OK! My Okie people, here I go again!
I'm sorry but I am having thoughts of not doing my RNY. I have read so many post that scare the HECK out of me! I was just on the main forum and I read one more BAD one! I know someone who has had to have a reversal because he almost died of malnutrition! I keep reading HORROR stories. I know you all went through this. But I keep thinking that if I have this surgery and I put my family in financial ruins because of illness or complications from the surgery what good will it do me to be thin! I can't even afford to be off of work to be sick now! Let alone have to go in the hospital for any lenght of time. I keep thinking how selfish I am being to want to try this. I know if it works for me it will be wonderful and life changing. But if it doesn't work it will sure be life changing but it won't be so wonderful!
I know there are MANY that don't have any complications and that do fine. I keep telling myself I had 3 c-sections and I was up and running around in no time! But this is a different surgery! I have read so many posts where people can't quit losing weight. I only want to lose a HEALTHY amount of weight. I want to be healthy more then I want to be thin.
I'm sorry if I am being a downer. I am truely worried! Did all of you go into this just hoping to be a lucky one that doesn't have complications? I mean I have seen posts that say Hey I have been in the hospital and had to have 2 pints of blood, but Hey I lost 10 lbs! What the HECK! I like my OWN blood! Know what I mean? Am I being stupid! Did everyone think this? Please don't think bad of me for airing my fears! Maybe I should keep them to myself and Fleemore has been so supportive of me! But I am scared of the unknown!
Thanks in advance for your suggestions and remarks...Please be gentle!!
I know there are MANY that don't have any complications and that do fine. I keep telling myself I had 3 c-sections and I was up and running around in no time! But this is a different surgery! I have read so many posts where people can't quit losing weight. I only want to lose a HEALTHY amount of weight. I want to be healthy more then I want to be thin.
I'm sorry if I am being a downer. I am truely worried! Did all of you go into this just hoping to be a lucky one that doesn't have complications? I mean I have seen posts that say Hey I have been in the hospital and had to have 2 pints of blood, but Hey I lost 10 lbs! What the HECK! I like my OWN blood! Know what I mean? Am I being stupid! Did everyone think this? Please don't think bad of me for airing my fears! Maybe I should keep them to myself and Fleemore has been so supportive of me! But I am scared of the unknown!
Thanks in advance for your suggestions and remarks...Please be gentle!!
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." Erma Bombeck
19 lbs lost before surgery
9/3/09 Full TT, MR, BL, BA, Arm Reduction and Lipo 10-12 lbs skin/fat removed
Kim, I know I had a different procedure and only a week ago so all I can say is I know this was right for me. I am a bit of a kook when it comes to the surgery thing, I never worry, I guess God just gives me a peace and I go with that. I'm not saying someone is without faith if they are worried or just plain scared when it comes to surgery, just that everyone is different and we have to go with what we know. I am sure there are many others here with far more experience with surgery and uncertainty but I wanted to let you know I will be praying for you as you make your decision. Love ya! 
CJ 
Nothing tastes as good as HEALTHY feels!!!
Initial consult 7/31/08 Surgery date 10/9/08
Nothing tastes as good as HEALTHY feels!!!Initial consult 7/31/08 Surgery date 10/9/08
Thanks CJ! I have prayed and given it to God. I have asked him to help me make my decision. I felt really good after I gave it to him. But then I took it back and its driving me Crazy! I'm a worrier anyway. It is something I was born with! I have always worried and taken care of everyone. I raised my mother and she is taking care of herself for the first time in MY 40 years! I just want to be around for my husband and kids. I don't want to be sick, although no one does! OMGsh! I am still rambeling! I think I need to check my anxiety meds or something. Thanks you for your kind words! I'm so glad you are recovering well. I know you weren't feeling well earlier but it sounds like you made a shake and you're all better!
Take care of yourself!
Hugs!
Kim
Take care of yourself!
Hugs!
Kim
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." Erma Bombeck
19 lbs lost before surgery
9/3/09 Full TT, MR, BL, BA, Arm Reduction and Lipo 10-12 lbs skin/fat removed
Kim, I think you are normal. I went through the same thing. What helped for me was weighing the pros and cons. Its NEVER been about being skinny for me. Its about being healthy and I have not been able to get as healthy as I need to be on my own. I was terrified (and still am to some extent) of things going wrong. The thing is, anyone who has had a complication will complain about it but people that don't have any issues from the procedure don't go on and on and on about how nothing went wrong. Complainers are always the loudest.
When it comes down to it, it is your decision to make and you will make the right one for you.
Good luck in your journey!
When it comes down to it, it is your decision to make and you will make the right one for you.
Good luck in your journey!
I hadn't thought of it that way! "complainers are always the loudest." Thats a good way to look at it. Because Like I have said before I have several friends, besides the wonderful friends I have made on here, that have had it done and are doing wonderful. I guess I'm just having jitters! The post I read earlier left me in tears. That poor girl... I just wanted to do something to help her.
