a phone call and holiday drama..

The world is a weird place for sure.  I know my daughter got drugs from several employees of the rehab places-just another thing that makes you go "what the H377?"

You are spending time and energy on her out of love.  Real love isn't only spending pleasant time and energy, it's doing what needs to be done. 

I have a 19 year old niece.. same story, different verse.  Back in February, she called my house one day to say she would be in on the 10pm flight from Indiana. (first I'd heard of it) and was bringing her boyfriend and expected to stay at my house.  I was in the hospital at the time and unable to meet her or even know about it until later.  She had to stay at the Airport overnight until someone could go pick her up and everyone intially felt sorry for her.  She stayed in Oklahoma, imposed on a lot of people, and ended up leaving about a month later of course needing everyone's financial help to get home.  Her latest expedition was to Las Vegas to sell magazines.  She got herself in a bind there and had to have her mom send her the money to come home.  She's had several car accidents. Totaled a couple of cars.
I have to commend you on sticking it out with your niece.  I have to say I have washed my hands of my niece and her antics... She will be getting no money, help, or advice from me until she demonstrates some maturity.  In addition I don't plan to spend a lot of time with her or on her.   I don't know if that is right or wrong, probably very selfish as I lean that way anyway.  My niece has faked a couple of pregnacies as well.  It's very annoying, time consuming and gut wrenching and I refuse to go through it just so she can get some attention.  The last time she did this, my mother was so happy, went out and bought a lot of baby stuff and then was devastated when it wasn't true.  I honestly wanted to beat the heck out of the little brat.  So I have now washed my hands and my mind of this selfish inconsiderate person.  Best of luck to you.  Keep us posted.

I told her the laast time she said she was pregnant...when the baby comes I will go and buy it what it needs.
Three years ago she begged to come live with me I told her then  she had to go to school for 6 months, seek and go to a shrink, lose weight. A month passes and she calls to say she did not want to come. Her reason she meet some older guy.Who wanted to marry her. I found him on her my space account and called him. He thought she was older and had a great job. When I told him her real age he about died on the phone. When he called and broke it off she went into this drama about him being her true love etc.
Now she will not tell me her myspace or any other internet social club she is in....
I have shown her tough love in the past and will do so again. Back in April when I was there she bowed up at me like she wanted to hit me and  I told her this if you think you are woman enough come on but just know this I will clean the sidewalk with your a$$ so come on...she started crying like a little girl and my reaction to her big tears was when are you going to grow up and wear big girl panties