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Hi, Dan.
I echo the "take it slowly" sentiment. Please consider the children's hearts in this, too. It's so sad for children to get to know and love a guy their mom is dating, only to have him leave them, just like their dad did.
My husband married a young lady who had been battered and bruised, who had a little baby girl, and he helped to mend her broken heart and loved the baby girl as her own. That young lady was me, and Leah was the baby girl. She is wild about her father, the only one she's ever known.
This can be amazing for all concerned...or a nightmare. The difference will be in the time you choose to give this relationship a chance. You have the time, so my advice is to take the time necessary to see where this can go.
Please guard the hearts of the children, whatever you do.
Blessings,
Mary
I echo the "take it slowly" sentiment. Please consider the children's hearts in this, too. It's so sad for children to get to know and love a guy their mom is dating, only to have him leave them, just like their dad did.
My husband married a young lady who had been battered and bruised, who had a little baby girl, and he helped to mend her broken heart and loved the baby girl as her own. That young lady was me, and Leah was the baby girl. She is wild about her father, the only one she's ever known.
This can be amazing for all concerned...or a nightmare. The difference will be in the time you choose to give this relationship a chance. You have the time, so my advice is to take the time necessary to see where this can go.
Please guard the hearts of the children, whatever you do.
Blessings,
Mary
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U took the other half of my words right outta my mouth...lol. Good minds think alike. So true, the childrens hearts need to be guarded as well. Kids can become so devastated when things do not work out between their parents and boyfriends/girlfriends. 
Dan,
I think you have gotten excellent advice and lots of warm fuzzies too! We all want you to be happy and STAY happy. That's the hard part. It's ALWAYS great in the beginning. So, I say, enjoy every moment....but don't try to turn to the last page of the book...enjoy EVERY page on the journey.
I think you have gotten excellent advice and lots of warm fuzzies too! We all want you to be happy and STAY happy. That's the hard part. It's ALWAYS great in the beginning. So, I say, enjoy every moment....but don't try to turn to the last page of the book...enjoy EVERY page on the journey.
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Dan, I am catching up on some posts and just read this...I was wondering how things were going? I also wanted to open my big mouth and tell you something too. Yes, if friends loved you they would want you to be happy, but a true friend will also tell you the truth or what they see could happen. I read all the posts and agree with most all of them. This situation is a very difficult one, I will say that for sure! Only you can make your decisions but you said something that I wanted to comment on.
My son was 35 when he got married to his wife. They knew that they wanted a family right away and 11 months after they were married they started their family. He is the BEST dad!! My little brother also got married at 35 and have 4 little girls now. There is no set age to start a family and there is no cut off date either! There is no hurry....
You have to decide if you want your own family as she may not want more children. As a man of 35 are you ready to have 3 children and maybe one of your own soon after??? Again, is she?? Not having children of your own yet, I can tell you it is a huge deal!! Very huge!! No one can answer this but you....Take all the time you need....We are here if you need to talk. I think most here will be very honest with you, even if it is not what you may want to hear.....That is a true friend.
Hugs
Sherry
My son was 35 when he got married to his wife. They knew that they wanted a family right away and 11 months after they were married they started their family. He is the BEST dad!! My little brother also got married at 35 and have 4 little girls now. There is no set age to start a family and there is no cut off date either! There is no hurry....
You have to decide if you want your own family as she may not want more children. As a man of 35 are you ready to have 3 children and maybe one of your own soon after??? Again, is she?? Not having children of your own yet, I can tell you it is a huge deal!! Very huge!! No one can answer this but you....Take all the time you need....We are here if you need to talk. I think most here will be very honest with you, even if it is not what you may want to hear.....That is a true friend.
Hugs
Sherry
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