update on me and going crazy

Today while I was out working, I got a phone call from the OKC police department. Apparently the boy toy told my niece he didnt want her so she decided to cut herself. By doing so she won a trip to the Crisis Center. I decided not to see her or contact her. Until she is ready to see me. And I am going there tomorrow to see about having her commited for longer than 72 hours. There has got to be something wrong with her if she will cut herself over some loser.
Thank you all for your replies I truly appreciate it

I only have a cat so I'm not qualified to give you any advice!  But I'll be thinking about you and wishing for peace for your niece.  (and for you too!)

Thank you Kim!
before she came here all I had was a dog..I sure miss it just being him and me....

Good luck with your niece!  She is lucky to have you.

Pattye,

I am sorry that she is in a place in her life that she feels that she needs to do this, I lost a good friend to suicide attempts early this year and I hope that she is able to the help she obviously needs. Let me know if I can do anything to help.

Sarah

PS I am gathering you up quilting material for the baby quilts too.

Sarah,
She is  a cutter or so she claims whenever she can deal with something she cuts herself. I am going in a few minutes up there and tell her in front of the staff that she has to stop the drama and tressing me out or leave. I have had enough. Her dad is like I am sorry that this is happeneing but seems to leave it for me to deal with...

Sorry to here about your niece. I have been in you nieces place when I was 19 years old I had a boyfriend that really hurt me and I overdosed on a bunch of pills I won myself a trip to the ICU and a trip to the psych ward after 24 hours in the psych ward they released me to go home to my parents. I was back by the next weekend and placed on a 96 hour hold where weekend and holidys did not count. I wasn't up set over the boyfriend I had so many more underlying problems and the breack up was just the iceing on the cake. I had a long road ahead of me and it took along time to get better but with the help support and the love of my family I got threw it and was able to get married and have a wonderful family of my own. time and patients is the key word.

i could see her being upset if they had dated for a long time but she has only known him a few weeks...she has underlying problems but refuses to deal with them. I told her last night she needed help..her response was this place makes me more depressed...until she will ask for help and know she needs help I cant do anything.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this Pattye.  I had to handle a similar situation myself with a family memember about 3 years ago.  I thought the magic time in the Crisis Center (psch ward for her) was 72 hours but not so.  She ended up staying over a week for evaluation and help and then follow-up with psychologists.  It was the best thing ever for her.  She wouldn't tell you that at the time but will now.  Her breaking point was over a "man" as well.  No man would be worth that in my opinion but I haven't been there.  You can't do much about having her committed for longer since she is of legal age unless the doctors want her there.  If she mentions killing herself or wishes she was dead to one of them then that is an automatic extended stay.  Maybe this will be the beginning of an awakening for her.  I certainly hope so.  Life is too precious.  If she is a true drama queen and this was done for attention she still needs help.  It just might be time to buy her a bus ticket after her hospital stay and send her back home.  You don't need this either!  I'll be praying for you guys. (((HUGS)))

I cant understand doing something so stupid as cutting myself over a guy who is nothing...has no job  no car no place of his own. His reason for ending it was this...was the fact that I had been told where he was staying at, and took her by there. Plus his friend was placed in jail Tuesday and I looked up online as to why. he claims that is messing with his "family". So if thats messing I really hate to think what it would be if I take my famous louisville slugger and hit him with it....baattter up...
Seriously I wouldnt do that cause there is not enough lysol in Oklahoma to disinfect my bat.
Thanks so much for the thoughts and prayers