Is there a support meeting at WW on Oct 2?

I have a appt with DR B at 3:30 PM on Oct 2.. I think I heard about a support group going on that evening at 6:30 PM?  Is this information correct?  If so, and if DH is feeling up to it, I may be gone longer than expected.  My GF is picking up the kids from school that day and will keep them for a playdate but she will need to bring them home sooner than I will get home.

And on another note:  I was ready to give up my WLS for DH while in the hospital.  I want him to have the surgery, he has high blood pressure, diabetes, works in the public.  I on the other hand have bad back, knees, ankles, but no medical conditions as of yet.  He wants me to do it first because I am the caretaker of the family.  And I can appreciate that, but I feel selfish or doing it before him.  We can only afford 1 surgery at this time.  He says, when he sees my success and watches me go through it he will do it next year.  But it's so hard to agree to have it done before him.  He than said, he would ask his mommy for the money to have his done next year.  Should I be more pushy to have him have it first?  Even my GF thinks I should have it done first because I am the caretaker.  She mentioned that before I even told her what DH said about me being the caretaker..  It's so hard...

And on another note..LOL.. Like this wasn't enough..  Dr Mann doesn't want to do DH's hernia yet if he is considering WLS..  To much interference with the mesh and such.. So now DH will have to live with his hernia for another year before he gets it fixed.  WLS first than hernia repair..

Any and all input is greatly appreciated.. Just throwing my thoughts out there.  It seems better to write them out than keep them bottled up..

Thanks for reading if you made it this far..LOL..

Sheila
  

Yes, there is a support group meeting on October 2nd at 6:30.  The first 1/2 of the meeting is going to be a clothing exchange.  We can take anything that we can carry up stairs to exchange...all is free.  We have to take home what is leftover since there is no storage at WeightWise.

I don't think you're selfish at all for having the surgery first.  You were on track for this before your husband got sick.  You are the one who cares for the children and him of course and if his Mom will finance his procedure next year then there ya go.  Maybe the surgeon who does his WLS could also fix the hernia and get the insurance to pay for part of the WLS as you go???  Just a thought!

I gave you a wrong time.  The time is 6:00.  The first hour is the clothing exchange and the 2nd hour is for round table discussions.  (It's the best part in my opinion)

Can anyone attend the meeting?  And I wonder if this would count toward the 1 meeting you need before surgery.  Just thought I could knock out 2 tasks with one trip.  However, will keep attending support meetings just closer to Claremore than Edmond.

Thanks in advance,
Sheila

Yes if you attend a WW Support Group meeting at any time it qualifies for your required group meeting - you will get a form to fill out that will go into your chart that night.  The support group meetings start at 6:00 pm - this time will be a clothing exchange early in the meeting and then a roundtable session for questions/answers/successes/failures, etc.

 

I can't speak for which Support Groups will qualify you or not. They do give you a form that you can fill out if you need one, so maybe it will.

I have three hernia's. One huge one down from Gallbladder scar down. I have a huge buldge there...Then I have one on each side, low where they have done different surgeries. It would be useless for me to have any of those repaired until I get rid of some of this weight.
I have lived with mine for to many years to count. There are times I am in extreme pain and other times I do ok...Dr. Walton even said there was no way to repair them now because of the stress from the weight pushing on the muscles.
I am waiting  to win the lottery and can get everything fixed at one time!!  That should be real soon!

Dear Mrs. P-I know what you mean, but a bad back, knees and ankles ARE medical conditions too.  Being out of pain for the first time in years is the most amazing thing!

I'm just full of advice today-and I think you should have the surgery first because if you did it at the same time you wouldn't focus at all on yourself-and for this to be a success you are going to have to learn to look out for yourself too.

One of the hardest things we girls seem to have to learn is that we DO take care of others when we take care of ourselves.  Help your husband by setting a good example for him and being a WLS success. 

I don't know your husband, so I am speaking from my feelings only.  A man has (or should have) a inner desire and is "ingrained" to provide for his family.  The family comes first.  My father was like that, and I am too.  My needs and wants comes second behind them.  If my wife and I were considering the surgery at the same time, I would want her to go first.  She comes first, always.  My wife is not even considering it right now, and my mom gave me the money for the surgery (she's an awesome woman).  If the time ever comes that she wants the surgery, I will do everything to make it happen for her.  When he says he wants you to do it first, he means it.  Go, and realize he is doing that because you come first and he loves you.  Michael

Michael, what a wonderful thing to say, and I can tell you really mean it! Wow, that was so sweet of you, and your wife is a lucky woman (and very nice too!)

GlitterGal was right by calling you "Muffin"

Michael,

You are such a sweet gentleman and what a way with words.  You brought tears to my eyes, and I felt like you really meant it.. (which I know you did).. Sounds like you are amazing person and my DH is just like you..  Thank you very much for your kind words, I really took them to heart.. You are so sweet and thank you for chiming in..

Thank you to everyone else for chiming in as well.. I will be at the meeting on Thursday so look out for a girl feeling out of place..LOL.. Standing around looking like she needs a friend.. he he he..

See you all Thursday..

Thanks again for everyone's kind words, it makes me feel so much better..