Found ~ A new sense of vanity.
Ok I have never been a girlie girl even back as a teen I hated the whole make-up and such deal. So why am I now finding myself not only doing that but also becoming increasingly disturbed by my sagging fat and skin. I was a BIG girl and after 128 pounds gone and with more to go I see this HUGE Panni, bat wings and my thighs OMG they sag too. I know we are all going through so many changes but after the way I felt before and such it seems strange to me that I didnt have a problem being 400 pounds and my body being so big I really didnt realize I was and acted the same as I always have but I AM REALLY HAVING AN ISSUE with my deflated belly and such now. SO WHY THE NEW VANITY ATTACKS?
I think it's because of where we came from. We've lived with a negative body image for so long that we can't see any beauty even when a miracle is happening. I still see a very fat man when I look in the mirror despite what others say. Our own worst enemy is our own self image. It takes time for our minds to adapt to the new person we become. Look at the positive side-effects rather than the negatives.
Just remember: you are loved for who you are and not what you look like.
Just remember: you are loved for who you are and not what you look like.
Winne,
I so know what you mean about not seeing it has taken to where I am now for me to start seeing the loss when I look sometimes but like I said now I see instead the sagging. Well I know what my next therapy session will be about. I love my counsler she has been with me through alot and is enjoying watching my journey almost as much as I am traveling it.
You looked so good at dinner the other night. I can't wait to see everyone again soon.
Maybe one day I will truly see what others do, not my warped version, I see that is wearing the smaller clothes but in the mirror still looks like the same fat girl I was last year.
Yeah we so need to come up with a companion surgery that fixes our heads on the emotion hunger issues and the self image ones I know people would line up for it.
I so know what you mean about not seeing it has taken to where I am now for me to start seeing the loss when I look sometimes but like I said now I see instead the sagging. Well I know what my next therapy session will be about. I love my counsler she has been with me through alot and is enjoying watching my journey almost as much as I am traveling it.
You looked so good at dinner the other night. I can't wait to see everyone again soon.
Maybe one day I will truly see what others do, not my warped version, I see that is wearing the smaller clothes but in the mirror still looks like the same fat girl I was last year.
Yeah we so need to come up with a companion surgery that fixes our heads on the emotion hunger issues and the self image ones I know people would line up for it.
I KNOW exactly what you're talking about. I've been completely obsessed with my sagging panni area especially. That seems to be all I see when I look in the mirror. I am so thankful for my 174 pound weight loss but...I NEVER thought I'd even entertain the thought of any kind of plastics but I am now. My SIL had one done after her surgery and WL and I thought wow, how vain can you be??? Well, now I totally understand. One of these days our brains will catch up...I hope!!!
This is the ride of my life.....what an amazing tool I now have!!!
It is a fascinating conundrum. We are unhappy fat and then we are unhappy thin albeit with extra loose skin.
It takes so much courage and determination to take the path we have taken. We cannot go back. To say that the day of surgery is a rebirth is quite appropriate. We become a different person and we have to learn how to love ourselves again despite our newfound flaws.
My wife says it best; I love you, warts and all! Maybe we should all learn that this is the way that the ones that matter to us actually see us.
It takes so much courage and determination to take the path we have taken. We cannot go back. To say that the day of surgery is a rebirth is quite appropriate. We become a different person and we have to learn how to love ourselves again despite our newfound flaws.
My wife says it best; I love you, warts and all! Maybe we should all learn that this is the way that the ones that matter to us actually see us.
SARAH!!!!
i had wrote this long post to you and then decided to cut it out and just say this.
i put on a shirt today and saw how baggy my arms were...already know how bad my legs are. I thought I cant wear this....then I said WHOOOA! I got to thinking about how I looked at 476....and how I look today. I take my baggy skin my cottage cheese looking legs anyday over what i looked like before. I can wear sleeves that are longer I can wear capris If I choose so why let something as baggy skin bother you? Its just a form of finding fault with yourself SO STOP IT!
Sarah its time you look at those before pictures that you have in your head...remember the clothes you wore last spring summer what kind did you wear? Did you try to hide yourself?
So this summer you let that skin show and if someone says something JUST SMILE AND SAY this is my badge of honor..this is my glory to weight loss. AND if you dont like what you see then look else where. For I am proud of what i look like..and you should be too..then if they have an attitude just smile
i had wrote this long post to you and then decided to cut it out and just say this.
i put on a shirt today and saw how baggy my arms were...already know how bad my legs are. I thought I cant wear this....then I said WHOOOA! I got to thinking about how I looked at 476....and how I look today. I take my baggy skin my cottage cheese looking legs anyday over what i looked like before. I can wear sleeves that are longer I can wear capris If I choose so why let something as baggy skin bother you? Its just a form of finding fault with yourself SO STOP IT!
Sarah its time you look at those before pictures that you have in your head...remember the clothes you wore last spring summer what kind did you wear? Did you try to hide yourself?
So this summer you let that skin show and if someone says something JUST SMILE AND SAY this is my badge of honor..this is my glory to weight loss. AND if you dont like what you see then look else where. For I am proud of what i look like..and you should be too..then if they have an attitude just smile
being healthy has its rewards....take the challenge and just do it
It hasn't been anything anyone has said I am still getting the wows but like you said it is my own warped sense of self that I am battling. I just find it carzy that I didnt care before when I was 407 I wore my shorts and tank tops and even went swimming every chance I got and yes I wore a suit. That is why this new vanity attacks have really been bothering me. I guess I just am trying to find a way to be comfortable in my new skin. Thank You for helping me get my big girl drawers on everyone.
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