My big GRIP

On another online web support site there is this lady who has posted how my surgeon shattered her dreams of weight loss. She has posted that he claims she is to healthy for surgery and then goes on about how she is taking alot of anit depressant drugs etc. The latest is how depressing her life is because she is gaining weight and has to buy special tools to bathe herself. URRRRRRGH! When did WLS solve all a persons behavior problems? I found out that her denial was based on the fact that she lied on her application for WLS not because of her health issues. SO  me being the blunt person I was going to use another word....LOL I told her to get a grip change her lifestyle and stop the pity party. I am so sick of her whining about not getting surgery that I would love to blow up in her face that this aint no picnic to have WLS. It takes alot of work and determination. My "tool" is just that a "tool" if I abuse it I lose the ability to lose weight. WHere do people think that the "tool" ends a lifetime of bad behavior. And where or how can WLS stop a person from gaining weight if they are taking meds that cause weight gain....
I think thats the end of my griping...thanks for reading...

Hi, Pattye.
It's interesting to read your post, as I wrote and posted a devotional this morning called "Whose fault is it?"
I hope your words will help this lady, that after she gets through being upset about your words, she will think about them and make the changes necessary to go forward in her life.
Blessings,
Mary

mary I really don't think so. She blames the surgeon for her not getting her surgery. she claims the insurance company already approved her..lol never knew one that preapproved surgery before paperwork was submitted. She is not ready to take on the fact that she shattered her dream and made a liar out of herself. So my blunt words wont do anything but make the situration worse...especially snce she has already said I am bias cause of the surgeon....

I agree with you 100 percent.  I said something the other day about not being able to keep cookies in the house and someone said "WHY?  Doesn't the lap band work?" and I pretty much had to stifle the urge just to strangle them.

Eating is something we all do, therefore everyone thinks they are an expert on everyone else's eating issues.....coupled with any WLS ever known to man, whether or not they have ever read even a single article.  It wasn't until after I had WLS that I finally understood that no, other's who haven't been really big really DON'T understand-and it's ok to tell them they don't, particularly if they are telling you how you should feel or approach a situation that is related to your size or surgery.  The more I tell people to back off and let me handle it, the more I realize I CAN handle it (the eating or whatever the situation is).

Another myth is that reaching a goal size makes it all go away-Oh no grasshopper, you still have much to learn.  (And next time you get down on yourself for not learning it before now, list out all the things you HAVE learned...you weren't being lazy, you were busy)

Speaking of learning, let me know when you are up for some basic quilting lessons-the group thing isn't working for me.  (Literally we will have to start with taking my machine out of the box and setting it up-but it's a portable-I could bring it over and you could walk me through it..)  just PM me and let me know if you are interested and what a fair price would be. 

 

 

It has taken me 42 years to learn that my eatting life style got me to where I was 478 pounds. When I decided to have WLS. I knew my life style would have to change. Some people dont understand that.
Every day I struggle with my food addiction. My tool hasnt changed that mind concept just my stomach....

As for the lessons..I wouldn't know how to teach anyone. I just pulled out a pattern cut my design out and started sewing...if you need patterns the easy ones I can bring them to you or tell you thr web site...

Pattye, I would love to know what the website is for the patterns.    You are completely right about this lady.  It sounds to me that she is alot like others in this country who think that their problems are the fault of somebody else.  Some people need to wake up and take responsibility for themselves.  Sadly some people never do.  Lisa

the website is mccalls patterns..I think its www.mccalls.com 
i goggle free quilt patterns years ago and thats how I got it....
Deb If you are wanting the 12inch square, or thedresdian plate pattern, or smaller squares before you go purchase them ...let me know that you want to use them and I will loan you mine. The average cost of a good template is any where from 12.00 to 40 bucks....My sister borrowed mine and made her own from plexi glass....

I am 100% in agreiance with you!!!!!!!!! 

great minds think alike....

Pattye,

I am with you what I don't understand is why she is still there on the forum for that doctors office when all she does is gripe about them turning her down.  now my insurance approved me tentaively afyer teh seminar but before the inital consult but it was made clear to me that if at any point during the procedure if any of teh tests and requirements wasn't met that I would be denied teh surgery. SHe is simply one who wants to blame everyone else for her issues. I bet if you ask her its not her fault she has gained the weight, or for even part of the reason she is such a negative and sad person.