Totally OT

Well, just have to share with my dear friends.  I found out on July 3rd, my wife and I are going to be grandparents.  This is my 18 yr old (she is in my pics).  The baby daddy is the abusing
a-hole.  She is 3 months, and hasn't had the courage to tell us.  EVERYBODY else in Fort Smith knew, but us.  I was told by a friend of hers in front of my pastor's wife.  I thank God I was told that way, because I started crying and telling my pastor's wife what a terrible grandpa I was going to be, because I didn't know if I could love the baby knowing it was HIS child.  She told me I would get over that and it was my baby's baby.  I went thru so many emotions, but God dealt with me and my emotions.  The baby is innocent.  I also found out the night she went TO JAIL for harrassment of another girl that has put charges on a--hole for battery.  Of COURSE, he is innocent and my daughter believes him, so she went to go find her.  Just great!!!   He also has charges on him of indecency with a 14 yr old, but he is of course innocent of that too, and she believes that too.  (He is a real piece of work -- he goes to court on that one tomorrow -- do I need to say what my wife and I are hoping?).  So, that night not only did I found out she was pregnant, but we had to get $275 for her bail.  She has been very, very sick and lost her job, so she couldn't pay her rent.  I can't let my baby be on the streets pregnant, so we moved her in with us.  After God dealt with me, I realized I will love my grandbaby, even under the cir****tances.  It is done, and there is nothing that we can do now, except give her unconditional love.  A love that I am SO glad God gives me in all my mess ups.  Told her I was still not happy, especially keeping it from us.  His family is almost as evil as he is, so for 3 months, no prayers have gone up for that baby!  I was upset that we have missed out on 3 months of prayers for the child.  I also am RISING UP!!  The child, at this time, has no real man in its life.  Told her I am stepping up and being the man of God that child needs in her life.  (I call the baby her because I hate saying "it") A man to give her Godly direction and lots and lots of prayers.  For some reason, Kate doesn't believe me that I want to be called "Grandfather, Sir".  I ask for prayers for my daughter, that she will have her eyes opened and pray for the health of her baby.  We did get to go to her first dr. appt with her and hear the heart beat.  How miraculous is that?  Sorry for the long, long post, but.....you know.  I love y'all, Michael

Michael I will add your beautiful unborn grandbaby to my prayers. I know it is hard to understand your douaghters feelings for him but I will pray that she wises up and learns from this experience. I know first hand that until she is ready to see him clearly that it will not matter what anyone else says. be strong and stay in touch. Love you too. Sarah

I am sorry you are having so much pain and confusion, and I hope your daughter gets her priorities in order and realizes her child's welfare is more important than some abusive man.

I am praying that God will use you in a mighty way in both your daughter's life and in your new grandbaby's life!!  What an example of grace and God's love you are to your daughter.  Way to go!!

Congratulations Michael!  We just have to remember "God Does NOT Make ANY Mistakes"!!!  It's all in His plan.  He knows the big picture...not us!  I'm so thankful that your daughter has Godly parents and ones that will stand behind her and support here.  There is no way that you would turn your back on her at this time...when she needs you the most.  You will be the Godly Grandfather that this baby needs and you will be the perfect roll model for the precious child of God!  I will be praying for you all Michael!  WE love you too my friend.

Michael:

Let me make a statement and you remember it please  "This is God's Child".  I know you and Dessie are going through a lot, but I also know that you are the most Godly couple and your faith is steadfast.  Instead of thinking of this child as the "A-hole's Child or His Child"  think of this wonderful blessing as "God's Child". 

As far as the rest - faith, hope and love.  You have all of these in spades, my dear.  You take a situation that others would fall down on their knees begging to be released of - and you excel!  This is just another miracle in the line of miracles that you have been blessed with over the past year.

Keep your faith, love your wife and daughter, and make a wonderful place for your new grandchild (they are pretty neat!!).  I KNOW you have the ability, strength and Godliness to succeed!!

We all love you and please know that all our prayers are with you!  And your family here is always behind you and walk beside you when needed.

All my love...
Ruth

Thanks Ruth.  You know, when Dessie was pregnant with our son, Joseph, we called him G.C. during the whole pregnancy.  Stood for God's Child.  My sister, who is an R.N. said GC stood for a venerial disease, but we totally rejected that, and kept calling him G.C.  When he was born, it was hard to call him Joseph because we had gotten so used to calling him by G.C.  Might have to name little one G.C. the 2nd.  Thanks for your words.

Michael, u are going to be an awesome grandpa. Yes, amen to what u said about stepping up to the plate and being that Godly man that this child will need in his/her life. As far as the prayers, I know God had his hand in place the whole time. I will be praying right along with u and ur family. U are awesome!!

LaDetra

Hi, Michael.
A similar thing happened with our younger daughter. She ended up marrying the guy and then finding out what he was really like. She left him while still pregnant and moved in with us. My daughter made the mistake of naming the guy as the father, on the birth certificate, which then meant that he could have court-ordered visitation, even though he never paid any child support. I cannot tell you how hard it was to leave that precious baby at this guy's house every other weekend, for one full day. It was horrible!
My grandson is now 9 years old, the biological father is not in the picture (totally a God thing), and this precious boy has known Jesus since the age of 4 and will probably grow up to be a missionary or preacher. I know that God redeemed his little life and changed the course of history for a new generation.
I understand your anger toward this guy. I was so desperate to keep my grandson away from his biological father (who was a known drug addict), I could totally understand why a person would hire a hitman. Of course, I knew that was not the thing to do, but one gets to feeling kind of crazy. It was a year of difficult times and emotions. I was able to get to the place where I could trust the Lord to work things out, and He did. I can say that I do pray for this man, that he will turn to the Lord and change his life and ways. By the grace of God, I can say that I have forgiven this man. After all, Jesus died for him, too, and Jesus forgave me so why should I not forgive others in return.
I will pray for all of you, including this precious grandbaby, who should absolutely call you "Grandfather, Sir." :)  I praise the Lord that you are now healthy enough to live a long life, one that will impact this baby for all eternity.
(((Hugs))),
Mary

MICHAEL YOU WILL BE A GREAT ROLE MODEL AND GRANDFATHER TO THIS CHILD I HAVE NO DOUBT IN MY MIND! I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER AND MAYBE VIEW THIS AS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE! GOOD LUCK!