cant stop crying

So here is the story.... When i had my WLS in Feb I was forced back to work on a certain date or I would run out of FMLA.....  I was told that it would start back over 2 weeks later on the one year anniversary date of my first surgery.  WRONG , I got a phone call from someone who cares this morning to let me know that as of the 3rd working day of november they was going to let me go when my FMLA ran out.  So I called to check on this... TRUE!  OMG So on the 4th working day they will mail me out a letter telling me that I have ran out of FMLA and they are putting me on permanent Lay off until I can come back to work at which will not be my current position, it will be where ever they need me.  My long term disability checks wont start coming in until; dec......  Soo that  being said some how we are going to move closer to hubby work.  he is spending 100-150 a week driving back and forth to work.  Hard part of this?  We havent got any money for deposits and such.  For the first time in my life and am so scared it isnt even funny.......

I hear that WLS patients have a hard time getting insurance after WLS???  I am so scared I will be one of those.

Good news is that they will keep me on the insurance for 12 more weeks after they lay me off so at least I have that. 

Merry Freakin Christmas to me..... I just dont get it!!!!!  I am stuck in bed. I try to better myself and it gets me no where!!!!! I just want to roll over and die.

Huge *hugs* to you, Cindy~  I don't know about the insurance thing, but I do hope it won't be hard for you to get insurance.  Where does hubby work that you have to move to?  Hopefully you'll find somewhere willing to work with your situation.  I'll keep your family in my thoughts.

I am so sorry this is all happening for you.  I do know that if you work for a business that has 15+ employees that have to offer you "cobra".  That is you will pay your premium but can have the group insurance for up to 2 years I think.  It might be 18 months.  That would give you enough time to possibly find another job.  If you hubby has insurance with his current employer you can be added to his group due to a "change in status".  You would just have to show your proof of prior insurance to his employer and let them know of your job situation and change in status there.  They most likely will need proof of your last day with your job.  These all have time restrictions so be sure and find out what those are.  I believe you have 45 days to elect cobra.  on the 46th day it is no longer an option for you at all.  You cannot have a gap in your health insurance coverage of more than 45 days to be put on another group insurance whether it be on your husbands or your new employer.  You may need to purchase the cobra if you know you will be without a job or insurance possibility for more than 45 days.  I'm sure you can find a position pretty quick in the Tulsa area.  Take care and PM me if you need any more information.

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I know you aren't feeling well anyway and to have this happen too.  I'm so sorry! 
Try to keep your chin up!  You are in my prayers!
Hugs!!!
Kim

Sassy....

Lemme tell you about this guy that I know....  he gave a great effort to his employer only to find that the "corporate employer" doesn't care for the employees and that loyalty was something meant for days long gone. He decided that he wasn't gonna take things so lightly when they decided to outsource his job..he did't have 2 sticks to rub together. It was sad.....so he created his own position....  he worked for other people while he get his feetback on the ground, and then he let his dreams and passion drive him to new heights that others could only dream of reaching....

20 years later, he's tried to contact the people who he once worked with at the "corporate employer" only to find they hate working there and their boss only wants more and more output regardless of who must give to get the results....

I am that guy....  Starting tomorrow, you should grow a concrete chin and get tough with the direction you want your life to take.  I had t do it and it all started on a day that i chose to not worry about anything that I couldn't change with my own 2 hands and my own mind.  Youre not fully in control of these situations because being in control is one of thoe "comfortable illusions" that employers give to their employees to comfort them into thinking everything is fine....  Let this be a reminder of how precious your time is and how important it is to make sure your family is not fooled by another job's "comfort zone".

You're an awesome person and I hate to see anyone go through this painful experience.  My thoughts are with you.

T.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers..... As I sit here yes my eyes are as swollen as they can get blood shot and red from crying but all I can do is lay here think and well cry.....

I called my mother and asked her to get me an application for food stamps, who knows if we will qualify on DH's income alone ornot but wont know til we try!  So I am filling that out and she is handing it in for me tomorrow. 

I have prayed and am letting life take its course as if I have a choice, but I do have a choice of how easy or hard to take it.  We have been wanting to move to the Tulsa area anyways. maybe we have been post poning it for too long and the good Lord has pushed us into doing so.  We have been wanting to get moved up there and me not work for a few years.  Well its GONNA happen just before we was financially ready for it.  Yesterday the school called and my oldest is falling in school so he needs alot of attention and time.  Guess what hes gonna get it!  So before I go back to work I want to finish getting my college degree.  So now is the time, once we are moved and settled I want to start back to taking a few classes while my own kids are in school.  I just want to make it through the holidays and not have to move and change the kids schools time January.  But if it has to be now so be it.  Well its almost November anyways so I dont see why Jan is a problem anyways. 

So I am trying to keep my chin up!  To hell with employers who dont give a damn about the people who do their nasty work for them!!!

Love to you all

I'm glad to hear you are making a game plan.  You know some of my very best job advances have been due to "employers who didn't give a flip" and I was forced to move on.  I made my best advances in salary  as well as benefits.  Sometimes I (we) get comfortable even though we are just "getting by" and the good Lord has to shut one door before we'll open another.  Remember what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!!! I know it's hard right now and it just might get a little harder but I know you're going to be the one landing on top.  You'll qualify for all kinds of aide with school tuition and you might just qualify for vocational re-hab.  Please check it out.  First thing you need to do is file for your unemployment the first chance you get.  That will help.  With your unemployment benefits and the savings of your husbands cost to commute you might be better off than you think.  I wish I were there to give you a big (((hug))).  Take care of yourself first off!!!

So I wrote this really long thing and then got disconnected.  I just wanted to say I am happier now without insurance and a corporate job than I have ever been.  I do hope the next administration makes it possible for self employed and small business people to have decent insurance, but if not, I still refuse to be a pawn.

There is something but scary and liberating about it, and only time will tell if I made the right choice, but my heart is telling me I did.

Chin up, march on, be mistress of your own destiny. 

What about taking an online college course while you are stuck at home recuperating?  It might make a nice diversion from what is going on with the job while helping you finish your degree.  Just a thought.

Okay sweetcakes instead of laying there crying etc. Become a postive go getter call the employement security commission and be like me RAISE hades..till someone listens. Call tv stations and make your case heard....
I was told that my leave would not last for my next surgery and that I would be laid off...I made a few calls and even though I am not a permanent employee at the time and I did not qualify for FMLA. I let the supervisor know that according to the law I could sue the company for firing an person over 40...its called age discrimination..yep at 40...