The Biggest Loser and my emotions.

Last night The Biggest Loser was great, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this show.  I see everything that these people go through and the dedication that they have to losing the weight, and how hard they work for it.  The  show last night really made me feel like I took the easy way out.  All of them kept saying that anybody can lose the weight if they try hard enough and really want it.  It made me question if I had really tried hard enough to lose the weight before I had surgery.  Anyway I was in tears for about the first 45 min of the show, it was very emotional for me.  The rest of the night I was down on myself because I kept thinking that if i would have tried harder than I could have lost the weight on my own.  I haven't felt this way since surgery until now.  I don't know why I'm even posting this, but I just wanted to get some of my feelings out.  Sometimes I think that only people who have had this surgery will understand.    
Love to all,  Rosielocks

Spot on! Who else would understand.  I get that feeling sometimes too, but then I realize they have tools, just like I have my surgery as a tool for weightloss.  I mean, how realistic is it to think the weightloss will be sustained in the long term for these people.  No offense to them, I know they work hard, but when they get home there won't be a gym available 24/7, a great trainer to encourage them and the goal of $250K to motivate them.  I know Nicole did it at home by herself so she will probably keep it off, but you saw what one week of the stress and huge deviation from her routine at home did for her, she gained 5 lbs!
Anyway, don't feel alone and don't let it steal the joy and great health WLS has brought to your life.
P.S. I hope Kristin WINS!

I bawled a lot during the show too, and I KNOW they are really into the game right now, but come on, the last few minutes would have been appropriate if the girl was dying-not going home.  It's a reminder that we need to step back get perspective every now and then.

I was a little angry at the whole scene with the father, son and big son.  I know it wasn't "live" so I hoped they provided counseling for that poor kid-it was real, and hard to watch, but sometimes the things we need to see are hard.

Nerds to the easy way-as long as you get there ethically and morally, what else matters?  Bathing in the blood of virgins would be a no -no (at least for me) but WLS?  If you can get it, get it.

I was convinced for a few weeks that some fluke would happen and this wouldn't work for me-or that they didn't put a band in-because the truth is, believing that we will ever be a healthy weight is hard to come by.

WE ALL deserve to be heatlhy and happy-so get over the fact that you "let yourself go" and or "took the easy way out". Don't feel guilty for taking steps to improve your life, and don't make your efforts "less than" just because they are your efforts. 

Thanks mamacj and Debra for replying, I am feeling better about the whole thing because I realized that wls was what I had to do for myself, it doesn't matter what anybody else does to lose weight it is what you do for yourself that matters.  I do feel sorry for the brother, that is the part where I started crying and it was hard for me to stop.  I am hoping that he can get some help  I would like to see how everyone who has been on this show is doing now, are they maintaining the weight that they lost?  I hate to be pessimistic but I really doubt that they all have.  Anyway I hope that Kristin wins to, she has the most beautiful eyes and face, also from everything that I have seen of her she is just a beautiful person all around.  Tara would be my second choice then Mikey.  Thanks you all,  I always know that others who have had the surgery will understand.  Rosielocks 

Rosielocks,
I love that show..but I dont agree that we all can lose weight by dieting as they do on there. lets look at the show piece by piece those that try out are doing it for the money plus to lose weight..they fight struggle groan to get to be the last one standing. If we all had professional trainers like they do we could lose the weight also. But we dont. How many after the show have kept their weight off??and are continuing to maintain.
I dont think anyone of us took the easy way out. It took courage and yes guts to admit that we need a tool...A tool that will last a life time.
I dont think there is an easy way out when it comes to weight loss. Its all hard work....
hugs to ya

Oh gez! Last night's episode was really emotional for me too.  Mikey's brother had me sobbing after he was crying and saying he was the big one now, and how ashamed he was of himself.  I SO, SO relate.  Everyone in my family is normal weight.  I am the only one who took after my german grandfather.  We have so much love in my family, but I still felt ashamed everywhere I went, even around my family.  I can be alone in a room full of people.  Watching him go through that last night brought a flood of memories.  Only difference, if I had been him, I wouldn't have gone to see Mikey and been on the show, much less have a pic taken with the rest of the "now skinney" family.  I know we didn't take the easy way out having the WLS.  It was a hard decision.  Even though the contestants achieve amazing results, they are in that gym for like 8 hrs/day.  There is no way to maintain that type of lifestyle at home in the real world.   When Oprah had her show about her gaining some of her weight back two or three months ago, one of the winners of a Biggest Loser season was on after gaining most of his weight back.  Several of them go back to their old way of eating, because it's so ingrained (as we can attest).  If we could have lost the weight on our own, and kept it off, we wouldn't have really had a "problem".  Michael

Hi, Rosie.
Maybe you did take the easy way out, but how many people say, "I've got a problem. I think I'll take the hard way out of it"? Easy...hard...all we want is to get rid of the problem, as best we can. There's no shame in either way.
No regrets. Rejoice in the moment.
Blessings,
Mary

Rosie,
I've been thinking about this alot lately, because i've actually been accused of taking the "easy" way out by one of my best friends (who also had WLS but was considered a heavy weight, while i am technicly a lightweight) anyway, before I had considered WLS and did the research that I've done over the last year and a half, I looked at WLS as the "easy" way out too. But then I realized that for vast majority of people, myself included WLS is NOT the "easy way out" it's the "ONLY way out" I am so proud of the contestants on this show, they have done amazingly well, as they do every season. But I know that as a single working mom, I don't have the time or the resources to dedicate that much time to a work out program. And even if I did and stuck with it long enough to get the weight off, would it stay off? My past failures tell me no.

Rosie
I can so Relate!  The thing is the biggest loser is a TV show.  You have to remember that!  They have good advice and they have real results but the truth is that once these people get home and back to the real world some of their weight comes back.  I've heard Bob talk about it to the contestants.  It happens.  Their job, their ONLY job is to workout 8 hours a day.  They aren't living in the real world.  I LOVE the show and I watch it every season. 
As far as taking the easy way out...I'm not having such an easy time.  I am losing weight but I still worry every day.  Even with surgery there is no guarantee the weight won't come back.  I worry so much about that.  I still eat things I shouldn't.  I still follow my bad habits.   Its easy to say don't do that.  Its another to not do it.
I heard it said on another forum, one girl put it perfectly...She said that if you could win the lottery would you?  The person said of course.  She said that winning the lottery is the EASY way to becoming rich.  Makes sense to me.  But this surgery hasn't been easy for me at all.  I'm sure you have your own issues also, so stop kicking yourself and be proud of what you have accomplished.  I'm happy for you!
Hugs
Kim J.

If I had an income that could sustain me through months of extensive training and a nutritionist to watch my dieting and all the equipment they have and a harassing trainer....maybe I could do it too. They do NOTHING but this, for all these months! It is not a normal life.  That is why they have so many problems when they go back into the real world. It creeps back on slowly and then they suffer more shame for  "the national eyes" say they failed again. This is not the easy way out but people do view it as such....It is very hard mentally and emotionally to do what we have done. Our road is bumpy along the way but it is a road that I chose to be sure the weight won't come back , if I follow the path the doctor and Nuts have designed for me. It is an emotional show for we who have suffered the success and failures of weight loss. We can so relate to all of them and their pain. We did make a huge sacrafice to do these surgeries. We chose to change our lives for the better and we will too, have success. It still requires work outs and restraints from certain foods....It is, as theirs is, a long road to success, but it doesn't matter how we all get there.....It is just the end results. I look forward to the end results for all of us!! RosieLocks you are doing wonderful! Congratulations to you for your successes on this path!

Sherry