Guys and Girls- I need some love and support

My immediate family knew and I told my parents.  I hve not told my inlaws and I hven't told any of my co-workers.  I did tell my manager who is in a different state and she I believe has let it slip.  Because of trying so much in the past that had failed I did not want to announce it to the world and have this as just ONE more thing that I failed at.

It's funny, but I can tell strangers all day long about my WLS. But I don't want to tell friends and acquaintances.

About a month after surgery I took my dog to the groomer and the lady who checked me in commented on "being down some." Well, I immediately went into, "Yes, I had weight loss surgery. I've lost X number of pounds."

Well, she was talking about my dog. I turned about 10 shades of red. 

This is a very personal journey for each of us.  I only told my closest co-workers and boss who were all so very supportive.  I also told my sister and brother but not my Mom.  My Mom still doesn't know.  She knows I've lost weight but didn't comment about it until I had lost about 150 pounds.  Long long story with her!!!  I will tell anyone who asks or comments now but in the beginning I didn't want any opinions that weren't positive.  I did what I did for me and no one else.  I was ready all the way around mentally and had finally gotten my money together.  I know it has saved my life.  You tell who you want to and the rest....none of their business until you want them to know!!!

Pre-op I told the people that my decision would affect- my family, close friends, and bosses.  Post-op I happily tell anyone who asks.  I have not received any negative comments from anyone- including the men I have dated post-op.  No one really even misses a beat when I tell them.  You have nothing to be ashamed of!  You have made an informed medical decision.  End of story. 

That all being said, only you know how much disclosure you are comfortable with.  Go with your gut.  Tell only those you feel comfortable telling.  Just because I would feel comfortable with a biiboard announcing my decision doesn't make it right for everyone!  Good luck!

Being blunt and out spoken, I told my siblings first. my brother was against RNY. My sister was worried..my boyfriend at the time was for it. I told everyone that it was my choice and that I had did the research knew the risks and that I woul rather die taking charge of my life then die being unhealthy and obesed.
I am now 23 months post op. AND I am open about my RNY and the complications that I have had.
With that being said..let me tell you this...those that are saying crap about you doing it the normal way are friggin jealous and they want what you have. Dont expect them to change.
WLS will show you who your true friends are.
I lost a great friend because of my surgery and I have kicked a boyfriend to the curb, who orginally supported me but three days after surgery decided he didnt want me to be thin...
Just be prepared for the negatives they are out there...
HUGSSSSSSSSSS and know we understand

it sounds like a bit of jealousy from your friend hun.

I'd be telling her that I would tell those I wanted to and those that I felt needed to know.

I have told close family and friends. I haven't made a family wide announcement, since it's not pertinent to them, and we don't have a daily contact. After the fact I figure if they ask, then I'll tell them.

It's a personal choice. I just recall when Star Jones had WLS and all the press hounded her for losing weight and then jumped on her for 'not being honest'. I thought: "who the hell are you to dictate someones personal life?!?!" So; this is YOUR LIFE!! You decide who you want to tell and when. You don't have to tell anyone, or you could shout it to the world sweety!

I'd be telling your friend that if she was going to judge me and tell me what SHE felt I should do then I'd be telling HER that WW wasn't helping her! I hate people with holier-then-thou attitudes.

Best luck sweety! And you tell who you want, when you want! This is personal and it's YOUR person!

Pre-I told very few people.  I had already asked a few people for opinions, then went off and made up my mind.  That is my way.  AFTER, when someone would begin to voice an opinion on WLS that was negative, I could listen and say "I hear what you are saying, however, I've already had the surgery so we don't need to debate it further."  

Yes, people, being people, will want to debate whether or not you should have had a procedure you've already had.  It makes no sense to me, but it happens.  I do enjoy discussing the science, will listen to why a procedure isn't right for someone else, as long as that someone else isn't ME.  After a couple of years, I've come to realize it's not a weight thing, a surgery thing, or a WLS thing-it's a me thing-I am the decider for what happens to me.

Even prior to WLS I didn't care for food nazi's or nutritional know it alls.  As for the own it lady, I would say this to her-"Owning it doesn't mean I have to share it with everyone and carry them along.  It means I have to be in the moment for each part of MY journey, and share it when I am ready.  My life is not a reality show."

You may quote me.