the one thing they dont talk about

Oh, PUPPIES! I get it! I've been trying to figure this out all day! I told you guys I don't get jokes!

 You crack me up!  You are funny!

I have thought about baggy skin and all the complications that are invloved with losing weight. For me I dont mind the baggy arms, legs ot the girls that now are not oerky at 42 I figure this I am woman here me roar. I have gone through hell to lose weight and if ya dont like the baggy skin dont get to close cause I will smack ya with it when I turn to walk away.

That's funny! The other day, I was standing at the table, doing a set of arm bike exercises, and my 8-year-old grandson said, "Shake it, Nana. Shake your booty!" I thought I would die. Seriously, though, "me" in movement is not a pretty sight, not at this weight. Later on, if there's baggy skin, I'll cinch it up somehow. Kind of reminds me of the kid's song, "Do your ears hang low, do they wobble to and fro? Can you tie 'em in a knot, can you tie 'em in a bow? Can you throw 'em o'r your shoulder, like a Continental soldier? Do your ears hang low?" I guess I might have to substitute various body parts for "ears." hehe

I'll take that baggy skin any day over what I had before.  I can live with that and wear clothes over it.  I've never been to vain though.  I think learned that trait as an obese person.  It was my prayer to just be able to loose 100 pounds.  I have done that plus and i can live without plastics.  I was self pay for the WLS and that was a struggle to come up with that $$  Let the skin sag...75 more pounds or so will work for me!!!  I don't think that the public can see all that loose stuff under our clothes!!!   

Ok, I'll just say it.  For me, the PS would be like "finally" leaving behind the fat person-no visible signs remain.  But the real issue is dealing with what is inside to cause us to become the fat person in the first place-and no knife can remove that.

Just like we used to focus in our fat, we can now focus in on our wrinkles and sags, if we let ourselves.  That part of me that wants to zero in on a wrinkle isn't a part of me I want to nurture.  It is welcome to leave at any time.  But, that said, I realize I haven't lost as much weight as some, and so may not have as clear a perspective.  However, I would stand my own self critic up against anyone else's, it's pretty brutal and has had a lot of practice.

For me-the "after effects" of obesity are what has made me realize the full extent of shame I felt as a fat person, but it has also allowed me to fully realize that what is inside really DOES matter more.  Remember that old Neil Young song "we are star stuff, we are golden......."  we really are. 

Deb I do not see baggy skin as a problem for me the tummy tuck is a medical need...I have thought about arms, legs and thought where will it end if I start...I am content with having everything sag...beats me being 478 pounds any day. The compications from surgery ie plastic is so huge that i dont want any more time off from living...For the past year I have had more down time than anything else....as you said 6 wek intervals of not working really sucks... I have had 5 of them so far and another one coming up.
I just wished there was a way that I could have tightened up my skin. A lesson learned..

Kiddo-I know the TT is a medical need-not banging on you for that or for anyone who wants it just cosmetically.  You've had a rough ride on this one, and I hope you can really spend the recovery time from this last one doing just that-recovering, resting, healing mentally and physically.  You deserve it.

deb i kinda feel like one of those abused animals...I just want to be left alone but at the same time I need to be petted....this jopurney as been one hell of a ride...
have I said how much i appreciate you? Cause I do

Aw sweetie-you make me cry.

Do you want to borrow Prissy or Lily for a few days?  They are practically like hamsters instead of dogs and if you are having some time that you feel alone, they are pretty helpful.   Not a forever thing, I know you have things in flux, and I don't know if I could actually part with either one of them (despite what I've said) but I could do it for a weekend if it would cheer you up.

 

(All my dogs are loving, but I'm thinking small, easily concealed here.)