I Celebrate in Silence.

I think I have shared with you all about my 17 yr old DD that didn't want me to have surgery because she didn't want me to weigh less than her. She is 5'9" and weighs 170 she is beautiful and wears a size 12.  When I hit onederland I was so excited of course, haven't been there since high school so I told my DH (I tell him about every pound I loose, I want him to know that he's getting his money's worth) my DS and my DD. My DD was very upset.  I think she is being selfish, and her actions and attitude about this really upsets me.  My DH told me that maybe I shouldn't tell her when I loose so that it doesn't upset her.  So I celebrate in silence.  I think I remember Lynn talking about something like this with her DD, at a support group meeting.  Does anybody have any suggestions.   Lisa

No suggestions but I wanted to tell you good job!  I wonder if your daughter is worried that you'll get smaller than her.  I've got a 14 yo that weighs 150 and I know that right now she's excited and has said I can borrow her clothes but what happens when her clothes are too big?

Being both a mother and a daughter-I have some experience with this.  This is a good opportunity for you both to realize each of your bodies is your own-no longer a group project.  Enjoy your success, and if your daughter doesn't, then she doesn't.  Don't tell HER how to feel-she has her own issues just like you have yours.  If she gets upset, just say something like "I hope some day you'll be happy for me" and then let it go.

I mean this with all the love in my heart...she needs to grow up!  Why can't she be happy for her own mother?  That is a very self-centered way to live your life.  Sorry!  I know she's your daughter but you should be able to celebrate with her just as you would celebrate her accomplishments.  I'd sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel.  (((HUGS)))

I'm not really mean but this kind of thing ticks me off!!

I agree with Glitter...you need to sit her down and tell her how her behavior is making you feel! I have a 14 yr old daughter and believe me, I know how they are - the world revolves around them and not much else seems to matter or register in their single lane minds!

Make a point to explain to her that you did not have WLS to compete with her, but rather for your overall health, and that if you had not done that, maybe a few years down the road she wouldn't have a mother!

Lisa i am blunt and very outspoken...no rosy colored glass lecture here...
My Mother was 64 and was dating a guy who was 35 years old..she told me after their third date..I was horrified shocked and downright peeved!
Like you she had lost alot of weight and looked good.\
I was upset not cause they were dating but because she hide it from me...
If your daughter is mature enough to pick out her own clothes and dress herself then is old enough to put on her big girl panties and rejoice in your loss KNOWING she will have you for alot longer. If she cant deal with having a sexy MOM then let het stew in her jealousy and self pity. Just dont rejoice in  silence thats what she wants.. Do a banner have a friggin parade.. and dont let her rain on it....One day she will need you to rejoice in something she has done...
By the way..I have some BIG girl panties if she needs them...umm they are size 14

Well I am celebrating with you!!!!  Way to go!  That is awesome.  Check out your ticker, you are half way done! 

Teenagers can be brutal!  I'm sorry you are having to go through this.  My daughter is such a BRAT sometimes and she is also 17.  But a few years ago I lost 45 lbs.  She was so proud of me.  She told me I didn't look pregnant anymore!  HUMMMM Thanks!  She was being nice and I took it nice. 
It sounds like your DD is having some insecurities and maybe you do need to talk to her! BUT don't let her spoil your joy!  You have earned it and you DESERVE it!
I'm happy for you!
Kim 

Hi,
I just had to add my post here. I am always surprised how many people don't want someone they love to change. I guess your DD is one of those. What ever her reason, please don't let her damped this new joy in your life. You deserve to be thrilled with your progress and to share that with loved ones. She may just have to get used to the new you!

Sorry I haven't posted yet, just got home from an out of town Football game.  Thanks to all for replying to my post.  Im sorry that sometimes I don't reply to everyone. You all are so sweet, living with a teenage girl can be challenging sometimes,  ext time she has an attitude with me about my WL, I will have a very strong talk w/her.  I hope that some day she will realize how much healthier I am, not having to carry around all that extra weight.  Thanks for Listening.    Lisa