i am going crazy

When she got her last paycheck from Braums which was only 137.00 after she had to pay over 152.00 in food she bought for her friends I made her giveme 110.00 for partial rent and money she borrowed. She could have made a few bucks yesterday if she would have come with me to work at a clients house she didnt want to get out of bed. So when it came to dinner...I went and got grilled chicken breast from KFC and ate it....didnt offer her a bite. My rule is simple you do not work you do not eat....she wants to hang out with her boy toy who is a loser he can go scrap up money to feed her.
I went today and bought all high protein stuff..stuff she wont even think about eatting...
She has till the tenth which is my birthday to have a job and be working or get out. ANd I really do not care which it is.
My brother is finished with  her and so is her brother... they both said what she has done to me is so uncalled for. Her own brother told me Aunt Kick her out and dont look back..she thinks she is grown let her see what grown is all about.

Well, good for you.  At least you can say you gave her a chance and it looks like she's blown that.  I'm glad you collected some money from her.  If she can afford to feed her friends she can afford to pay you for some housing and money she borrowed.  Life just isn't fair is it???  At least I'll bet that's what she's saying!!!  She might as well learn about that "no free ride" business. 

You are NOT being too harsh, Pattye. It's not easy having someone come to live with you, especially a young person. You need boundaries and ground rules. If something bugs either one of you, there should be immediate communication, so things don't build up. You are helping your neice by pushing her. When she's working, you can at least be assured of some peace and quiet while she's gone. Hang in there.
Blessings,
Mary

Mary,
I was the cool AUNT when they were young, I was the one that made cookies did the all the speical stuff for them..cause their Mom was out of the picture.So it bothers me that she is doing this.I dont let things build up..learned that a long time ago. I just want my little haven back....its not much but it was peaceful..only drama here then was what the tv had on it

As somone one who shares in this same generation as your niece (I'm 25) I have to say I don't understand it at all! Most of the people in my generation seem to have what I call an "entitlement complex" where they think they're entitled to have everything they want given to them on a silver platter. I'm a single mom, a homeowner, and a business professional yet I find that I only surround myself with people who are at least 10-20 years older than me because I feel that I can relate better to them. I'm sorry that your having this trouble with  your niece but I think your on just the right track, I don't think you deserve to be treated that way and YOU get to decide how to let others treat you. I say tell the niece that waiting till the 9th to get a job won't cut it either, tell her she'd better be earning money by then or find somewhere else to park it. As for the boy, he could probably use a good lecture on respect of one's self and of others as well!