Emotions Going Wild?

I am 5 days post op and I feel like my emotions are going wild.  Yesterday I was so tired of hearing my teenage daughter ask me for a new car I just started yelling at her, she already has a really nice car that most teenagers would like to have but she is very spoiled and she just thinks she deserves a new car (spoiling her was her fathers and my mistake). And then last night while asleep I had a dream about some very personal, emotionally painful things that I went threw about a year ago, and all I could do this morning was cry. And to top it all off my husband brought home 3 pizzas from work today when he came home, I think it would have been ok. if i was at the stage where I could actually eat something. No I would not have eaten any pizza but I could have had a piece of cheese or some tuna or something, I just thought it was a little insinsitive of him, but he said that just because I couldn't eat it doesn't mean that he and the kids can't.  He is right.  They arn't the ones who made the decision to change their lives.  But yet this brought on another crying spell.  I did eventually get over it. Anyway All iwant to know is this normal or is it just me?

I can't speak from experience but it does seem like a completely normal reaction to a stressful situation. And lets face it, having your insides rearranged and deciding to change your life for the better is a stressful situation. It is probably a good thing that you realize this now and can adjust for it. Good luck in your recovery!

It is my understanding that it's absolutely normal. You've had major surgery, and I understand that it does a number on one's hormones, as well. Your life has just changed, majorly, so it stands to reason that you're feeling a bit unsure of it all. Plus, if you had any attachment to food, it's rather like the grieving process. Your dream may be an extension of all that OR it may mean that your subconscious realizes that you're ready to tackle some issues.
You will be fine. Allow yourself to cry. Except for using food, do whatever is comforting to you. Pamper yourself.
Yes, your husband has a point, but it would be fine for you to communicate with him (nicely, of course) that you need his support right now, and if he could avoid bringing home food you can't have, you'd appreciate it and you promise he can do that in the future. It's worth a try.
Blessings,
Mary

Totall normal!  For whatever physical reason, this kicks off some hormonal issues.  I remember being rather "pissy" on the Saturday after my Wednesday surgery.  It was my low emotional point.  But someone said to my, "Are you happy?"  And the answer was a huge YES!  I felt so blessed to be able to have the surgery. 

Yes, it was totally insenstive of your husband.  He obviously doesn't understand how hard the liquid stage is.  I think you should go in to another room while they enjoy their dinner.  After they have cleaned up, you can rejoin them. 

Please know that all of this will get better as soon as mushies start.  Then you will feel like a real person again.  You will even laugh at this stage later but not until you get some dang food!  It's "only" 2 weeks and you will get through it.  Just think of it as your job to protect your staple line and to heal for now. 

Good luck and vent to us any time you need to! 

Kim

I consider myself a "Life Consultant" I can tell you what to do or how to fix your life...but don't get me started on mine....I know nothing about what you are going through....BUT all these women..ok I lied...a few of these women have started having a rekindling of hot flashes...Now, if surgery can do that....that says to me that it can cause all kinds of emotions to go nuts!!  Yelling at your daughter is an emotional reaction.Tell her to pull her big girl panties up and deal with the car she has. Then tell her how your parents rode a horse to school with their 8 siblings on the back of it or go back another generation......Crying is for sure an emotional reaction...Now that we have diagnosed that....You can relax and say "It's just an emotional reaction"
I am sorry, but I will say your hubby is right. Do you expect everyone to be on liquids???  Maybe he should have slipped it in when you weren't looking...or maybe left it in the car and just ran out for bites off and on....but let's be real. You have a few days left for liquids and mushies...It is going to be hard, but you are a strong woman who will be so glad that you were in control over the pizza cravings later. You don't know this but you made me really glad about something.....I am glad I have no children living at home now and my ex hubby lives with my daughter!!! It's just me and my dog....See how your upsetting day has just made someone elses? Thank you for posting today! Chin up and hang on....Mushies will be there soon....Oh and by the way, I think I have read where some have scrapped off the toppings and totally enjoyed that later on the steps to your new life!!!  Sherry

Thanks everyone for letting me vent, I am feeling better now that I have had a nap and a sf popsicle.   

I'm glad you're feeling better now.  Yes, the first few weeks after surgery is an emotional roller coaster -- you might let your husband look the site over and read -- education is good for both of you.  Everything everyone above has said is 100 percent true.  The only thing I saw missing is no pizza is ever going to taste better than you're going to feel when the weight falls off !!!!  

Bless your heart!  Yes you are normal. Those first couple of weeks are rough.  The first seven were the most difficult for me.  I felt a bit pitiful a few times so I understand.  Hang in there.  It gets better I promise.

Yes, it's perfectly normal.

Tell hubby next time to stop off and bring you a jar of marinara sauce so you can at least get to share the taste.  Tell your daughter to back off or you will take the car she has away from her (and mean it).

These are simple action item things that kids and husbands understand......getting into the feelings stuff at this point is only going to make you cry harder.

hunny, hunny, hunny...

You gotta show your hubby how it feels.  Next time he wants pizza, you should go get it.  Buy 3 of them but make sure you leave 2 of them in the car.  With the last one you should make sure it's his favorite,  then pour one of those "clear kinda drink mixes that we use in our water all over that pizza and bring it in and  serve him and just wait until he takes a bite and says what the ($&% !! 

Then you can properly illustrate what it's like to be so tempted only to have someone not concider the outcome of forgetting others around them.  once e cools down, bring in the cheese pizzas and take 3 slices and rake the toppings off and eat them, leaving he and your daughter to fight over the other pieces.   I bet he won't make that mistake again.  And hey, if he gripes, then don't give him any fun for a few weeks...that might tone him down a bit...

Just my 2 cents... and a poke in the eye....hehe

T.