weird feelings about the opposite sex noticing me

Hi, Sher.
It is what it is, as they say. I must work through the pain, and I am determined to do so. It's one of those refined-by-fire trials, I think. Thanks for your words.
Blessings,
Mary

You know, I had not even thought about my husband.  But you are right, I am glad I don't have those feelings towards him.  I am so fortunate because even though I was a size 9 when he met me, he has never brought the weight issue up and has always loved me and at least acted like he was attracted to me no matter what.   But if he would have ever, well been honest, and told me that it bothered him, I think I would be having some anger issues right about now!  I think what you are feeling is completely normal for what has transpired between you too.  I will pray that God heals this area in your marriage.  But I think you are right...you have to start somewhere and have faith that He will do the rest.

Hi, Amy.
I think that part of my anger is because I wish my husband had been honest with me much earlier...200 lbs. earlier. You know? When it would have seemed more possible to turn this around. Having said that, I know that with God, all things are possible. I have such a feeling of being pulled in 2 directions: 1) God can cause this all to work out, and 2) My desire to get the weight off and say, "Forget you!" (which I would never do--at least, I don't think so).
Thank you for your words.
Blessings,
Mary

I'm glad all of you shared your stories-they really hit home.  I have noticed lately that everyone, store clerks, etc. suddenly want to visit, etc. male or female-I'm no longer invisible.  Actually the first time I noticed it I was in the airport and people watching away and someone smiled and made eye contact and I realized they were watching ME.......aaaaaagh.  Freaked me out.  I think I posted about it.

But the thing is, we are NOT the same people-NO one is the same person they were a year ago or ten years ago-we all change over time.  And the men that I used to drool over are not the same men who attract me now and 10 years from now I may want something else entirely.  (boy, if that happens I better not be married)

And, for just a fling, I'd much rather have Brad Pit than John Candy (sorry if he's dead I can't remember) and if that makes me shallow, so be it, cause I'm not really going to fling with either of them.

One thing I do try to do is locate people who are still "invisible" and visit with them, because I think if we start to value everybody, maybe they will start to value themselves.

Mary-if I may be so bold, maybe neither of you, you OR your husband, has anything to forgive.  The past just was, and its up to you to decide what the future holds. 

I like what you said about finding people that are "invisible" and making it a point to pay attention to them.  I'm going to committ to doing that myself.  That is an excellent point.

Hi, Debra.
You may always "be so bold." I'll think about what you said. Thank you. :)
Blessings,
Mary

I have noticed a difference to a degree already but I hve to wonder if it is the confidence or the fact I yell hey look at me. In some respects I have difficultly relating to the comments about being invisible I was always a Spotlight girl. LOL!  My dad has always said I could make friends with a rattlesnake.  So I have never had troubles with people talking to me as for the men that has never bothered me as I know I put up a back off vibe to most men as I have not been open to approaches in a LONG time.  Bad history and my own decision to stay single for myself and my kids. Will be interesting to see how things will change as more weight comes off.

Don't me wrong.  I have always been center stage!  Everyone that knows me would certainly not describe me as a wallflower.  But, I'm telling you...it is different know.  I mean I haven't had a guy flirt with me in almost 20 years. 

I can't believe that you are adorable in your pic.

Are you saying I can't hug on you now?  lol.....oh I'm getting my hug....oh yes...i shall plot to sneak a hug when you least expect it....

and no i won't hold the door open for you...I'm no gentleman...


hehehe....with a tiny itty bitty evil laugh in here----> bwahaha.....

much love you you girl...  I created my own editorial from your editorial....see you inspire me...

T.