Warning! This post will mention "THE F-BOMB" slap in the face? maybe it's...
Peeps.....this thing is LONG....but it's worthwhile reading I would think....Spring is right around the corner..........
OK you inquisitive people.....I have pushed my weird point of view down to the depths for too long... it has re-emerged by channeling through others who touch my life....
Recently i had one of my first "Militant Low Carb" graduates throw the F-bomb at me. My feelings were hurt at first.... She was just as militant as I was about losing her weight and getting to where she felt sexy as hell...but there was a catch.....perception is not reality..... remember this!
She was STALLED big time for 8 months....heard about the diet...was a huge skeptic....then decided to contact me.....I helped...explained that if she didn't feel up to the challenge to not waste my time or hers..blah...blah...blah...then.... She followed it better than I did (to be honest..)...she wrote me every day when most of my girls, who are on the diet ,write every other day....
She lost an additional 108 pounds in just 4 months after already losing a lot of weight then stalling hard and trying everything else....BUT here's the kicker.... instead of being sexy....she lost her boobs (I can say that here right? boobs...yep I did it again...) and her husband of 8 years was out the door....and she was calling and send emails to the tune of "hey son-ova-%*$&" what the heck and dropping "THE F-BOMB"...I was like --->
. Well to make a long story short, they finished their divorce on Friday but she wrote me last night to tell me that I was the miracle in her life... She went on to say she has a new guy who loves her like she had never known love.
She is happy....skinny.....sexy....and feels 20 years younger....she credited my humor, my vision of belief in those who had no hope, and "weird assed" diet that worked when followed. (I saw a pic of her in a bikini and ooh lala...) Her apology was accepted and I'm more than happy that she was able to find her silver lining from her dark stormy clouds. I gotta admit out of every 100 people who try it, only 10 are strong enough to actually follow it for two months. But out of those, all are losing weight... I take every day to answer their emails...I try to never miss a one.... She thought that getting skinny is what her husband wanted and instead found something she wanted....her dignity....real love....self respect...and a new life. There are lots of people who don't like my approach...I don't really care... it only matters to the ones who have no where else to turn. I like hopelessness... it gives a great opportunity for those who have lost faith....in the person they want to be and the person who doesn't believe they can reinvent themselves.... Anyone can reinvent themselves and find happiness....
Perception is what stands in the way of the truth sometimes.... in my own weird way, I'll give you the example.... take your right hand, make a fist....hold it chest high in front of you......now with your left hand, insert you index finger into the fist just above the thumb....move it in and out...
Do this in a crowded room with no explanation, what do you have? A room full of people thinking you're just being rude. When in reality, you're just taking a finger and putting it into a fist. How do you perceive yourself? Where is your goal in your journey? What slap in the face will you need to wake up and look at the picture that's in front of all of us.... age isn't just a number...it's reality... I do keep making bad choices....but at least I'm old enough that I learn from them.....for those who don't want to believe that your goal is unreachable....I'm not here to judge... I hope you change your path.... for those who want to live every day like it's your last.....climb on board... it's ok to let the others know that you're not afraid to think differently....I'm judged daily on my thoughts....i don't give a flying "F-Bomb"..... I have love in my heart for EVERY single one of the fat people out there who just wanna live.... Live everyday like tomorrow's not gonna be there.....If you love God, then honor the gift you've been given an don't be afraid to risk everything in order to get what you want and show God that his gift to you wasn't wasted..... you CHOSE to live life filled with no regrets and excitement because one day you will be old and unable to reach those same peaks he gave you the means to reach. When St Peter has the book of my deeds, he's gonna look me in the face and say....Dayum, you were a bad boy... but you took the adventurous path to enjoy your life and you tried to not waste a single drop of life while you had it. So say a ton of Hail Mary's and "our Father's" and get outta here... Anyone here really think God wants us to just "settle" for what life has to offer? Think about your youth and the tools he gave us....flexibility, strong bones, adventurous thoughts, able fun kick-ass bodies just to climb the challenges of the Earth....what did you do with those bodies?
