I'VE BEEN FLAMED!
Good Christmas Eve Morning to All My OK Bari Friends,
I guess the purpose of this post is to first of all wish each of you the best of everything in this most Holy of Seasons. You have been more support to me than I can express and from the bottom of my heart - THANK YOU. You all have ALWAYS been so kind, understanding, supportive, and caring. It means so much to me. Again, thanks and blessings to you all.
The second reason for my post is that last evening I put up a message on the Michigan Board regarding Steve's recent transplant. Most of the responses were wonderful, but one lady in particular was a little bitter and somewhat nasty. Her thoughts have me wondering if I am as grateful as I should be. Do I truly realize the many gifts that Steve, I, and our kids have been given? Maybe there is more that I should be doing with my life to show just how thankful I am.
Anyway, I will definitely be giving it more thought. In the mean time, the link below should (?) take you to the MI Board and the post. Would you be so kind as to read the responses and feel free to "call me out" if you feel I need to be? I trust and appreciate your honesty and will be giving a lot of thought to what this lady (Jean) and you all have to say. Maybe she is broken in some way. I only want to do what is best for everyone. Perhaps I could begin with her. Thanks so much.
May each of you have a wonderful Christmas Holiday! We all have so much to be thankful for!
Pam
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/MI/a,messageboard/board_id,4824/cat_id,4424/topic_id,3816882/action,replies/
I guess the purpose of this post is to first of all wish each of you the best of everything in this most Holy of Seasons. You have been more support to me than I can express and from the bottom of my heart - THANK YOU. You all have ALWAYS been so kind, understanding, supportive, and caring. It means so much to me. Again, thanks and blessings to you all.
The second reason for my post is that last evening I put up a message on the Michigan Board regarding Steve's recent transplant. Most of the responses were wonderful, but one lady in particular was a little bitter and somewhat nasty. Her thoughts have me wondering if I am as grateful as I should be. Do I truly realize the many gifts that Steve, I, and our kids have been given? Maybe there is more that I should be doing with my life to show just how thankful I am.
Anyway, I will definitely be giving it more thought. In the mean time, the link below should (?) take you to the MI Board and the post. Would you be so kind as to read the responses and feel free to "call me out" if you feel I need to be? I trust and appreciate your honesty and will be giving a lot of thought to what this lady (Jean) and you all have to say. Maybe she is broken in some way. I only want to do what is best for everyone. Perhaps I could begin with her. Thanks so much.
May each of you have a wonderful Christmas Holiday! We all have so much to be thankful for!
Pam
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/MI/a,messageboard/board_id,4824/cat_id,4424/topic_id,3816882/action,replies/
OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE SHE TALKED THAT WAY TO YOU!! THAT WAS UNBELIEVABLE!! THERE IS NO WAY THAT YOUR POST SHOULD HAVE BROUGHT THAT OUT IN ANYONE. YOU CAN TELL HOW THANKFUL YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE FOR THIS SECOND CHANCE THAT SOMEONE YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HAS GIVEN YOU! SHE HAS EVIDENTLY HAD A BAD DAY OR A BAD EXPERIENCE OR IS JUST PLAIN CRABBY. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING SHE SAYS TO HEART AND ENJOY THE TIME YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS!!
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on 12/23/08 11:37 pm
on 12/23/08 11:37 pm
I hope you don't mind-I shared my thoughts on the forum (anyone surprised), but I tried to do without a counter attack. I've followed your story since I've been on this forum, and I am very very happy for you and your husband-many prayers were said on your behalf.
Hi, Pam.
I'm sorry that you received that post. I think you touched the root of her post, that "she is broken in some way." We do not know the pain she may have experienced in this area. It's obvious that she made assumptions about you, too. We, who know and love you and have followed Steve's amazing journey, know how grateful both you and Steve are for God's awesome gift of life.
I am so proud of you, for your sensitive and caring response to this woman. If we could all try to assume the best, not the worst, of people, our world would be a much kinder, gentler place to live. Thank you for being the one who took the High Road.
I hope that you hear from her again, with an apology. However, even if that doesn't happen, you've done all you can do, to help her to understand. You have given her food for thought, just as you have said she gave to you. In the midst of her stinging message, I trust you have found peace.
Blessings,
Mary
I'm sorry that you received that post. I think you touched the root of her post, that "she is broken in some way." We do not know the pain she may have experienced in this area. It's obvious that she made assumptions about you, too. We, who know and love you and have followed Steve's amazing journey, know how grateful both you and Steve are for God's awesome gift of life.
I am so proud of you, for your sensitive and caring response to this woman. If we could all try to assume the best, not the worst, of people, our world would be a much kinder, gentler place to live. Thank you for being the one who took the High Road.
I hope that you hear from her again, with an apology. However, even if that doesn't happen, you've done all you can do, to help her to understand. You have given her food for thought, just as you have said she gave to you. In the midst of her stinging message, I trust you have found peace.
Blessings,
Mary
"Don't tell God how big your storm is; tell your storm how BIG your God is!"
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Pam, I never for one minute doubted how thankful you and your family was/is for the amazing gift that you guys have received. I also agree that this lady has experienced some hurt and is taking her hurt out on you....and that is not right, she should be ashamed of herself and she needs to take some time and do some serious soul searching, because she had absolutely no right to make those accusations. Do not let this ruin your happiness that you have been blessed with, do not let your joy be stolen. Just remember every good and perfect gift comes from God and there are no sorrows with his blessings. Love and hugz to you
LaDetra
Pammie
I responded to you and her both and I think you are right the post was a very grateful sounding post with a touch of your humor in the chasing thing, BUT DEFIANTLY NOT out of line in anyway. Sadly I believe Jane has never dealt with her own grief over this. Alot of families have issues following last wishes such as organ donation, living wills, or burial wishes. I pray that she finds peace and learns to let people live their lives as they see fit.
I responded to you and her both and I think you are right the post was a very grateful sounding post with a touch of your humor in the chasing thing, BUT DEFIANTLY NOT out of line in anyway. Sadly I believe Jane has never dealt with her own grief over this. Alot of families have issues following last wishes such as organ donation, living wills, or burial wishes. I pray that she finds peace and learns to let people live their lives as they see fit.
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