Thanks for your kind words of encouragement! I appreciate it!
Hugs!
Kim
Thanks for your kind words of encouragement! I appreciate it!
Hugs!
Kim
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." Erma Bombeck
19 lbs lost before surgery
9/3/09 Full TT, MR, BL, BA, Arm Reduction and Lipo 10-12 lbs skin/fat removed
Yeah, just wanted to give an example of what happens when you DON'T follow the instructions. I am just feeling so great and am really not hungry that if I get busy and don't pay attention, I don't get enough carbs in, after I felt better I wrote down what I drank today and while I had done really well with protein, I didn't with carbs. They are important in the right quantities!! I agree with Michael, you really need to give it back to God and go from there. I have the same habit of taking things back and worrying when I know it is so much better to turn it over and leave it to Him. And I am not a person who worries!! Think maybe mine is a control issue, which is very common for an obese person. Anyway, keep praying and so will we!
CJ Nothing tastes as good as HEALTHY feels!!!
Initial consult 7/31/08 Surgery date 10/9/08
Nothing tastes as good as HEALTHY feels!!!Initial consult 7/31/08 Surgery date 10/9/08
I had the same fears two years ago and refused to even think about the surgery. My health deteriated so bad, that it was literally this or die. You don't know what was really with the person who had it reversed. Did this person eat correctly, follow the doctor's orders to the letter, take the vitamins, etc. I have a friend who had the surgery back in the 80's and had to have it reversed, but she didn't take the vitamins, she didn't go through any of the pre-testing that is required today, she didn't have to talk to a nutritionist, therefore, she didn't eat right. I went in with absolute peace (and this being my first surgery ever). I am doing great and so thankful to God for giving me the faith and guidance to do this without fear. I am so happy. Yeah, you can read all the complications, and there are some, but I think there are literally more these days that DON'T have complications than do. If I remember correctly, my surgeon said there are about as many complications as a gall bladder operation. We understand your fears and the surgery is definately a big decision. Give it BACK to God and He will guide you to what is His plan for your life. Maybe now is the time, maybe it's not. He will let you know. Good luck, Michael
SOME PEOPLE ARE LIKE SLINKIES - NOT REALLY GOOD FOR ANYTHING BUT THEY BRING A SMILE TO YOUR FACE WHEN PUSHED DOWN THE STAIRS.
Thanks Michael for your wonderful advice! I know what you are saying! I don't know how other people are taking care of themselves. I do need to give it BACK to God! Honestly I started this thinking it was just going to help me lose some weight that I was pretty healthy. I am learning I'm not so healthy. I have found out the results from my sleep study weren't as mild as I was originally told. I stop breathing 52x's an hour in REM sleep. That's crazy!!! I have high BP. Diabetes runs in my family as does Heart disease! I have read some bad posts but I have also read some really good posts. Most people say they wish they had done it years ago! I don't want to say that anymore. I WANT this...I'm just scared!
I've done a little more reading after posting and I am feeling better. It was posted earlier the complainers post the loudest...something like that! Well, that's true!
Thanks again for your words of wisdom!
I hope you are feeling well! Kim!
I've done a little more reading after posting and I am feeling better. It was posted earlier the complainers post the loudest...something like that! Well, that's true!
Thanks again for your words of wisdom!
I hope you are feeling well! Kim!
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." Erma Bombeck
19 lbs lost before surgery
9/3/09 Full TT, MR, BL, BA, Arm Reduction and Lipo 10-12 lbs skin/fat removed
I am a nurse and although I had very little direct experience with gastric bypass I had heard all the horror stories and swore WLS was something I would never do. 5 years ago I read in the paper that someone I had worked with had died and I learned that it was following WLS. Again I swore it was something I would never do. In April of this year I hit rock bottom over my weight and decided to look into it. I was scared to death that something would happen to me. What helped me the most was this site and attending support groups. I realized that just like most everything else, the horror stories stand out more than the successes. Just a few days before my surgery I sat in the support group room and looked around and it finally hit me that the success stories far outweighed the horror stories I had heard. A calm came over me and while it might not sound believable, I was not a bit nervous the day of surgery. I knew all the I's had been dotted and the T's crossed. We are all scared at some point -- and expressing it helps to ease that as well.
Nancy! Thank you so much for your words. I am waiting for the calm! I think its just such a big change. I have this self punishment thing going on! I can do something so long thats good for me then I self destruct and decide its gone on long enough! So the calm would really be good for me now! I need to talk to my dr. about some anxiety meds. I think I just have anxiety really bad about several things going on in my life! Not just WLS!
Thanks for sharing!
Kim
Thanks for sharing!
Kim
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me." Erma Bombeck
19 lbs lost before surgery
9/3/09 Full TT, MR, BL, BA, Arm Reduction and Lipo 10-12 lbs skin/fat removed
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