Why do people feel the need to stress you out after surgery.

I am amazed and can't believe this is even happening..  This past May I took my brothers soon to be step daughter to Branson with us.  She went along to be a Mother's helper.  Well she was far from being a Mother's helper.  She turned out to be worse than my 3 year old twins at the time.  She was constantly lying on things, being rude, selfish, and acting worse than I would ever dream my twins were.  Well, my brother and his girlfriend wanted the truth on how it turned out.  I told them.. Well apparently they don't feel like the issue has been forgotten.  On my end the issue was more than forgotten.  I bought presents for everyone this year and have been waiting for them to come get them.  My brother said he would be down today, well I guess what actually has been going on is the girlfriend/fiance don't feel comfortable coming.  Blaming the whole Branson trip on me..  So my brother and I have been fighting on the phone since this evening.  This is the first time I have heard about this and they apparently have known about it since last May.

I started sobbing and didn't think I was going to catch my breath, now my tummy is hurting, and I am ready to go to bed.  So we have both hung up on one another and  yelled and no one will be contacting each other any time soon.. And the other thing is, I have had his dog since him and his last G/F broke up and he hasn't offered a dime to keep his dog.  I jus called DH and told him to call my brother and he has a few days to come get his dog and I will be finding a new home for it.

Why in the world would someone stress someone out like this that just went through majory surgery and the day after Christmas.. I will never know.. But I am flabbergasted that this is even happening.  It blindsided me.. 

Thanks for letting me vent..

Sheila

Sheila, I am so sorry.  Sometimes the holiday's bring out the worst in people.  At some point this girlfriend will be history and he will be regretting how he acted.  The girlfriend doesn't want to believe that her daughter would be anything less than perfect and unfortunatly has pulled your brother along for the ride on her attitude about it.  Hang in there and try to just take care of you right now. My sister has this saying.."cream always rises to the top". 

Sheila, that is too bad.  Honestly, right now your emotions are going to be sooooo out of whack with the whole surgery during the holiday thing-I would suggest you let this one go till later.  I'm not taking anyone's side, just saying if it isn't going on IN your home, let it go until you are more rested and able to deal with it.

Sorry about the dog, but it isn't the dog's fault.  I do the same thing with animal guests who come for a little while and never go-I give the former owner a week to figure it out, and then it becomes MY animal to do with as I wish (rehome or keep).  If he doesn't want the dog and neither do you, it would be in the dog's best interest to go somewhere it is wanted.  It's awful to get emotionally invested in an animal that isn't yours and it doesn't sound to me like your brother is emotionally invested in the animal either.  And that's sad, because animals need food, water, shelter and to feel like they belong.  I hope that works out soon.

Also, I read somewhere that as you lose weight, things from the past come welling up-and this may be part of that.  Shedding weight does make you feel vulnerable and confront things you've been eating to avoid.  it helped me to remind myself that whatever I was feeling was just part of the process and would pass once I worked it out.  So that's what I'll leave you with-this is part of the process and it will get better. 

 

Misery loves company.......

Sheila, Just hang in there and this too shall pass.Family members can be so insensitive at times. Just try and relax and take care of you.This is the only important thing right now. The rest will work itself out. Just stand firm and don't let him run over you or get you upset. Hugs, Rita

in my famuily no holiday is complete without some drama usually my brother starts it.
i would not ask DH to make the call do it yourself and say this...I have your dog please come and get it. And btw we are blood long before you met gf..if she has a problem with being told the truth then how is she going to handle ever being in our family for I refuse to lie to spare her feelings. no matter what happens I love you.

Thanks everyone for chiming in, I really appreciate it..  We have never had holiday drama until now..  The new girlfriend is working for me. But whatever floats his boat..  I sent him a text and he is suppose to come get the dog today.. We will see.. 

Thanks for chiming in,
Sheila