Some of you enjoyed the heck out of them while others of you want to "re-live" your youth to be able to do it all over again....and resent not doing it... just think....you've got time...right now...why aren't you doing it? don't have love? Why aren't you getting it? People want adventurous souls. We don't want boredom and to settle for what comes along....some of us have settled...and look at what we have a bucketful of regret...heartache...pain... how to change it? Refocus... judge everyday... evaluate the possibilities... for me...it's travel...fun, and frivolity... is it easy to pack up one's life and just leave for the sake of launching an Adventure in piracy and fun? No.... do I regret it? No...although I do miss a good taco.... My new life goal is to make Europe my next stop before I get a bit older.... (so in 5 years I want to be in South France or Switzerland).... Easy? OMG no... fun and am I gonna feel free and liberated? The soul says yes....new possibilities.... and yes...I have a life that I must sacrifice in order to reinvent myself in a new surrounding....life will go on...and challenges must be faced...
Don't be afraid to change the perception others may have about you.....or the perception of yourself and your limitations....If you don't want people to judge the book by it's cover, then be different enough to change the stories within the cover where people will find a deep human being... maybe inspire a few others a long the way...
I shall not be the old man in the rocker wondering why I didn't do something that I really wanted to....I shall not regret my life, only the chances that i was unable to face when I had the opportunity. I think God is happy that He made me different enough to face the challenges of life...sure I'm a sinner... just like every version of "Adam" before me.... damn Eve and those good looking apple thingies.... boobs...i said it again....
Eat my shorts...
T.
OK you inquisitive people.....I have pushed my weird point of view down to the depths for too long... it has re-emerged by channeling through others who touch my life....
Recently i had one of my first "Militant Low Carb" graduates throw the F-bomb at me. My feelings were hurt at first.... She was just as militant as I was about losing her weight and getting to where she felt sexy as hell...but there was a catch.....perception is not reality..... remember this!
She was STALLED big time for 8 months....heard about the diet...was a huge skeptic....then decided to contact me.....I helped...explained that if she didn't feel up to the challenge to not waste my time or hers..blah...blah...blah...then.... She followed it better than I did (to be honest..)...she wrote me every day when most of my girls, who are on the diet ,write every other day....
She lost an additional 108 pounds in just 4 months after already losing a lot of weight then stalling hard and trying everything else....BUT here's the kicker.... instead of being sexy....she lost her boobs (I can say that here right? boobs...yep I did it again...) and her husband of 8 years was out the door....and she was calling and send emails to the tune of "hey son-ova-%*$&" what the heck and dropping "THE F-BOMB"...I was like --->
. Well to make a long story short, they finished their divorce on Friday but she wrote me last night to tell me that I was the miracle in her life... She went on to say she has a new guy who loves her like she had never known love. She is happy....skinny.....sexy....and feels 20 years younger....she credited my humor, my vision of belief in those who had no hope, and "weird assed" diet that worked when followed. (I saw a pic of her in a bikini and ooh lala...) Her apology was accepted and I'm more than happy that she was able to find her silver lining from her dark stormy clouds. I gotta admit out of every 100 people who try it, only 10 are strong enough to actually follow it for two months. But out of those, all are losing weight... I take every day to answer their emails...I try to never miss a one.... She thought that getting skinny is what her husband wanted and instead found something she wanted....her dignity....real love....self respect...and a new life. There are lots of people who don't like my approach...I don't really care... it only matters to the ones who have no where else to turn. I like hopelessness... it gives a great opportunity for those who have lost faith....in the person they want to be and the person who doesn't believe they can reinvent themselves.... Anyone can reinvent themselves and find happiness....
Perception is what stands in the way of the truth sometimes.... in my own weird way, I'll give you the example.... take your right hand, make a fist....hold it chest high in front of you......now with your left hand, insert you index finger into the fist just above the thumb....move it in and out...
Do this in a crowded room with no explanation, what do you have? A room full of people thinking you're just being rude. When in reality, you're just taking a finger and putting it into a fist. How do you perceive yourself? Where is your goal in your journey? What slap in the face will you need to wake up and look at the picture that's in front of all of us.... age isn't just a number...it's reality... I do keep making bad choices....but at least I'm old enough that I learn from them.....for those who don't want to believe that your goal is unreachable....I'm not here to judge... I hope you change your path.... for those who want to live every day like it's your last.....climb on board... it's ok to let the others know that you're not afraid to think differently....I'm judged daily on my thoughts....i don't give a flying "F-Bomb"..... I have love in my heart for EVERY single one of the fat people out there who just wanna live.... Live everyday like tomorrow's not gonna be there.....If you love God, then honor the gift you've been given an don't be afraid to risk everything in order to get what you want and show God that his gift to you wasn't wasted..... you CHOSE to live life filled with no regrets and excitement because one day you will be old and unable to reach those same peaks he gave you the means to reach. When St Peter has the book of my deeds, he's gonna look me in the face and say....Dayum, you were a bad boy... but you took the adventurous path to enjoy your life and you tried to not waste a single drop of life while you had it. So say a ton of Hail Mary's and "our Father's" and get outta here... Anyone here really think God wants us to just "settle" for what life has to offer? Think about your youth and the tools he gave us....flexibility, strong bones, adventurous thoughts, able fun kick-ass bodies just to climb the challenges of the Earth....what did you do with those bodies?
