My daughter

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on 10/11/08 2:16 am

At 18, you are right, she can do what she wants. If she can figure out how to pay for it, jump through the hoops, attend all the appointments herself, she is ready for it. If she needs you to do any of those things for her, she's not.

I would support her by saying "ok, what are you going to do first?" and allow her to plan it out and follow through. Weight Loss, in some ways, is a solo project, and until she is ready to move alone, she's not ready. WLS is the same way-giving her the tool won't help her know how to use it. Letting her get the tool herself, probably will.

You have your own surgery, weight to worry about. Be a good example for your daughter by taking care of yourself. I really think this "selfless to the end" stuff is a part of what is wrong with our kids today-I'd rather teach my kid to be self sufficient than selfless.

sherrie T.
on 10/12/08 7:42 pm - CLAREMORE, OK

I talked to Denise again about her having wls and i was calm, cool and nervous.. She said she has been doing some more reading on it. She did alot of research with me when I started this journey. She says she is still undecided as to if she is really prepared to go through with it. She also said when she decided what she was going to do i would be the first one she tells. I am just going to put it in gods hands and see how it goes.

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