Anyone with the same thing happen??

Hello, I know it has been a while since I have written. I have been reading everyones posts. I have been busy with the kids out for the summer but now they are back in and I have a little more time.
I wondered if anyone is close to goal: I have 22 more pounds. My husband told me this last Saturday that he feels like I have lost enough and that he wants me to stop losing now. He said if I have a tummytuck, breast reduction (yep they are still large) and my arms done, that I will drop alot of the 22 pounds.
In my mind, until I hit that number, I will not be satisfied or stop but I want to be safe at the same time. Any comments or ideas?

I personally neve rwante dto be a tiny thiny so when I set a goal for me it was a size as well as a number. I am still 12 pounds from my goal weight wise but I have surpassed my size goal somewhat. And I have wondered if it is time to start adding some things back in to slow it down and start learning to maintain instead of to keep losing. And I know that when I get the tummy done I would be below my personal goal.

I guess it's how YOU feel about your weight loss. As much as it is important for your spouse to be supportive and happy with it as you are, it's YOUR body. Yes, you no doubt will lose lbs in reduction surgery but it won't probably be 22 lbs worth. I've  seen surgeries on TV that you'd think were just going to be off the charts in fat/skin weight and really were not close to be as much as people were probably hoping.

The numbers on the scale and the numbers on the size tag in clothes is a huge deal to us now because we can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. Personally I would take it on a day by day basis and find out if you can lose that other 22 lbs (the last part is supposed to be the hardest), because hey, we already know we can gain it back, right??? Sadly......

I don't think it's wrong to have a number in your head about what you've dreamt was going to be magic for you, but I also don't know if it's magic unless it's right for you. My original goal is probably too high but again, I won't know til I get there. I do know that the number of the goal I want just sounds better. But IS it better? We shall see.

Good luck to you, whatever you decide, you've done an amazing job!

yeah, I think after the surgery I will only be down about 10 pounds or less but I really feel like I did when i was 270 pounds until I look in the mirror. I have a warped body image. I don't want to go to an extreme and still lose beyond what is healthy since I feel obese but am not.

I totally understand how you feel.  My original goal (I'm 5'2") was around 135 because I thought that was a good weight, but the nutritionist thought I should aim for 125.  So when I finally got to 135, I felt like i should keep going even though I liked where I was at.  Then I had surgery and once again couldn't eat for about 10 days and dropped the last 13 pounds like a rock.  I got as low as 120 and felt like crap.  Plus the rapid weight loss made everything loose and flappy.  I'm finally evening out at around 123 to 125 but to be honest, I feel like I'm too thin (never thought I'd say that - ever).  It could partially be because I haven't been able to work out to tighten everything up, and I do like finally being in a small size, however, I still feel like I looked better a little heavier.  You need to do what feels good to you and don't worry about the number.  I still get a little obsessed about it, but I know it isn't good.  You should stop when YOU feel comfortable and then just be proud for all of your accomplishments.

Good luck.

My goal was a size and a number-turns out the size is right in the middle of the number range...so all is good.

At some point you have to step back and ask yourself what you are trying to accomplish and determine if you are there.  I specifically asked people to keep their comments to themselves the closer I got to goal-I am eating/body image disordered to a huge degree.  I do Ok if I listen to my own voice, but sometimes people encouraging you (or me) can do more harm than good.  

An encouraging word can make me want to lose even MORE (to a bad degree) and a harsh word just annoys the snot out of me-whether it's you are too fat or too thin-too ANYTHING just puts me over the edge.

Safe is a pretty big range-so take your time and realize you are not going to stay one exact weight two days in a row-so figure out a range and be happy.