Time to Change

Okay I love the doctors 10 times over, but I am at my witts end with the both of them. I just want to feel like I did the day before surgery. Is that so much to ask for? Not that I do not want the surgery but seriously guys. I do not blame them for anything that has happened but its like talking into a wall. Everytime I tell them and do mean them something they give me some generic answer and the last time they made me feel like it was in my head. My pneumonia hasnt gotten better and my blood pressure is extremely high I have no idea what is wrong with me. But the part that really ****** me off, is not once from ALL the times they have missed or over looked something or think things where better off than they where I never got I am sorry. It doesnt matter if they mean it just a Sorry I did not catch that, sorry you feel like crap, sorry you have to come see me twice  month, sorry that i have to keep putting you in the hospital. So where do I go? Do I go to my second pick for my surgery and hope they believe me and help me.Or do I stick with a group of people that half the time dont believe me and think its all in my head, until I am so bad where they have no choice but to listen. What to do????

I am really sorry for what you are going through.  If you have someone else that can see you, it might not hurt to get a second opinion. 

I wish I had some fabulous words of wisdom for you.  But I don't.  I know you're in knowledgable hands with B and W but I don't know why they can't fix you.  I am so sorry for what you are going through.  It really isn't supposed to be like this!  I'm concerned at the thought of you going elsewhere because surgeons don't usually want to take a patient they didn't do surgery on.  The surgeon that actually "tip-toed through your tulips" should know your case better than anyone else.  But I feel bad telling you to just "hang in there" since that's exactly what you have been doing.

Do you have a primary care physician?  Although after typing that, I'm not sure that would do any good since they aren't well versed in RNY complications.

I care about what is happening to you and so wish I could fix it.  I'll say another prayer for you and hope that you feel better quick.  (((HUGS)))

My PCP is awesome he sees me every other week that I am not at WW. He has become knowledgeable about RYN, but he says I need to go back to my surgeon. I don't want to leave but I really have no idea what else to do minus vomit blood on their damn shoes or something and be like...see...help me now. which with my luck they will stick me in the hospital for another 2 weeks.

Are you vomiting blood??????????

Not as much as before but enough to where I know its SO not normal. I figured now it was the pneumonia but who knows m body seriously hates me right now. Before I figured it was comin from the ulcer now it is coming from my lungs but hell IDK. I think I am going to stop my masters in social work and just go to med school. In 6 years come back and slap the hell out of both of them.

Vomiting blood is frightening!  I'm not smart enough to know what you should do.  Do you have an appointment with Dr. W this week?

no I saw him 2 weeks ago and he said come back and see him in a month. I do have the ultrasound and upper gi in the morning. I dont think we are going to need to do the upper gi since i found out about the blood clot and everything. IDK anymore I just come back when they tell me too and call at 3am if i really need it.

I may step on toes here but  vomiting blood is NOT normal in anyway and if you feel you need to talk to another surgeon please do what you feel you need to for your health. At least call and talk to WW againa nd tell them you are not getting better and you are vomiting blood.

My opinion is this: Walk in there and tell them you are not leaving until something is found one way or the other. You have hired them to be your surgeons and you are going to demand they get to the bottom of this. I know it's not the best way to have to deal with it, but they have backed you into a corner and you need answers and NOW!
Ok that is just my small opinion, but that is how I would be feeling right now so I thought I'd pass it on.....oh and sorry is not a good thing when you still aren't getting answers.
I am sorry that you are going through this and more than that, I am sorry to hear that you too had my Doctor and that it could be me in your place! It could be any of us and after care is just as important as preop and sugery care. Maybe even more so!  They need to realize too that you sure aren't going to recommend anyone who is treating you like this! I know I wouldn't and that is not good for their reputation.
I truely am sorry Stef that you are going through so much and yet have maintained such a positive attitude through it all. You are a remarkable lady and do deserve to feel better. I am praying for you and I know that doesn't seem like much help really, but it can work wonders at times so maybe it will just give the doctors wisdom or something.  Hang in there and be strong!

Sherry