this could happen to you

in december i went to see dr. keith thinking i had another hernia, after a ct scan the report was the muscle does not contract and bulges out...was told to exercise and that it would strength it up..three weeks ago I started having a bulge where the last hernia was...everytime i exercised the bulge would get bigger, pressure would build up and i felt like i was in one of those alien movies where the female human is pregant with an alien baby and istead of co ing out naturally it busted through the stomach walls.
last week i went back and saw dr. keith he said another damn hernia..had me go take another ct scan...and told me at the appt I needed to lose 30 pounds before he would operate. today i went and got the results..expecting to hear hernia...instead the main muscle that runs down the middle of the abdominal area has baically left my body..it does not contract or retract....That the bulge will not go away no matter how much i exerxcise...his solution...for me to lose the 40 to 50 pounds to be at goal and thqt he would go in with more mesh and fix the problem.
Anyone who is over 350 pounds prior to surgery cqn have this happen to them..
i am depressed, I feel like a freak and a loser...I lost 353 pounds in 24 months gained back 10... lost 5 pounds since last week. Just to be told I have to lose 40 pounds to look normal.
i know complications can happen and do..I am the living proof but when will it end for me.
Plus to top that I am going to have to have  hip replacement from where I waqs kicked by a stud and arthurtis haas destroyed the joint....next

Ouch Lady !
Talk about going through heck and back. Huggs!!

big ouches but im still here and kicking...cant knock me down im a wibble wobble

Thats all that matters!

Wow that's tough!  I can understand your feelings about being told you have to lose 40 lbs.  I got told the same at the fertility dr. last month. (Which sorry it didn't work out for us to meet when we were in Norman) Although I've lost 120lbs since started this, I haven't lost but 10 since September, even though I've gone down 2 pant sizes.  The Dr was like "gee, that surprises me you haven't lost more".  

I explained that I was still fighting anemia and  I really think I lost too much too quickly and I'm going thru an adjustment period.  And I have lost 2 pant sizes since then, so it's not like there's not anything going on.

But still, it was a major disappointment that I have lost that much with no pat on the back or at least a little fan fare. 

Hubby had a harsh talking to about quitting smoking, lose weight and cut back on his beloved coffee. (Which he does need to make changes too, so I was glad she talked to him, but it was harsh to hear)  To top it off, his jeans button popped off when he went to the bathroom as we were leaving.  It was like salt in the wound!

yikes!
it just frustrates me how some of us fight to have a normal life after wls..and no matter how hard we try it doesnt happen.
WHY don't surgeons tell us these things can happen?
And  your surgeon needs a swift kick in his asss for being so insenitive this is nor a race but a journey some lose faster than others...
I have a dear friend who had wls in 2001 and she just got to goal last year..only had 150 to lose...

I know it was very harsh but her intentions are good.  She is the doctor who's going to help me get pregnant, so she just wants us to have the best chance we can.  But it wouldn't have killed her for a little excitement!

I am sorry to hear about your health issues.  I am sending positive thoughts your way & praying for healing for you.  Hang in there!

ty ty ty...I need all the prayers and vibs I can get! I was hoping 2010 would be a surgery free year..guess I was wrong..but the good side of it is this...At least I can wait longer than 3 months dor the next surgery.... it will be 8 months when I have the next one since the last one

Hang in there Pattye!!!!!  Remember it's all in God's time, not in our time, and WOW must he have some powerful, wonderful, super fantastic things planned for your future!!!!!!   You've been challenged a lot so you soon be reaping all your rewards.  On this Valentine's Day I wish you love, love, love!!!!!!   You'll find that perfect for you person soon and you'll be gorgeous and ready for him!!!!!!!!
Cathy