not ready but....

I haven't got a choice, looks like I am living the single life once again! My husband let me know this morning that he wasnt coming back and he wasnt going to change his mind. So frustrating cause all his complaints are so simple to fix but he would just rather walk away!

So here I go again...... On the flip side, I am TRYING to eat, and no not getting near enough, actually some days none but I have lost 12 pounds in the last 9 days. But I have got to get back into living again and getting in all my nutrition. So please pray for me and my family. I havent told the kids yet, I am hoping that he will be man enough to sit with me tomorrow evening to talk to them together so we will see. I am not looking forward to it cause the sun rises and sets with him in my oldest sons eyes!

Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers! I read all your replies and even cried. This is such a hard time right now for me. i love him with all my heart but just as you can lead a horse to water you cant make him drink.

Love to all
Ssaassy

My prayers are with you and your family.  I haven't been through what you are going through so I don't know what it feels like, but I have always believed that something good comes of everything, Good or Bad.  Hang in there, things will get better, maybe not anytime soon but they will.  By the way you look AWESOME!!!!       Rosielocks

Sassy,

I am sorry that things have gotten this far. I will keep you and the kids in my prayers and in my heart.

I'm so sorry for you because i know just how you feel inside right now. Just 5 and half years ago my husband of 12 years done the same thing to me. I just came home one day and he had his stuff already in his truck. My heart was broke and i had to tell my two kids they are 12 and 10 now, so they were much younger then. It took me 3 mo. before I found out he had a girlfriend and he had her for 6 mo while we was married. His friend told me but that did not change the fact that i loved him so much. But i moved on with my life and kids to tell you the truth i don't know if i would have made it with out them they always made me smile. So now i have re-married to a great guy and he loves my kids as if they were his own. So I think God has a plan for each of us. So girl keep your head up and remember you have always got friends here on OH and if you ever need someone to talk to I am really close to McAlester and i work there too . Good luck and God Bless you Arliene 

I'm so sorry to hear that he hasn't changed his mind and that you are going through this.  It makes it even harder when you have children that you know are going to be hurt too.  He owes it to his children to face them and tell them what is happening.  I pray that happens.

Please, please take care of yourself and start eating.  You will only compound your problems if you mistreat your body and end up in the hospital.  That's all you need right now!  So make sure you are drinking and getting in that protein.

Wish I could help you but all I can tell you is that we all care and I'm thinking of you and hoping you get through this and will be happy again some day very, very soon!

Hugs to you!

My heart breaks for you.  I am sorry for what you are going through.  I believe you are a strong and positive person and I believe in the end there will be good come of this.  I know you will be strong for your kids.  But when you have those lonely quiet momements I pray that God will be near and you will feel His love for you.

I'm so sorry that you are having to go thru this. Been there done that and it is not fun.I had to sit my 10 yr old son down and tell him his dad was leaving, so I feel your pain. I hope he steps up and you two can do it together.

First, you've got to take care of yourself.  I know it's hard, but you're body is not like it used to be and if you don't take care of yourself and end up having to go to the hospital, who's going to take care of your kids?

Second, God never gives us more than we can bear.  Your heart is broken right now and I know your feeling pretty low.  I pray that God will give you and your kids the comfort and peace that you need right now.  I have a saying that brings me a lot of comfort and believe me, I've been using it a lot here lately--Do your part and let God take care of the rest.

Your part is your kids and yourself right now.  Do your part and God will take care of the rest.

I'm here if you need an ear to cry on or if you can think of anything else that I might be able to help you with!

Jen

 

Cindy,

Im so sorry.  I will keep you all in prayers.  Please call or text me anytime you need someone to talk to.

Return to the land of the living and get your nutrition going.

Sometimes what seems to be just the worst possible thing does turn out to be a blessing in disguise.  If this door is closing, another one will open.  I know that's just one cliche after another, but there is truth in them. Having kids makes it even more complicated-but try to treat each other with respect and dignity, and show your kids how proper adults deal with things when they disagree.

I am sure the kids already know something is up-just be honest with the (as you can be without blaming) and if you are sad, admit that you are sad.  Show them that being sad isn't the end of the world.   Then, just for yourself, do one, quiet, spiteful thing and don't tell anyone.