Okay here it goes....

Thank you all for chiming in, I really appreciate all the input you have given.  I will be checking out the website offered and researching the advice offered later in the evening. .  It's nice to know others have been exactly where I am at.  DH got a call from his dr, he would rather see us in his office to discuss test results.  So we all know that if a prescription isn't called in over the phone that something else is up..  I appreciate all of the prayers because my family sure does need them.  I did get cardiac clearance today to go ahead with the WLS, so that's one plus headed my way.  Anyway, off to give 2 sick kiddos a bath and put them to bed. 

Thanks for all of the input and adivice and support, it's greatly appreciated.

Sheila

Sheila, I will be praying for both of you concerning this appointment. Maybe he just wants to discuss more tests. I honestly think right now, you need to focus on your hubby and not worry about any of this. Reschedule it all after this is settled. That way, you can focus on your hubby. This may all be something small with him and then when it is settled, you can get back on track. 
Let us know how things go with the appointment as I am worrying with you right now! Please keep your chin up and know you have many friends here who care about you.
Sherry

Sheila-one of the first and hardest things we have to shed is the all or nothing mentality-it will keep you fat forever, because no one is perfect enough to never slip up.  I've lost 91 pounds since I decided that imperfection was good enough.

 (But-that need to be perfect has to go somewhere-don't drive it away from your eating only to let it drive you crazy somewhere else.)