011
HW: 277 Day of Surgery: 234 CW: 161 Goal: 135 sounds good but....? Who knows!
HW/277 EVAL/260 PREOP/246 SURGERY DAY/243 CW/162 1/3/2011
okay....... I had to sleep on this one. I really do not know what to tell you, I am not there yet. I told someone yesterday when they asked me what I was going to do when I reached my goal weight that I was going to fight to stay there. I never went in to this process with the idea that this was going to be easy. I was worried whether this would work or not. I know that I am only 9 months into this and I really do feel like I can live this way. I love the way each step feels. I am a firm believer in a positive attitude. Find some way to involve positive in your goal to keep your weight at a level you are comfortable. I really appreciate you being honest about this.
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on 2/16/10 5:06 am
on 2/16/10 5:06 am
This is a great place to start. And knowing that you have to do it yourself is another big plus. The surgery, the guidance, can only go so far.
For me, when I stray (as I did over the fall) I start with one thing first, conquer that, add another thing. It's just too overwhelming for me to try to fix it all at once. And now, my problem is a 15 pound problem currently-so I can take a little longer to tweak. I don't want it to get to be a 150 pound problem for sure, but I have the time to slowly make the changes I need to get back on track 100 percent.
I will say, regardless of surgery type-getting the carb monster under control is usually the first step. I just had what has become my daily serving of Russel Stover's Sugar free truffles-If I behave in all other ways carb wise-I get my sugar free junk fix. Is that optimal-no? But right now it keeps me out of bigger pitfalls-and I feel both a sense of control and of righteous reward. Also, it helps me go potty (there I said it).
I've been laid up with a back injury, and focusing on what I can do-not eating carbs, has kept me from going beserk about the exercise I cannot do right now. And that is a good philosophy-what CAN you do right now?
For me, when I stray (as I did over the fall) I start with one thing first, conquer that, add another thing. It's just too overwhelming for me to try to fix it all at once. And now, my problem is a 15 pound problem currently-so I can take a little longer to tweak. I don't want it to get to be a 150 pound problem for sure, but I have the time to slowly make the changes I need to get back on track 100 percent.
I will say, regardless of surgery type-getting the carb monster under control is usually the first step. I just had what has become my daily serving of Russel Stover's Sugar free truffles-If I behave in all other ways carb wise-I get my sugar free junk fix. Is that optimal-no? But right now it keeps me out of bigger pitfalls-and I feel both a sense of control and of righteous reward. Also, it helps me go potty (there I said it).
I've been laid up with a back injury, and focusing on what I can do-not eating carbs, has kept me from going beserk about the exercise I cannot do right now. And that is a good philosophy-what CAN you do right now?
Yes, I wish I could wake up and it be a year or two down the road. I'm nervous about how everything will evolve. The food part is really easy for me right now. I'm more worried about establishing a work out routine. Speaking of which, I need to scoot, so I can go walk on the treadmill. By the way, will this interminable winter ever end?
5'3/4" 56 years young
Heaviest Weight 250; Consult Weight 232; Surgery Weight 211
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Heaviest Weight 250; Consult Weight 232; Surgery Weight 211
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Are you maintaining? Join us at http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/VSGM/discussion/
Been there since august 17 the day of my last surgery.
I use to go to support group meetings to hear the post ops that were futhere out then me talk about life after..kinda funny havent seen any of themn almost a yr and a half.
been to a meeting in NC where the post ops were open to talk freely and bluntly...they had folks there from a week to 27 yrs post op. what I got from that meeting was carbs are like coch roaches..u eat one but you cant stop with that one more come...
I am back to journaling and taking control back...its hard but we did it once we can do it again.
in OA they say admitting you have a problem is the first step the second is relaizing you are powerless over it...
If you need to talk vent shout scream or just talk Im here for you
I use to go to support group meetings to hear the post ops that were futhere out then me talk about life after..kinda funny havent seen any of themn almost a yr and a half.
been to a meeting in NC where the post ops were open to talk freely and bluntly...they had folks there from a week to 27 yrs post op. what I got from that meeting was carbs are like coch roaches..u eat one but you cant stop with that one more come...
