Way off topic deux

I sit here yesterday reading what was sent back to me. I got so emotional I couldnt respond.
I looked at why I had this surgery...and what I expected from it.
Then I thought about love...
I thought about control
I thought about my parents my friends and my family....
I thought about all thoise that I have helped in the last two years and I hope to help in the future....
i know my surgery was different cause it was GOD's way of having me help others.
Everything I have gone through has been to be there for others.
So instead of hiding from my complcations, settling for less and hiding in the back ground.
I am standing proud and strong in the front of the group. No more hiding from being ashamed or feeling less.
Guess you can say I am going back to my roots.....and be like what my Mom would say.."if you don't like my peaches why shake my tree?"
I refuse to change me for some man that has issues...no matter how much you love someone their inner self esteem will not allow them to overcome them.
i refuse to be man's Mom nor the doormat.
I wasnt that at 486 and I be damned if I will be that 183.
i may never get to goal but being 183 is a hell of alot better than 486.
So folks the bitoch is back.
Be prepared cause I am not going to be politically correct or not be me blunt and outspoken
Love to all my peeps on here..and if i dont know ya...well hugs

You should be proud of who you are.  You have come a long way and it has definitely not been an easy road.  It is amazing how liberating it is to shed the weight and find out that you shed some of the other restricting things from your life.  You should never be a doormat ever.... I fight that tendancy myself although not with my husband but with others.  I think it is getting easier to stand up for myself and I can't hide behind the weight anymore.  You should be proud of where you are today.  You help a lot of us who are struggling with our individual issues and you are appreciated.  If they can't take your bluntness, then they can just not read your posts.  You don't sugar-coat anything and personally I don't think you should anyway.  I am always eager to talk about my surgery, including the good and the bad, but I guarantee you the goods far surpass the negative things with my surgery. 

Hang in there kiddo.  You are a wonderful person and just continue to be YOU.

kim tyvm for the vote on me!
I am not who i was yesterday if that makes sense...
today he and I got into a good argument...I told him I was done....Done and not going back.. if he wanted me he had to change or I would stay here.
Something awsome has happened ....an ole childhood friend and I hooked up..we have been talking since yesterday trying to get caught up....God never stops amazing me

Welcome back, Pattye! Good for you. You are needed here. There would be a whole lot less sparkle here without you.
Remember, you can be blunt without being "witchy." ;)  But I'll take you just the way you are, rather than not have you around.
I'm proud of your decisions.
(((Hugs))),
Mary

mary tyvm...something happened and I dont know what...but today I talked to him like he was crap...and never had I would have done that before yesterday...my blessed family on here gave me the strength..and courage

Funny you would say that Mary, I just got in an argument with my daughter who told me she was just being strong with a certain person....I had to tell her that being strong is one thing, but being flat out rude and a B----h was not being strong...It was being flat out rude!! There is a huge difference! I am afraid she is more like her mom than she knows!! lol

There is a fine line between assertive and aggressive, firm and flat-out rude. :)  When anger is involved, it's difficult not to cross the line. It's usually better to take a step back, calm down, gather one's thoughts, and then communicate firmly, fairly, and logically. It's a challenge, but it can be done, and when it's done correctly, one is left feeling good about it, with no regrets. :)

WELCOME BACK MY FRIEND!!!!

ty ty tyvm....see ya tomorrow..OH i am making peanut butter cookies and wls friendly snickerdoodles

Both sound yummy. Please share the recipe here, if you're willing. :)