My swift goodbye.

I wanted to say thank you to all of you who welcomed me with open arms.  I've decided that T was right in avoiding the forums.  I had no idea that there really was drama on the messageboards until the lady named Sherry responded to yesterdays post from Pam.

Thomas told me that this particular group was so full of love and support that he had you to depend on when he wanted to keep surgery private from everyone else in his life.  We talked for hours when he was due to have surgery about how amazing a handful of people impacted his journey.

Thomas is an odd character but he's someone who has given what he can to every person that has needed him.  I've never seen him hurt a person in my life and if you only knew what he does for children that have been diagnosed as terminal, you would know that he's got a heart of gold.  I'm not here to defend him from whatever Sherry needs to say, but I am here to let you know that I'm not going to stay.  I had no idea that someone would attack him based on his want to help. He never mentioned her name to me, He's never said anything derogatory about anyone here to me an in fact praised this place as a way to keep reaching out to others just like many of you showed him how to do.  I don't feel as though I should have to fend off this lady because of a post though.  So thanks to all of you for the kindness and willingness to be open to a person who is moving back to Oklahoma.  I'm sorry that I feel it's easier to cancel my account than to walk into something that I don't deserve.

Sarah

I'm very sad about this, Sarah. If I can encourage you via PM, I hope you'll message me, as I was really looking forward to getting to know you better.
Blessings,
Mary

Sarah~

If I may ask you, please send me a PM.  I would like to keep in touch with you, as well.  I am sorry to see you go and was really looking forward to knowing you.  You seem like such a great person.

~ Renae

I'm sorry you have made the decision to leave the forum.  Best of luck to you and your move back to Oklahoma.  I hope your father's health improves!

I personally am sickened by the way that the said post took a turn! Please dont let one person stop you from joining what I think is the most amazing group of men and women! I wouldnt be where I am today if it wasnt for these men and women! I love T, I think he is awesome and I am sadened even more that he feels the needs to not post here to advoid such things. And for someone to lash out on a post that said no names in it what so ever shows their true maturity! I had no clue who you was talking about in the post, I honestly thought of someone else and I wasnt alone in thinking it was another person that was bothing T.  Wow, speechless and those who know me know that doesnt happen!  Sarah, I hope that you will still consider joining us for dinner Jan 22nd.We would all love to meet you and get to know you better. I havent been posting alot lately due to my own personal health problems but I do check the boards. You can PM me anytime!

For lack of better words, I want to add that anytime you ask a question on these forums, you are getting answers from people who have walked or are walking in your shoes. They are NOT dr's, they are NOT your dr. Every Dr is different and they all treat us differently, we can all see this from what each dr requires on all the pre-testing and post op visits! You are merely getting advice from someone who cares, you should ALWAYS ask your medial advisor if the advice is the right advice for you!

I am now going to pick my mouth up off the floor and poke my eyes back into socket, and walk away from this computer for a while. I cant believe the last 24 hours here.

Love to all
Ssaassypants

Sarah, I posted my take on the other thread-but there really is no need to leave.  Heck, Sassy and I had a knock down drag out a few months ago, and we're still buds (I hope).

Forums are a slice of life-and it's easier to work through issues here, so the practice is pretty valuable.

I have one suggestion, and I mean it kindly.  Talk more about yourself and less about Thomas-we want to get to know YOU-not what you think about our Cowboy.  That's where you will get the best support possible. 

I agree Debra.  We tend to forget the focus here and that is to help each other.  I don't always agree with comments made so I either ignore them completely or chime in.  I try to make my comments about me since I'm the one involved and not the he said she said stuff.  Sarah, let us get to know YOU.  Thomas is a big boy....and has prooven to be able to take care of himself.  We all love T but we do Sherry as well!  We all get misunderstood occasionally and disagree but don't leave us...unless you just don't need us!!  We just all need to remember "unless we've walked a mile in their shoes".....  We're here to help each other...not flame anyone hopefully at least not intentional.

I completely agree Debra!!!!!  

((((hugs))))) to my Mcalester buddy!

Debra,

I understand what you are saying believe me I do, but he was the reason why I came here in the first place.  His description of about 5 people was just what I needed.  I didn't come here willingly.  However, I'm very protective of him.  We haven't been together for a while now and although I know his faults, treating people badly isn't one of them.  He's someone that has always tried to admit his faults freely. 

I want to stay honestly, but I didn't even know this Sherry lady's name and you saw what she did to my own words and I never mentioned her.  I'm just a new girl coming to the forum and can't believe what i stepped into with her.  She ranted about how childish Thomas is and how her age made a difference, but honestly I didn't see him calling people out by name or insulting them like he was insulted. If you had a person who changed your life for the better would you want to hear those kinds of things said when you had no idea who the person was?  I feel hijacked by only one person in the forum and it was her.  i don't know anything about her other than people telling me she hasn't had surgery yet, she gives information like she has.  I don't even know if that is true, but I had no way of knowing she would blindside me.  

I've only known love from him, I've never seen him treat an enemy of his poorly and instead pray for them to reach mutual understandng of one another's viewpoints.  I'm sure he has no interest in reaching the same understanding with someone like her.  Wouldn't you think that most ex's of a person would only hold contempt for the person they once loved?  So you would think I wouldn't care, but it's just the opposite.  He was there to pick me up when I had nothin left.  Just like any stranger who needed someone.  He's made every person I know feel like they are a million dollars.  Fat, skinny, black, white, it never mattered to him, if you were downtrodden, he would be there when noone else would.  That's why it's important for me to stick with leaving.  I don't know what anyone did that set her off, but I never mentioned anything about her or her name.   I think the rest of you are heaven sent but for him to want to leave has to be a major thing. 

I tried to have him reconsider but he said enough smearing continues that he's not going to be a part of it when people there need good assistance and advice and the shouldn't have to put up with what went on earlier.  I don't know about childish, but that made sense to me.

Sarah