Some of you enjoyed the heck out of them while others of you want to "re-live" your youth to be able to do it all over again....and resent not doing it... just think....you've got time...right now...why aren't you doing it? don't have love? Why aren't you getting it? People want adventurous souls. We don't want boredom and to settle for what comes along....some of us have settled...and look at what we have a bucketful of regret...heartache...pain... how to change it? Refocus... judge everyday... evaluate the possibilities... for me...it's travel...fun, and frivolity... is it easy to pack up one's life and just leave for the sake of launching an Adventure in piracy and fun? No.... do I regret it? No...although I do miss a good taco.... My new life goal is to make Europe my next stop before I get a bit older.... (so in 5 years I want to be in South France or Switzerland).... Easy? OMG no... fun and am I gonna feel free and liberated? The soul says yes....new possibilities.... and yes...I have a life that I must sacrifice in order to reinvent myself in a new surrounding....life will go on...and challenges must be faced...
Don't be afraid to change the perception others may have about you.....or the perception of yourself and your limitations....If you don't want people to judge the book by it's cover, then be different enough to change the stories within the cover where people will find a deep human being... maybe inspire a few others a long the way...
I shall not be the old man in the rocker wondering why I didn't do something that I really wanted to....I shall not regret my life, only the chances that i was unable to face when I had the opportunity. I think God is happy that He made me different enough to face the challenges of life...sure I'm a sinner... just like every version of "Adam" before me.... damn Eve and those good looking apple thingies.... boobs...i said it again....
Eat my shorts...
T.
T:
How do you KNOW when it's time for down to the nitty gritty love kicking you in the gut honesty? I needed this post right now. I am struggling and stumped how to get out of it. (i.e. the pm you have not answered!) I think I have gotten complacent about my food, my goals, my life in general and need a good kick in the pants!
I keep telling myself it is time to get it together, then I have a minor/major setback and boom I never do it. Its all fun sometimes and I love all my friends with no reservation, but sometimes I just need more!! Of course, sometimes I also just want to sit and be...but THAT isn't what its cracked up to be either! I know it is a scary world out there - who would have thunk that at MY age I would still be searching for Mr. Right!!! I haven't yet to accomplish the things I want, am I further than I was a year ago - HECK yes! Do I still have things to do? Heck yes!
So I am initially trying to slough off my carb addiction - cutting back and hopefully almost away! I have an appointment with my dietitian next week, I can start exercising again as well (GB surgery and laziness setback!) and hopefully this will start dropping off the last 20-30 lbs I still have to reach goal.
There are some more spiritual things I am still planning on persuing as well. I just have to work it out. Now, if Mr. Right would stop in front of me and introduce himself, it would certainly be less work for me!! (wink)
Love ya like my liquid Lortab (sigh its all gone!) Ruth
How do you KNOW when it's time for down to the nitty gritty love kicking you in the gut honesty? I needed this post right now. I am struggling and stumped how to get out of it. (i.e. the pm you have not answered!) I think I have gotten complacent about my food, my goals, my life in general and need a good kick in the pants!
I keep telling myself it is time to get it together, then I have a minor/major setback and boom I never do it. Its all fun sometimes and I love all my friends with no reservation, but sometimes I just need more!! Of course, sometimes I also just want to sit and be...but THAT isn't what its cracked up to be either! I know it is a scary world out there - who would have thunk that at MY age I would still be searching for Mr. Right!!! I haven't yet to accomplish the things I want, am I further than I was a year ago - HECK yes! Do I still have things to do? Heck yes!
So I am initially trying to slough off my carb addiction - cutting back and hopefully almost away! I have an appointment with my dietitian next week, I can start exercising again as well (GB surgery and laziness setback!) and hopefully this will start dropping off the last 20-30 lbs I still have to reach goal.
