OT but in MUCH need of support

well here comes the blunt spoken voice...
when i got to my sister's in NC she acted like she couldnt stadn me being there...her attitude was just nasty. When her daughter came over I was enlightened by her telling me that her MOM was jealous of my weight loss and that I was smaller than her.
I only stayed there one night and moved on.
So with being said I will say this...Tell dear old dad that you can not be banned from the family since you are already born and if his precious 46 year old daughter would quit sucking Mommies tit she just might be come a grown adult... Sis has serious issues and none are your fault it seems she suffers from an extreme case of apron string appendage. So dear friend tell the folks back east to kiss your skinny a$$ and if they want you they know where you can be found. Dont let this petty crap make you sad be a better person and just ignore it all. Sis may have a fancy wedding etc..but will she have the marriage and family you have..NOT cause how can she have anything when she is too busy kissing a$$.
btw I would be happy to adopt you AS  my older sis....

I was so waiting on your well controlled words to come forth! LOL!!!
I knew no one could say it quite like you.
My next response was going to be......Don't go... but you said the words I would have withheld, but that I totally agree with!
I would not make myself miserable by going to a wedding where you and your family weren't welcome anyway....They don't seem to care so......Should we send Patti up there to handle this for you??
Nancy, I know it is hard....I don't want to minimize that at all. I know how awful it must be for you right now and I am just so sorry...We love you here and sometimes this family will just have to be enough for a time...

Great big hug!
Sherry

You SO hit the nail on the head! My highest weight was 288 and my sister weighs WAY more than that so I know jealousy is a big part of it. She was the only one who never said a word about my weight loss when I arrived. And my dad encourages the apron strings. My sister has never paid a bill in her life except her own credit card bills and even then my dad paid them off TWICE to get her out of debt. Why do you even need credit cards when you have never paid rent, a mortgage, utility bills, or even bought a loaf of bread yourself? She has a good jos and could easliy pay cash for everything with no bills!
The things I witnessed over the week -- I could go on and on! I am taking bets on how long the marriage lasts! She will NEVER have what I have! My husband and I had been having problems but this incident put a whole new light on our marriage. Notice I said HAD -- I guess I can thank them for that as I know what I have is real and forever. My kids are not perfect and I am not perfect but I would never speak to my kids the way my dad spoke to me.

Thank you everyone for your support!  

sweetie what you have is one hundred million precent better...cause it is real. a marriage that does not have some bumps has bigger problems than are revealed or admitted to...
Like I said dont call them let them call you....
hugs to ya

Yes you have something real and with a real man, she intends to live there after marriage what kind of man allows his wife to be to want to stay living in her parents house.

I have aHUGE extended family and well I will be honest most of the time the "family" I have been gifted by good fotune is so much more loved and real to me than alot of the flesh and blood versions. So hold dea rto those you love and that love you and make them the family that you want they will be more loyal. I am glad you stuck up for your kids and hubby  they are lucky to have you.

I am so sorry to read this post!  I don't know your family history but it sounds to me like there is some major jealousy going on here.  Why people just can't be happy for other's success with weight loss I will never understand.

From what I have seen of your family, you seem close and happy and you are so fortunate to have that.  So hold fast to that.

Your sister is twisted.   Sorry but it's true.  What kind of "wife" would live with her parents?

I say, save your money and let her "celebrate" her dysfunctional nuptials on her own!  (wow!  I'm a hag!)

Why would they NOT want to live with my dad -- the house is paid for and he pays for everything. Supposedly they are supposed to take over the bills when they get married but I doubt my dad will follow through with that. Her future husband is TIGHT with money so he just sees that much more he can put in his bank account.
I met his kids -- one who is the rudest 20 year old I have ever met! My DIL is 20 and we are good friends and she even told me when we were there how much she liked doing things with me -- one of the high lights of my trip.
Oh I could go on and on!

After going through s....I mean, stuff, like this, I only have 2 suggestions:
1.  You have to take care of yourself first.  If being around toxic people is bad for your mental health, you have to detach from them.  But that said, no need to have a tantrum and raise the drama--just quietly but firmly detach.  And then--
2.  Pray for them.  At first I felt so hypocritical that I was afraid I would be struck by lightning in my bed!  But, surprisingly, after a while, I meant it.  At least you don't have to be part of any gamesmanship they are into--and maybe after a while, they will start acting right.
(As I write this, it reminds me of dog training.  You know, positive reinforcement when they act good, ignore them if they act ugly.  Maybe suitable for the b.....I mean, sister.)
Hang in there.