Thursday Question

Good morning friends......

Here is a question for the day!!!!

What is the first thing you notice about a person?  Do you think that first impressions are everything?  Are you a good judge of a person after just being around them one time?

Being the way you are with noticing people do you think you try to live by the way you percieve people? 

 Excellent questions!

First thing I notice about someone is their personality.  Or lack of.  LOL  I think first impressions say a lot, but they're not everything.  I'm a pretty good judge after being around someone once.  I seem to get this "vibe" and my intuition is usually right.  

However, DH and I have been on the bad end of first impressions.  We own a business and he works in a uniform.  He went into a little boutique buy an expensive Italian Porcelain Rooster that we saw in the window and loved.  The owner questioned our ability to afford it.  He kept asking if Randy realized how much it was.  Randy finally said he didn't care, he just wanted it.  Believe it or not, we went back to that store one day and the owner apologized over and over.  Said he learned a valuable lesson about first impressions.  We ended up becoming good friends with him.  

So, I think I am pretty correct with my first impressions of people, but I always keep my mouth shut, mind open and thoughts to myself.  Never know when you're going to be wrong.  

First thing I notice about a person there attitude. I dont think first impressions are always right. I have met many people that i didnt think i liked right off and later learned they were good kind people.. but the opposite has happened too.
I know i am not a good judge of a person after being around them once.. that is the reason i get taken advantage of so much.
I dont think i try to live any certain way. I am just me.

The first thing I notice are the eyes, then the heart of the person...if they look at you in the eye, you can see the heart....Or I feel it.  I have been judged by looks and clothing. Once was in Kambers...I had just cleaned 3 houses and was going there to buy something....They would not even talk to me....I finally asked the sales lady who was chatting with the other one that I wanted to speak to the manager...That got me no where. so I left to never return...
 I also went to Mathis Bro after one of my cleaning jobs and had the same treatment. I was there to make a purchase!!  I have been asked not to sit on certain chairs for fear I would break them and I have been belittled by family for being fat....Even my mom...It is painful to recover from that...Years and years!
I am a great judge of character...Yeah right, I was married to the wrong man for 41 years!!!! I did figure it out!! lol No I can usually tell if a person is a big liar, user, hypocondriac, whine bag...and so on...I can tell right away if I connect with someone or not....If I don't, then I just don't. It's not their problem. Some personalities are like that. I never judge by weight though I had it done to me soooooooooo many times. I love any size person...and I can honestly say that. hmmmmm anyone but myself.....now that is a question for another day! lol

The FIRST think I notice is teeth!!  I know, it's terrible but I can't help myself! 

I think 1st impressions are everything so always put your best foot forward! 

I'm a pretty good judge of people.  My only fault in judgement is that I tend to want to give everyone the benefit of the doube even when my gut is telling me otherwise.

I absolutely try to live by my theory.  I take it very hard when people have a misconception about me upon meeting.  I usually prove them wrong at the end of the day but I don't like the confusion to begin with!

This is a good question-I've gotten really perverse lately about putting out a bad impression when I go to buy something......I'll go from gardening to buy a car (literally I did that a few months ago).  But for some reason (and it's been since I lost weight) I really want to be treated well because I'm a human being, not because I can afford whatever it is I am there for.  And while I can see that the saleman should dress nicely, why should I?  Why should I try to impress him?  The car experience was very interesting because instead of getting angry, I just turned and walked off.  He said "where are you going?" and I smiled and said "To look for someone who will take me seriously and wants to sell me a car."

 

After that we worked very well together and I think we both learned something-he about making judgements (and he was not from this country, so I was a little surprised that he would be so judgemental) and me about keeping my temper.  If I hadn't kept my temper, we both would have learned nothing.

 

(Car buying is one of those things I am militant about because people still haven't figured out how to sell a car to a woman-duh, try respectfully).

 

I traveled a lot-and what I notice tends to be situational and safety oriented-body posture, eye contact or lack thereof, where the hands are and how close the person is to me.  Once I figure out if a person is safe or not, I'll move into the pleasantries, etc.  Like most people-I think I look for things that are similar to me, so I can relate to that person. 

In a business situation, I want to figure out where this person fits in-purely tactical, but business is business.  In a social situation, I try to start from a place that here we are, both in the same place at the same time-isn't that cool-and move from there, but probably the first thing I want to know is "what is this person's state of mind"?  If someone is clearly agitated or upset, I try to postpone judgement for a later time, and if they are really agitated or upset, I get the heck out of there.....

As a teacher I have to size up the whole person pretty quickly.  I think what I notice first is grooming.  You can learn so much about someone by paying attention to their personal hygiene.  If they don't care about themselves they convey that loudly by their hygiene.  I am not talking about designer clothes but plain old combed hair, brushed teeth, etc. I can also figure out really quickly when  kiddo is in trouble- either from a change in family resources or with depression.  I teach primarily emotionally disturbed teens. So, I pay a lot of attention to these things.

The first thing I notice is a person's smile and their eyes.  My DH smiles with his mouth and his eyes!  Perfection! 

I think it takes more than just a first impression to get to know some people.  Some people are just lay it all out on the line all the time types and you get what you see.  Others like me are quiet and slow to let people in at first.  Once I get to know someone I am totally different.  I can be loud and funny and goofy.  It may be because I am a Gemini???  Joking   Because I am like this, I know others can be very different from the first impression I get. 

The only person I can pick out with great accuracy is the extremely dominant type A over-opinionated bulldozer type.  They are my worst nightmare so I have learned to recognize them from a mile away so I can steer clear of them!  They scare the bejeebers out of me!  lol  I am just so easy going that they tend to see me as weak and commence to stomping all over me...which then starts a war..because I am not weak I am just flexible...but if you back me in a corner it's going to get ugly.  Those personality types and I just don't mesh...so I do judge them pretty quickly and keep my distance!  Life is too short....so I like to hang with the live and let live kind of people!

Even with my fear of the over dominant types, I try really hard to not judge a book by it's cover....a lot of people write me off as boring and quiet...and they miss out because they don't  give me a chance...so I try really hard not to do the same thing to others....sometimes it is harder than other times!  lol 

One thing I have learned in the business world is to follow the lead of the customer.  If they are quiet and all business...so am I.  If they are funny....so am I.  If they are friendly, warm and open...so am I.  I haven't learned how to incorporate that in the large group setting though...maybe one day.  :o)