I am back to journaling and taking control back...its hard but we did it once we can do it again.
in OA they say admitting you have a problem is the first step the second is relaizing you are powerless over it...
If you need to talk vent shout scream or just talk Im here for you
being healthy has its rewards....take the challenge and just do it
I just had my surgery. A week ago.
Before my surgery I was postponed because of H Pylorie (sp) in the stomach. I felt like I was NEVER going to get my sleeve. So I just gave up and gave back in to eating. Sadly I gained weight of course. My surgeon called FINALLY and we were back on track and he was TOTALLY upset (understandably so) with me gaining weight over the months that I had been left in limbo.
I made a choice right then to get healthy, regardless if I was ever going to get the sleeve. I choose to make healthy eating choices and exercise. I kept a food diary and wrote down EVERYTHING I ate. Some days I kept to my allowed calories. Others I failed, but I did better the next day. I never let one day drag me down. I simply moved on to the next day and did better. I kept moving forward. In the end I lost 11 pounds before my WLS date.
I look at this as a learning process. You have to be willing to get back up again and again. You have to be committed. There is NO magic pill. There is no wand that can be waved and make you do what you need to do. YOU HAVE TO DO IT! simple
You have to decide if you are going to do it or not. No amount of sympathy, back patting, or blogging is going to change you. Only you can. It's dissicion time sweety.
I do agree that coming here and having people show an interest and asking how you are doing is a great way to keep you 'honest' (if you choose to be) and help you keep connected to a communty that is going through (more or less) what you are. That know and understand the hardship. But YOU are the only one that can make the change and make it last a life time.
I'm right here for ya and hoping the best and sending you helping prayers hun!! Hope to read your blog daily on what your eating and how much you are exercising.
Before my surgery I was postponed because of H Pylorie (sp) in the stomach. I felt like I was NEVER going to get my sleeve. So I just gave up and gave back in to eating. Sadly I gained weight of course. My surgeon called FINALLY and we were back on track and he was TOTALLY upset (understandably so) with me gaining weight over the months that I had been left in limbo.
I made a choice right then to get healthy, regardless if I was ever going to get the sleeve. I choose to make healthy eating choices and exercise. I kept a food diary and wrote down EVERYTHING I ate. Some days I kept to my allowed calories. Others I failed, but I did better the next day. I never let one day drag me down. I simply moved on to the next day and did better. I kept moving forward. In the end I lost 11 pounds before my WLS date.
I look at this as a learning process. You have to be willing to get back up again and again. You have to be committed. There is NO magic pill. There is no wand that can be waved and make you do what you need to do. YOU HAVE TO DO IT! simple
You have to decide if you are going to do it or not. No amount of sympathy, back patting, or blogging is going to change you. Only you can. It's dissicion time sweety.
I do agree that coming here and having people show an interest and asking how you are doing is a great way to keep you 'honest' (if you choose to be) and help you keep connected to a communty that is going through (more or less) what you are. That know and understand the hardship. But YOU are the only one that can make the change and make it last a life time.
I'm right here for ya and hoping the best and sending you helping prayers hun!! Hope to read your blog daily on what your eating and how much you are exercising.
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You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them. ~Michael Jordan
My Goals:
1) 200lbs ACCOMPLISHED
3) 170lbs
4) Run 5K
"Unneeded food is not any less wasted in a body that doesnt need it, than it is in the trash." ~Brandilynn
"Those that will not be governed by God will be ruled by tyrants." ~William Penn
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You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them. ~Michael Jordan
My Goals:
1) 200lbs ACCOMPLISHED
3) 170lbs
4) Run 5K
"Unneeded food is not any less wasted in a body that doesnt need it, than it is in the trash." ~Brandilynn
"Those that will not be governed by God will be ruled by tyrants." ~William Penn
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Reading this string, I just could not let it go by. I am support for my friend who is having same troubles (no family members know of the surgery in May of 2008). I feel powerless to watch the struggle. I realize I can not do it for the person; only that person can make the choices. I try to understand and be supportive. I know what should be eaten; I try to eat better myself and not contribute to any "cheating" but that is not my responsibility. I have inquired for help before on the message board but mostly got hateful responses. I want to let you know I am empathetic to your struggle. Keep working on the mental/emotional parts.
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