Well, OH is on the news...

The woman that is missing from the cruise ship had a lapband.  She had been blogging over here about how bad she felt about herself and her body.  The theory right now is that she committed suicide.  The news put a view of her OH blog on this AM.  I feel so sorry for her family.

That is sad, but i'm glad you told me (I'm news clueless).  My folks will probably go on lapband suicide watch immediately.  I'm not joking.

It is such a complicated issue-because people who are not obese have body image problems too-so saying it was the weight, or losing the weight, is just looking for a finger to point.  I'm having trouble buying the suicide notion in general-women usually opt for pills, not anything violent.

I do feel sorry for anyone's family and friends in a tragedy such as this.  I can't imagine coping with a death and not knowing for sure what happened.  It's just human nature that we want to understand. 

This whole situation sounds fishy to me.  Suicide my hangin' behind...it took her husband EIGHT hours to report her missing AND he was right back at the casino on the boat the next day..WTF????

I have to wonder about all those "disapperances" on the cruise ships.  Especially if the hubby waited that long to report her missing.

I hope my Mom missed that news clip or she will be calling me to make sure I am not having suicide thoughts since my lapband also.

Debbie

I saw that on the morning news too.. I thought it was OH but wasn't for sure.. Thanks for clarifying it..

Sheila

Surely if you were gonna kill yourself why go to the trouble of packing for a cruise & waiting in line to get on the boat(been there done it & wow did it take forever).. Ya.. I'm voting for the husband did it. There are easier ways than flinging yourself off a boat!

I agree with most of the posts on her! There is no way I'd jump ship after going through the lab band or any other type of procedure for WL! I too think it was fishy that he didn't report it right away.  Now, I personally would have like to throw my mother and sister overboard when we were on our cruise, but myself.....Never!

This would be so hard on her family because, first....did she commit suicide and then was she murdered?? The torment must be horrible! Those choices of death either way would rip a grieving family but then there is no body either so that even makes it worse.

You can be so depressed over your body that you hate yourself, but she had taken steps to change her life. That in itself shows how strong she was....I would think that if she was going to kill herself, it would have been BEFORE the lap band. I just think that people are hearing things on the news more and more and become copy cats thinking they can get away with it.

I think you are, without meaning to, demonstrating the kind of thinking that COULD get you depressed enough to do something sad like that.  The band or any WLS really does change everything, but not in the ways you think it's going to.  If she was looking at it as her one true answer, she would have been very disappointed.  WLS takes more head work than any other kind of work, and it's worth it, but some people just can't do it.

If she were gaining, or felt like she was losing control-that is a very scary feeling.  But suicidal thinking is about ending pain and fear, and jumping into the ocean at night and watching your ship pull away while you drown-that just doesn't add up for me.  Of course, I don't understand the fascination with the Golden Gate either.  SF Bay is dirty, nasty, cold, terrible currents and full of sharks-not a place I'd want to head into for my last hurrah. 

That was so sad.  I did read where she was diagnosed as bi-polar.  My mother is bi-polar and when she's on meds shes as normal as me (if I'm normal) but when she decides she doesn't need them she gets really bad.  It's a chemical imbalance and very treatable.  Like John has posted in the past we had surgery on our stomachs and not our brains.  This doesn't fix all our problems and we still have most of the same ones we had before we started this journey.  I also read that her dear sweet husband had been arrested for "head butting" her this past year so all was not well in paradise.  I sure wouldn't rule him out at this point either.