Is it weird?

Is it weird that I don't have a goal weight in mind? I just want to be happy and healthy. If it comes at 200 lbs, 180 lbs or 150 lbs, I don't really care. I just want to be a healthier person. Am I setting myself up for failure by not picking a goal weight?

That may actually be a healthy way to think about it-just work towards health, not a number on a machine.

Nope!  No failure here!  I'm just like you.  The number is not all that important to me.  I want to be healthy, feel good and fit all the places I should fit.  My nut decided on 150 and that's ok by me.  In fact, I would think I died and went to weight loss heaven if I made it there.  If I don't, that's ok too as long as I am healthy!!!

 This is probably morbid but when I die, I would like to have a normal size casket.  I never realized caskets came in sizes and that extra large costs has to be built and isn't normally stocked.  Can you imagine having to wait to get buried because the casket wasn't in your size?   donna

You know...it is kinda funny now, but at the time it wasn't. My dad died weighing in at 350. He was a Col. in the Air Force and had his dress blues ready for when he died....Only the uniform had to cut down the back  to fit him and then when they put him in the casket he looked all scrunched up...We had no idea what to do....he just didn't fit. They had to special order one to be sent right away so he would fit....It was not a good thing to deal with at the time....so sad...Now we kinda laugh, but deep inside I have that fear also!

Ok - I know this is not a funny topic, and I'm sorry for what you went through with your dad's passing.

BUT - years ago, before my mother had RnY, when she was probably at 350+ or so, she told me she had an agreement with the local (small town) undertaker that if anything happened, he was to bury her in a dress she had from high school... she told him anything that wouldn't fit in the dress she wouldn't need any more at that point.

Now she's had RnY and PS and she could probably fit in that dress today...

John

I don't think it is weird at all! I am the same way. People ask me all the time how much I want to get to and look shocked when I tell them I would be happy with anything less than what I am now. They can't understand why I don't want to be 115 lbs. I tell them I am not trying to be a super model, I am just trying to be healthy!

I'm right there with all of you.  When they asked me about a goal weight I just told Dr. W I had no idea.  I really didn't care because I never thought I'd ever need to worry about getting there.  I still don't care.  I just feel so much better, have more energy and I know I'm healthier.  No more insulin, no BP medicine, no anti-depressants.  That was my goal was to be healthier.  If I get smaller which I am, that's just a plus!!!  I think we're all in a win win situation here don't you??  Have an awesome weekend!!!

 Funny you bring this up.  Last visit with Dr. B we talked about how the "typical" amount of weight lost after WLS is 65% of your excess.  Well, that's where I am.  He feels good about my progress and expects me to go further.  Truly, I'm happy with the size and progress, and knowing it could be more difficult from her on out, actually motivates me more.  I've looked at the "charts" and know ideally I should be 135.  However, instead of a goal weight, I just want to be NORMAL on the charts.  (Ok, I'll never be truly normal, but I mean with my weight so the other doesn't count here).  I'm overweight now so after being morbidly obese for years, that is such a difference.  Every step we take physically and every good choice we make eating is making us healthy no matter what the scale says.  What an amazing thing we've all done.  Happy Friday!!  

Cindy

Joy~ I don't think you're setting yourself up for failure at all.  I set several "mini-goals" along the way, I guess you could say.  My surgeon set my goal to weigh between 155-165.  Honestly, he still wants me there.  I am around 135.  125-140 is what I want to weigh and what I work to maintain so we butt heads at times, but, as long as I'm healthy, it's ok.  Doing things the healthy way is the right thing to do and it sounds like you're on the right track already. *hugs*