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My husband of almost ten years wants a big D and I am so hurt upset and betrayed. I love my husband and truely do not want a divorce but I can't seem to change his mind. He siad after the next 5 weeks are over and I am back to work he is leaving and will already have the divorce filled. I am so upset I have no idea what to do. I know I have been a very untrusting wife and have made his life hell these past ten years but I truly love him and want to work it out. if any one has advice please by all means let me know. I want to go to marriage counseling and have an apt monday at 11:15 but I don't think he will go. please any advice would help.

I am so sorry that you are going through this ...especially now!  I will pray for you both and your family.  I'll pray that he will be open to the counseling on Monday as well.  (((Hugs))) 

I am so sorry for your situation.  Go for the counseling session with or without him.  Hopefully, if he sees you getting the counseling you want (and probably need since you said you are an untrusting wife) he will choose to join you and work on your marriage.  Take care of yourself.

I don't know what to say.  I would be devastated if my hubby wanted a divorce.  All you can do is hang in there, go to counciling and try to be the wife he thinks we wants.  But don't lose yourself in the process.

I wish you much luck in turning this around.  Kim

OMG, I'm so sorry!  Definitely keep the appointment, with or without him. 

I'll come kick him in the gonads for you.  *hug*

What on earth made him think that this would be the best time to tell you?

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I will add you guys situation to my prayer list.

I am so sorry and am sending you a big hug.  The only advice I have is for you to go to the counseling appt even if he doesn't show.  I haven't gone througha divorce but I did go through an extremely traumatic event 14 years ago **** bombing) and counseling really made a difference.  I will pray he goes to the appt with you.

But, no matter what ----you are a beautiful lady inside and out and you will survive and even thrive (eventually) no matter what happens here so dont' think your happiness in the future is dependent 100% on him.

Im very sorry your having to go thru this. I have been there(my first husband walked away from a 10+ year marriage) and don't wi**** on anyone. Like the other ladies have said go to the counceling for yourself. And speaking from experience get the kids into counceling too.I know we don't know eachother, but if you need to talk Im always around to lend a shoulder.

you guys are all so wonderful and kind, I have been talking to him with a open heart the last hour and I think I might have got threw to him I can only hope. I have full intention on going to counseling with or with out him but I think he will go. I opened my heart and showed him everything something I am not known for I have an iron gate around it and don't show to much of my true feelings to him very often. I know that I have a lot of changes I have to do myself to be a better person, I have no trust in him, I am not a very good wife honsety I am not but I can't fix what needs to be changed untill I uncove what is triggering it. I know that I fliped out and lost it about a month after my son was born and it has done nothing but got worse every year since. I am gonna find out what caused me to snap and fix it. It will take a long time to prove to him he can trusdt me again and that I have really changed for real and really want to change.

Adding you and your situation to my prayers. Sounds like you made a good decision opening up to him. Good luck in the counseling.
Emily