Am I having unrealistic expectations?

Before I had surgery the Dr. asked me what my goal weight was and I told him 140 lbs.  The Dr. didn't seem to think it was to low.  I am currently at 155 lbs and have been here for about 6 weeks I am doing everything short of starving myself to loose the last 15 lbs.  It is playing with me, one day I weigh 155 and the next I weigh 157 it is back and forth everyday.  It is driving me crazy.  My dad says that I don't need to lose anymore because it would be to much. I think he thinks I look sick.  But I sat a goal and I am determined to get to it.  I am disappointed with myself for the fact that I have lost 81 lbs and It doesn't seem to satisfy me.  I won't be satisfied until I reach my goal wt. My goal wt probably wont satisfy me either because in the back of my mind 130 lbs sounds better.  Anybody else go through this?  Rosielocks 

It is all in your perspective.  I would pee myself if I weighed 155 because that's only 5 pounds from my goal of 150 and I'm only 5'2".  So from my perspective,  yes, you are being too hard on yourself.  You should be proud of how well you have done and in such a short amount of time.  Your disappointment is another person's dream come true.  Don't lose sight of the real goal - how do you feel?  how much energy do you have?  how  much healthier are you?

I understand you want to get to your goal.  140 is my goal also.   You have lost a lot in a short time.  You can still lose the last 15 lbs.  You aren't a lost cause.  Now is the time to enjoy your success.  You have lost 81lbs.  You are looking amazing and feeling really good toooooo!  So, don't worry, be happy!!!  It'll happen.  Your body will adjust to where your ideal weight is.  Don't starve yourself.  You can shut down your metabolism.  Walk, eat 3 squares a day and a couple of snacks!  You will get that weight off.  Sometimes when it comes off so quickly in the beginning I would think that it would make those last few lbs seem like they will never come off.  I'm not speaking from experience.  So, keep this post and send it back to me in a few months!  LOL! 
you really look great!
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Kim J.

Thanks Glitter Gal, and Kim for replying, this is something I need to spend time in prayer about, I know it was God that made it possible for me to have the surgery, so that I could become healthier.  When I look back I can't believe how much weight I have lost, and how much better I feel, I know there is a lot I need to be thankfull for.  Thanks for listening.  Rosielocks 

Rosie, I think you look AWESOME, I know about the plateau and I know how frustrating it is but ultimately I am sooo happy with the success I have so far achieved. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Hang in there, one day at a time and just keep remembering your ultimate goal of being healthy and you achieved that!!!!!

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Ssaassy

I think your body may have some say in what your goal weight should be.  You have have found a weight that your body wants to maintain for a while.  Cut yourself some slack.  You have lost a tremendous amount of weight in a short time.  Let your body take a breather.

I don't know how tall you are.  140 may be too low or it could be just right.  Take a deep breath and enjoy where you are- you may or may not get to the "magic" number you have chosen.  If you are really emotionally distraught you may want to call Dr. Keller for a "tune-up".

You are considered a light weight so for you to have lost so much in a short time means your body is now going to hold on to what you are trying to lose. Some folks say you body is done losing while others would say you are on a plateau or a stall. What i sugges is simple...boost up the protein and water..change your exercise routine...in other words if you exercise first thing dont....switch up the way you exercise and RELAX.....the number is not what is important its how you feel....140 or 150 or 130 they are just numbers. ENJOY WHERE YOU ARE AT and where you have come from and then ask your self if you were back to your starting weight  157 sounded good to ya so time will allow the rest to come off just gve yourself a break..
BTW it might SHOCK your body but do a carb day....that will make it go HUH what is this whats going on....I do that every three months....affects of the carb day..freguent visits to the potty but my weight comes off again

You are looking wonderful!! The picture says so and I see the picture. The scales, like Patti said, are only numbers. I have a goal of 145 and really plan on going to 135...maybe. I will see once I hit my first goal...The goal too, is only a number that can change at any time that I feel I am happy where I am. I am enjoying this ride whether it is quick or slow...I know it is not going back where it was, so I am ok in letting my tummy do it's thing, at it's own pace. I go see the Doc tomorrow so I could change my mind about all this, but for now I am just following the rules and losing. That is what I wanted and that is what I am getting. Oh what a wonderful feeling too!

I have one question...You set a goal and are determined to get there, BUT what time frame did  you give yourself?? I have my goal, but I don't have a time frame so I can't stress out about not reaching it yet....If you didn't set a time frame then you have no reason to be dissapointed in yourself. If you are doing everything the way it is supposed to be done, then eventually it will get there. How do I know?? Take a look at all these girls who have lost so much....They are all losing consistantly, whether they hit a stall, or a body adjustment, it is what it is and what I see is that they are all losing weight....That is my real goal!!
Congratulations on losing the 81 lbs! Have you ever lost 81lbs in this short of time and kept it off??  I just think everyone on here is amazing!! They are all my hero's! You hang in there and quit kicking your own butt over this. You are looking HOT and I am jealous!!!

Sherry

Sherri i never did set a time frame for my weight to come off, I have thought about it since I posted my question, and for me to lose all this weight in 7 months is a miracle that I never would have been able to do on my own.  This last 15 lbs is just being stubborn but I know that it will come off in it's own time.  I just need to have more patience.  Rosielocks

Anybody else go through this?  Well, me, about a zillion times.

Goals are good, up to a point.  If it is driving you crazy, it's gotten past that point where it's a good thing.  Something else you write concerns me as well...."My goal wt probably won't satisfy me either because in the back of my mind, 130 pounds sounds better..."  That is a terribly dangerous mindset to get into.

WLS can become a form of bulemia or anorexia if those thought are allowed to take over, because the surgery enables us to successfully (if you can call it that) starve ourselves or purge.

So, back to me, I've been through it, about a zillion times.  Got down to 102 at one point (I'm 5'5") and have been as high as 272 that I know of.  And everywhere in between.  More than once.  So, I do know a little bit about obsessing with numbers.

And I also know about never being quite low enough-so one of the things I did this time to insure my success at maintaining and my health was to pick a size that I felt I could maintain without purging or starving.  I also went to the store and picked out a pair of pants in that size (while I was still much larger) and asked myself "would I be satisfied to be that size?  Would I tell a friend, honestly they looked fine in that size?"  For me, it's a 12-not a 12w, I wanted to shop in the misses section, that was important to me.

Now, and this still sends shivers up my spine, when I was flipping through the racks at the GW the other day, my eye caught a nice pair of 10's, and I did hold them up, and I did think...."maybe......"  Then I remembered where that path leads, and I put them back.

I don't know how tall you are or how you are built, and truly, it doesn't matter what I think.  But as you think about it, and what will make you truly happy, please be sure to include the phrase "I'll be at such and such a size-one that I can maintain healthfully and for the rest of my life"....because THAT is where true satisfaction lies.