Food -A rant

I think I am even LESS tolerant of food police than I've ever been.  When I was heavier, I took it as my "just desserts" or I could write if off as caring.  On a good day I can still do that, but most days it annoys the absolute snot out of me.  So much so that I get annoyed for being annoyed.  Then I choke on the things I'd like to say.   

My favorites I will now share with you, who will understand and forgive me.

-----WELL DA**, IF YOU'D TOLD ME THAT BEFORE I WOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO HAVE WLS.

----Really, I didn't know that!

---Who would have thought?

---Yes, I really DO want to eat this, and I'd really like to do it without discussing what I've eaten today or yesterday or my exercise plans for later because I want the cake, not your approval.  (This is partially my fault I suppose, I used to tell people that I couldn't eat certain things that I really could, just didn't want to eat at the time....)

---Stop smoking/drinking (insert any other vice the offender has) and I'll stop eating altogether.  Otherwise, shut up.

---Stop watching me eat.  (I'm going on two years of having the lapband, and my plate is still the center of attention sometimes). 

Thank goodness for my friend Deb!  This board had gotten way too quiet and a titch boring because of that!  Thanks for shaking things up!

And I'm with you all the way.....!

Love ya, my little rebel buddy- Ms Deb!  Thanks for voicing what most of us have thought.

Denise

Im so gonna have fun with this when it comes up for me...
I double dog dare ANYONE to say a thing about what I eat or how much or what my exercise plan is..... and they think in a "B" now!

Amen Deb.  or the lovley  "Why?" questions.  

I'll add one to that Deb....."how much weight have you lost now?"  I don't mind this question so much from very close friends, my support buddies or my immediate family but for a casual acquaintance to ask me that is when I want to say "I don't know but while on the topic how much did you say that you weighed?"  I just think at a certain point it is rude.  I'm proud of what I've done but if you're not in my shoes, haven't been in my shoes or just plain nosey....don't ask such personal questions!!! 

One of the reasons I didn't tell people that I had WLS was because I would get the constant question "how much have you lost now?" Before, I felt such pressure and if I didn't succeed I felt like I had to announce it because people are relentless. I know they are well meaning. For one lady I told her that I appreciate her concern but I feel such pressure.
I don't mind it when people say, "You sure are looking good."

When I worked in Dallas, I did Medifast and lost a bunch (like 8o pounds) of weight.  And the comments as I walked down the hall were relentless-it got so I didn't even really want to go to the bathroom because literally 3 people would have to say something about how I looked.  Needless to say, the gain back was all the more awful because of it.

But, one day, a gentleman that I had known for many years came up and out of the blue said "I just want to know how much weight you've lost and what you weigh now" and I gasped and said "I don't want to tell you that!" and we both laughed, but I didn't tell him.  Honestly, HOW RUDE.  And both of us are of an age where women don't tell their weight or their age to anyone....

This time, I've always just told people how much I've lost, or maybe just how much I've lost recently.  As I'm stabilizing out-I just say "oh, I haven't changed much at all lately" because having the neighbors (including my mother ) obsess over quarter pound increments is going to start up issues for me.  I just say "I'm staying within my range".

Without pointing fingers or assigning blame, I know that I had help along the way with my obsession with the scale and numbers and weight, it wasn't something I just wanted to happen.  When people really start pushing me now, I explain to them I used to be bulemic and I don't want to think that way any longer and that pretty much shuts them up.  (But annoys me that I have to go that far to get them to be quiet). 

Another one I seem to be getting lately after someone comments on the fact that I have lost weight is "but are you really feeling good?" Said with a look of grave concern and in a tone that would imply that I should be feeling awful because of what I have done to myself. It seems that you open yourself up to people who think they have every right in the world to get in your personal business.!