Am I the only havin a hard time with all the compliments???

OK...don't get me wrong...I LOVE to get compliments....the problem is I am just not sure how to respond. It is not something that is in my comfort zone (probably because when you are 100+ pounds overweight you dont get that many) and it is so frequent now and I find myself at a loss for words.

Am I the only one with this problem? I feel like I have to say something, but sometimes just don't know what. And then when I do respond I feel like I am saying the same thing all of the time. Even though most of the people are saying the same thing all of the time..lol

I guess I am probably overanalyzing the situation, but it is not comfortable. Maybe once my brain catches up with my body it will be easier....I still cannot relate when people say I am "skinny" ...lol...me? skinny? that word is not in my vocabulary....I am "smaller" but by no means "skinny".

Another thing I noticed is how I see other people in comparison to myself. Like friends that I know weigh more than me...still look smaller than me???? the psychological part of this is TOUGH!

You are not the only one that deals with this...
The hard part is knowing that when you were overweight no one ever looked your way and if they did they would  say if you would lose weight you would be so pretty....
Just do this little trick smile your gorgoues smile and say thank you ..and if u are wanting to be snotty say I know I am pretty...Just go with the flow..its just comliments..You know who and what you are.
AND personally I think  you are gorgeous and a fantastic person rather overweight or not ..its the smile and eyes that make it happen...You can see the inner beauty.
Hugs and just know....it does get better

Awww....you almost made me cry. That was the sweetest thing anyone has said to me in a long time. I am so glad to have gotten the chance be inspired by you!

You should give lessons to husbands...lol

Husbands don't count! lol
We need some great T-shirt.....something that says it all.....hmmmm???? we need to think up something!  Little kids wear tshirts that say I'm a cute...... maybe one that says  I'm cute because I just am, not because I lost weight!
I agree with my sistah Pattie. You are a beautiful person and always have been.  If only people knew that and showed that before the surgeries.  People tell me all the time now how great I am looking.....I just always say thanks, I'm working on it! or I'm getting there....both are true without saying I had my stomach removed or any other infor they are wanting. The one's I hate are the ones that say how much have you lost now? Nosey hags I either say enough to be healthier and not be on my insulin anymore...or ! I just tell them alot and go on. If I were Pattie, and said what I wanted to really tell them...lol(Just kidding..kinda) lol. . to some people, I would say it's none of your freakin business!  (I'm really hormonal lately)  I did have to look at some of this as we are explorers into this life of WLS and all these people want to know how it is and what it's like and look to us for info and hope or just curiosity, cause they too may want to go there....

My ex-mother-in-law asked me what I weighed last weekend and I told her...she was like, you don't weight that much...now would I really go through all I have gone through to lie about my weight the wrong direction? Don't you think if I was gonna lie I would say I weighed less than I really did? People are crazy!

Oh speaking of weighing less than I really do...I actually weigh 30 pounds less than what my drivers license says...lol...time to go get a new one and make myself 40 pounds less than what i really am

At a year out it is STARTING to get a little easier. I was very uncomfortable with the compliments at first and also felt like I needed to say something but did not know what. Now I just say thank you. I still have not figured out what to say to the you are getting (too) skinny comment though. I do tell those people that I am not at goal yet and even then will not be at my smallest weight but they don't believe me.

I had an even different comment the other day. I was getting my nails done. I have gone to the same girl for 17 years and we were talking about it being my one year anniversary. The woman she was still working on asked me of what and I told her. Turns out her husband had had lap band surgery but had to have it removed due to complications. After talking for a while she told me that I had the most gorgeous eyes and that my husband was a very lucky man because of them. That was really a first for me! LOL

Your husband is a very lucky man for more reasons than just your eyes!

Lorna no you are not alone and as a single gal who has finally decided to start dipping her toes into the pool I find it even harder to deal with the new attention from guys that used to do everything to avoid my look before.  I love hearing I am looking good especially when it comes from one of my many adopted teenage nephews or their friends out of the blue. But all I can do is say thank you and I even still find myself blushing from the compliments and that is so not me normally. It is just such a huge adjustment from being the invisible girl to having strangers compliment me.

I promise u, that when I read this just now, I said, "what the heck is Lorna doing in my head"? LOL. I have been having this issue going on supa hard for over a month now. I just smile and say thank you, but now as I get further along....I jazz it up a bit like Patty said...I will say something crazy or whatever. I told the lady at the bank today, that I am bringing sexy back becuz sexy people have to represent, right? LOL. Then there are times, I am like u, in that I hate to keep sayin the same ol thing, but hey..at least I answered them. I know who I am and that part of me hasnt changed, but the surgery has definately made it a bit sharper.  U are gorgeous, inside and out and I am lucky to call you my friend. We are the same as we always have been(well I think I have more attitude now...lol..I dont know) but anyway...now we got that inner beauty goin on and the outer....man we da bomb!
LaDetra

I remember the first time I realized I was no longer invisible-I was in the airport in Dallas and was people watching on the escalator when I realized the person I was staring at was staring back.  I'm almost fell down the escalator I was so shocked.

I don't mind "you look nice" compliments ever.  I don't always consider "how much have you lost?" or some other form of quantity a true compliment-it's actually a very nosey question.

The thing is, when I was really sick I looked like warmed over He**, and people would still say "good for you, you're losing more weight." so now I have doubt about ANY compliments.

Hopefully the pendulum will continue to swing and we'll all be used to and able to accept compliments like "normal" people.