There are some more spiritual things I am still planning on persuing as well. I just have to work it out. Now, if Mr. Right would stop in front of me and introduce himself, it would certainly be less work for me!! (wink)
Love ya like my liquid Lortab (sigh its all gone!) Ruth
350/326/173current/159goal
Certified OH Support Group Leader
COURAGE IS NOT THE ABSENCE OF FEAR BUT RATHER
THE ABILITY TO CONTINUE IN THE PRESENCE OF FEAR.
T-
You don't expect these very smart ladies (and gentlemen) to believe that you would ever be an old man (sitting still) in a rocker do you? I mean we know you don't age...I think it is some agreement you already made with the MAN upstairs...
So many times we (women especially) only see what is right in front of our face. The person standing right there...the job that maybe isn't exactly what we want to be doing...exactly the right body size...We settle (sorry ladies if you feel like I am calling us out)... We forget to set goals...BUT there are some of us that look for that true love, that adventure, that do not settle...I feel like I can put myself in that group. I will never settle, in any sense of the word. In life, in work, in learning, in excitement, in adventure and especially in love.
My dear T, I must also be someone that tells you thank you for the thought provoking post. Reminding us that we need to make sure that we are living our life to the fullest, not letting things like perception rule our lives and dictate our direction. I know that if I would have done that in certain arenas in my life, I would have been in a very different place than I am today...I have no regrets, as I believe that regrets are a waste of valuable time. Looking to my future suits me much better. Life is so amazing right now...Everything is as it should be...I impatiently wait for the next step...next adventure!
Thanks again!
You don't expect these very smart ladies (and gentlemen) to believe that you would ever be an old man (sitting still) in a rocker do you? I mean we know you don't age...I think it is some agreement you already made with the MAN upstairs...
So many times we (women especially) only see what is right in front of our face. The person standing right there...the job that maybe isn't exactly what we want to be doing...exactly the right body size...We settle (sorry ladies if you feel like I am calling us out)... We forget to set goals...BUT there are some of us that look for that true love, that adventure, that do not settle...I feel like I can put myself in that group. I will never settle, in any sense of the word. In life, in work, in learning, in excitement, in adventure and especially in love.
My dear T, I must also be someone that tells you thank you for the thought provoking post. Reminding us that we need to make sure that we are living our life to the fullest, not letting things like perception rule our lives and dictate our direction. I know that if I would have done that in certain arenas in my life, I would have been in a very different place than I am today...I have no regrets, as I believe that regrets are a waste of valuable time. Looking to my future suits me much better. Life is so amazing right now...Everything is as it should be...I impatiently wait for the next step...next adventure!
Thanks again!
I also do not want to live my life with any regrets. I almost died 14 years ago and every day is a second chance to me. I am battling that dang carb addicitiona gain. I appreciate your constant encouragement to stay low carb. Last week i spent some time researching a bunch of your past posts on the recipe forum. Randy and I just got back in town and are headed to get ingredients to make the crockpot ribs. I hope I can find that blackstrap molasses! LOL! Anyway, thanks for sharing the encouraging story. Now is the time for all of us to turn things around. The key is to never ever ever ever give up. I am preaching to myself that same message.
190 lbs lost
VSG 07/2008
lower body lift 10/2010
upper body lift 11/2011
T,
Awesome message! I do intend to live my life to the fullest, and live the childhood I really never had. There are things I want to do, and I'm going to do it! Thanks again for a much needed message on my part.
Hugs,
Marsha
Awesome message! I do intend to live my life to the fullest, and live the childhood I really never had. There are things I want to do, and I'm going to do it! Thanks again for a much needed message on my part.
Hugs,
Marsha
34 lbs. lost before surgery on December 22, 2008. 105 lbs. lost prior to signing up for WLS.
Are you kidding? I was reborn on 3/2/2009! This is Jay 2.0 and I fully intend to live life like I never have before! Everyone should take T's advice and learn from his example!
We are here to inspire each other to be more than we are. As WLS patients, we can be bigger than life without being bigger than life.
Thank you for offering your strength and perseverence to others that may need it to move forward.
We are here to inspire each other to be more than we are. As WLS patients, we can be bigger than life without being bigger than life.
Thank you for offering your strength and perseverence to others that may need it to move forward.
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