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I'm with HappyCat on this one too. I was content (or so it seemed) to be single for 24 years and now I find that since I am more outgoing, I want (NEED) a relationship with someone besides family! I do NOT want to be alone for the rest of my life like I have been for the last 24 years!
I have WAY WAY WAY more confidence and self-esteem than I did prior to surgery! Even better is that I am a HAPPY person more often than not! I do not want to be around those who bring me down and I do not want to be the "one" who has to bring them up any longer! I know that this is selfish, but I am really tired of being the "caretaker" of every one else's problems!
I know that sounds pretty selfish, but (as I have told many of you) it is TIME to be selfish and care for yourself! Now I just have to figure out how to juggle that "more carefully" so that it doesn't appear to be hurtful! That is a trick!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE doing things with my OH friends and I could never have had the success and boost to my self-esteem if it had not been for you guys! I am definitely looking to the future and trying to find out what will make me happy on a long-term basis! Yes, this includes dating ALOT and yes, sometimes it borders on way way too many BUT I have a few years to make up for and I do not want to SETTLE for just someone who pays attention to me - I want it ALL! I want the man whose breath catches when he sees me - jeans or dress - and who wants to care for me and love me AS ME and not as what he thinks I should be. I have finally realized that I deserve someone like that!! And I mean to find him!!!
So you better lock your single men friends up!! Wait... there are a few of us here who would like to meet him actually!!! roflmao....
I have WAY WAY WAY more confidence and self-esteem than I did prior to surgery! Even better is that I am a HAPPY person more often than not! I do not want to be around those who bring me down and I do not want to be the "one" who has to bring them up any longer! I know that this is selfish, but I am really tired of being the "caretaker" of every one else's problems!
I know that sounds pretty selfish, but (as I have told many of you) it is TIME to be selfish and care for yourself! Now I just have to figure out how to juggle that "more carefully" so that it doesn't appear to be hurtful! That is a trick!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE doing things with my OH friends and I could never have had the success and boost to my self-esteem if it had not been for you guys! I am definitely looking to the future and trying to find out what will make me happy on a long-term basis! Yes, this includes dating ALOT and yes, sometimes it borders on way way too many BUT I have a few years to make up for and I do not want to SETTLE for just someone who pays attention to me - I want it ALL! I want the man whose breath catches when he sees me - jeans or dress - and who wants to care for me and love me AS ME and not as what he thinks I should be. I have finally realized that I deserve someone like that!! And I mean to find him!!!
So you better lock your single men friends up!! Wait... there are a few of us here who would like to meet him actually!!! roflmao....
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COURAGE IS NOT THE ABSENCE OF FEAR BUT RATHER
THE ABILITY TO CONTINUE IN THE PRESENCE OF FEAR.
Ruth and Denise...you will find what you are looking for. You both deserve exactly what Ruth described...someome who wants to care for you and love you as you are! You are both strong, beautiful, smart, sexy ladies and I know there is someone very special waiting around the corner.
190 lbs lost
VSG 07/2008
lower body lift 10/2010
upper body lift 11/2011
Post op here. The biggest change I have noticed besides my weight/size is that I CAN WALK!!! I used to only be able to stand or walk for maybe 5 minutes if that much. Now I am walking all over the place without my knees, feet, or back hurting. We have a trip planned to Branson in Oct and normally I would be somewhat dreading the Silver Dollar City part because of the walking and not fitting on rides. Now I can't wait because I think I might be able to fit on some rides this time and the walking won't bother me.
190 lbs lost
VSG 07/2008
lower body lift 10/2010
upper body lift 11/2011
I have to say that the biggest non-weight loss change for me has been energy. I would come home from work, eat and park it. I couldn't summon the energy to do ANYTHING on a weeknight. Therefore, my weekends were very full with trying to catch up on all the things that didn't get done during the week. And I used to sweat all the time even if I wasn't doing anything that should cause sweating. I only sweat now when I exercise or mow the lawn. It was 80 in the house last night and I was comfortable. When my daughter came home she said it was hotter than Hades and I said...hmmm I hadn't noticed. Weird! I LOVE THAT EVERYTHING THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE IS NO LONGER PHYSICALLY EXHAUSTING!!!
ONEDERLAND!!!! FINALLY!!!! WHOOOO HOOOOO!
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on 9/6/08 2:10 am
on 9/6/08 2:10 am
Lot's more energy-more doing and less theory.
The bar has been raised on self esteem too. I'm such a good faker of self confidence I always appear to have some, but self esteem is harder to fake-you either have it or you don't. Still shooting for high self esteem low ego.....tough mark to hit.
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