lost.....

Sassy, it's hard for me to say on one hand that I'm praying for you (and I am) and on the other hand that I'd like to whop that man upside the head with an old fashioned frying pan (I would).

For what it's worth, I agree with the bar agreement.  There are plenty of ways to get alone time with buddy's-and a bar isn't the place for that.

Midlife crisis is such a cliche-but it is a real thing.  Now that he has a hot wife, he's probably really confused about his role in the world....LOL.  

Problems are probably shared responsibility-remember that and don't you for one minute think it's YOUR fault.  If changes need to be made, then let both of you make changes.

Prayers going up right now-prayers for your comfort first and foremost, and then for a resolution to this problem that will enable you both to grow in wonderful and positive ways.