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Not trying to argue with you or make excuses but I would like to point out that he does Have a job, it's just not a reall well paying job at the moment. He just moved back from VA, so he took the first job that was offered, and it's unloading trucks for Family Dollar. Devon Energy would be a great job, but we live in Duncan...so just about the only thing here is Halliburton, and I work for them so I can tell you that we're still laying off and definatly not hiring. He cuts grass in the evenings and on weekends. I don't really see him staying my spare room as using me as long as he's helping out with the bills. Trust me, this isn't the first guy that I've dated since my divorce, I know a user when I see one and this guy is not a user. He's starting over and had to take a huge cut in pay when he moved here, but he's not jobless by any means.

Thanks for your advice and I will take it into account.