My first negative comments from friends

Marsha you chose what was right for YOU.  YOU had to make that choice, not her.  YOU live with your new pouch daily.  YOU deal with the ups and downs and ins and outs of YOUR decisions.  Do YOU see where I am going with this hun?

I have been blessed with friends who comment how great I look and how proud they are of me.  I DARE someone to say something bad about me.  They don't know what I went through, hell some of what I STILL go through.  I did this to save my life and make my life better.  If people cannot accept that they can kiss my shrinking ass.

I think what gets me is when I tell someone that hasn't seen me in a long time that I had the surgery (after they have freaked out at my change and asked me what I am doing) and I get this overly concerned expression and then "Oh.  Are you feeling okay".  And then they look at me different after that.  Usually it is the older folks.  I think the younger generation is much more accepting. 

I THINK THAT PEOPLE ALWAYS THINK THAT WHAT THEY HAVE HAD DONE IS WHAT EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE. IF SOMEONE WERE TO ASK ME WHAT KIND OF SURGERY SHOULD I HAVE MY RESPONSE WOULD BE THAT MY SURGERY IS THE ONLY WAY TO GO AND MY DOCTOR IS THE ONLY ONE THAT SHOULD DO IT. I KNOW THAT IS NOT THE WAY IT SHOULD BE BUT WE THINK WE ARE RIGHT ALL THE TIME!! ANYWAY DON'T LET THIS ONE PERSON RUIN WHAT YOU ARE WORKING FOR. GET OUT THERE AND LOSE ALL THE WEIGHT YOU WANT AND THEN TAKE YOUR SKINNY BUTT AND RUB IT IN HER FACE!! LOL! I'M KIDDING ABOUT ACTUALLY RUBBING IT IN HER FACE BUT STICK YOUR TONGUE OUT AT HER AND BLOW!! GOOD LUCK AND KEEP YOUR CHIN UP.

Hi Marsha,

I'm sure you will do just great.  We cannot please everyone and that's ok.  We need to do what is right for ourselves whether people approve or not.   

I hear with the RNY is much better than the lap band.  I am planning to get a revision from the lap band to the RNY.  With the lap band I have only lost about 17 lbs and then gained 13 lbs back. I have a good friend of mine tell me that she thought I was too impatient and that I should wait on the Lord and work with the band, before I go and get another operation.   She didnt agree with me getting the lap band last year, either.  She was worried about me, like any good friend would be.  I believe she is my friend and loves me alot.  I know that there are concerns about every operation.  She finally was supportive with me when I decided to get the had the lap band surgery in April 08. 

I have researched and hear that Dr. Luis Gorospe, in Tulsa, Ok is an excellent RNY surgeon, my first appointment is this Friday Jan 23, 09.  I'm excited to get the process started.  I know that Lord knows what is going on with me, I'm weak and don't have much will power, I want results so this is my decision, I have peace about it. 

         

well here is my 2 cents worth... hold on i had to check and make sure i have 2 cents...
her shocking comment was made due to stupidity a lack of tack and lets just say school yard immaturity.
i was told by my brother to have the lap band less complicatons etc...this is coming froma guy that has not turned down a chocolate chip cookie he has ever seen...
as I use to tell people I trained in customer service...when someone yells at you and cusses you out...instead of getting on their level..just....smile and say with a sweet demure thank you and have a blessed day...

Don't let it get you down. Be proud of yourself and chalk it up to jealousy, anger, and general stupidity.  It was your choice and yours alone to make.