not ready but....
Sassy I am so sorry to hear your news. I have been praying for you and your family. I know that God will not give your more than you can bear even though it seems it is unbearable. In my opinion it is your husband's loss and one of these days he will wake up and know that whether he will admit it or not. He is taking the easy way out. You are going to be fine. You take care of yourself, eat and drink and don't forget your vitamins. You need to be strong and healthy for your kids as well as yourself. You have a lot of living to do and there are good things ahead for you.
By the way, I love your new avatar. Maybe he was feeling intimidated by your new beautiful you!!! You did this for you and your kids. You are healthier and happier for having done the WLS. Someone down the road is going to find a real gem in you!!! We're here for you and do care. (((HUGS)))
By the way, I love your new avatar. Maybe he was feeling intimidated by your new beautiful you!!! You did this for you and your kids. You are healthier and happier for having done the WLS. Someone down the road is going to find a real gem in you!!! We're here for you and do care. (((HUGS)))
This is the ride of my life.....what an amazing tool I now have!!!
Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement. I truely feel like today is my funeral! I also am hurting for his family, ALL of them are so against this but it is him that has to make the decision the rest of us just have to get through it. His own father isnt sleeping well and taking this very hard. I am so thankful that his family is so supporting to me and the kids. God will see me through I know this but its still hard! I didnt know a human had so many tears. I have certainly shed more then my fair share. One day at a time, and even though my kids are going to be so broken for a while I am glad that I have them, because regardless of what people do to me I always have there love!
I thought about packing his things for him thought maybe it would be easier but I decided the rat can pack his own things. He wants out he can do the work I am not going to do anything to make this easy on him and I can guarantee he will never forget me! I have said all i can say to the man, if he chooses to walk out on us for sure this evening its his loss and I will heal over time!
Now to keep repeating all this to myself all day long.. lol
Hugs to all
SSAASSY
I thought about packing his things for him thought maybe it would be easier but I decided the rat can pack his own things. He wants out he can do the work I am not going to do anything to make this easy on him and I can guarantee he will never forget me! I have said all i can say to the man, if he chooses to walk out on us for sure this evening its his loss and I will heal over time!
Now to keep repeating all this to myself all day long.. lol
Hugs to all
SSAASSY
Cindy,
Somehow through my hectic two weeks I missed your original post. I am so sorry to hear how things are going with your husband. I haven't been through that, but I know you are a very strong woman and you will get through this. He may go out and see how bad the "real" world is and come crawling back, begging your forgiveness. Take care of yourself, and your kids. God bless you, you and your family are in my prayers!
Hugs,
Marsha
Somehow through my hectic two weeks I missed your original post. I am so sorry to hear how things are going with your husband. I haven't been through that, but I know you are a very strong woman and you will get through this. He may go out and see how bad the "real" world is and come crawling back, begging your forgiveness. Take care of yourself, and your kids. God bless you, you and your family are in my prayers!
Hugs,
Marsha
34 lbs. lost before surgery on December 22, 2008. 105 lbs. lost prior to signing up for WLS.
Sassy, I am so very sorry you are having to bear this load. Your heart must be broken in two. Your children will be OK and you will find that they will be a great comfort to you. 2 years ago I had to sit down and tell my children 13 and 9 that their dad was dying. Miraculously, he pulled through, but for 2 months while he was on life support we didn't know what would happen. The kids were awesome during the ordeal and such a comfort to me. I am praying for your situation daily. Please take care of yourself so you don't get sick. If you can't eat, try to sip on some protein shakes and they will give you some energy.
We love you, girl!
We love you, girl!
Sassy!
I'm so sorry to hear he hasn't changed his mind! I can't even imagine how hard this is.
I feel so bad for you and your children! They don't always understand. But they have you to give them support and understanding! You have all of us!
You have my number if you want to talk!
Hugs
Kim J.!
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." Erma Bombeck
19 lbs lost before surgery
9/3/09 Full TT, MR, BL, BA, Arm Reduction and Lipo 10-12 lbs skin/fat removed
Kiddo dry those tears and let time do its thing. I read all the replies to you and I just have some things to say....
First of all we are women who dont need a man to make us happy stand up dust off your rear and throw his crap into trash bags like yesterdays trash. Yep its spring cleaning time so start with his crap...bag it up sit it in the garage or porch and say good riddens. This leaving wasnt something that just happened he has been planning it for awhile. So now you make plans..you said it was like a funeral so go through the motions of it being one...
I was told that alot of marriages end after WLS mainly because the loser has a new attitude and confidence..It seems like since you lost your weight he has found nick picking things to have a reason to leve when the real reason is inside of him mainly insecurity....so sweet cakes you cant change him and you cant beg his butt to come back. ANd dont you dare wait there patiently for him to come crawling on his knees.
Go ahead with your life make plans and be proactive...If he doesnt come over to tell the kids then you do it. They will see that Dad did nt care enough and you did.
Even if you feel like crying smile put on make up and pretend all is well cause it will be...
You are loved by your peeps here and we will be here for ya...
If it helps ya any I got a voodoo doll you can use and pretend its him....believe me sticking pins in it makes ya feel better..Plus you can go to an online site and have a voodoo doll with his name on it....
hugs to ya
First of all we are women who dont need a man to make us happy stand up dust off your rear and throw his crap into trash bags like yesterdays trash. Yep its spring cleaning time so start with his crap...bag it up sit it in the garage or porch and say good riddens. This leaving wasnt something that just happened he has been planning it for awhile. So now you make plans..you said it was like a funeral so go through the motions of it being one...
I was told that alot of marriages end after WLS mainly because the loser has a new attitude and confidence..It seems like since you lost your weight he has found nick picking things to have a reason to leve when the real reason is inside of him mainly insecurity....so sweet cakes you cant change him and you cant beg his butt to come back. ANd dont you dare wait there patiently for him to come crawling on his knees.
Go ahead with your life make plans and be proactive...If he doesnt come over to tell the kids then you do it. They will see that Dad did nt care enough and you did.
Even if you feel like crying smile put on make up and pretend all is well cause it will be...
You are loved by your peeps here and we will be here for ya...
If it helps ya any I got a voodoo doll you can use and pretend its him....believe me sticking pins in it makes ya feel better..Plus you can go to an online site and have a voodoo doll with his name on it....
hugs to ya
being healthy has its rewards....take the challenge and just do it
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