I am 3 months post-op today- long

Congratulations on your success, and here's to many more WOW moments!!!! (those are protein shakes, of course, hee hee)

Remember, as many have said before, our surgery is on our tummy, not our mind.  That being said, there will be good days and bad days, but as time goes on, those bad days get less and less.  You already have such a great attitude that you will be ooooooooozing that self confidence with every step in no time at all!!!

Denise-you are not alone in the relationship confusion.  Here's the situation as I see it (remember I suck at relationships but I do observe people who have healthy ones...LOL).

In our demographic, women outnumber the men, and many women are out there "competing for men" which is a complete joke to me.  It was fun when I was 16 and hormones were racing-well, the hormones still race but it's no longer fun.

Most of the really decent guys (at least at first glance) want a 24/7 thing and I can't hang with that.  I can handle the exclusive sexual relationship clause, but I don't want someone following me around 24 hours a day asking me what I'm doing.  My things I want to do list include a lot of alone things-a spiritual retreat at Essalan, swim with the GW Shark and heaven forbid anyone even look at me when I'm writing! 

And then there is the animal thing-there are people of both sexes who I admire with regard to handling ability, husbandry knowledge, etc, but someone telling me what to do with my critters because he's a man and thinks he knows what he's talking about-uh uh.

After paving the way for women in business and all kinds of great things-I think our generation is now going to have to work on redefining relationships.  I do know several people who have what I consider partnerships and it works for them, so I think there is hope.

I've always said if I ever remarried-he would have to live across the street....LOL.

Hurray for all the good things, Denise! There's a very deserving man out there somewhere who will get an amazingly awesome woman when  you finally meet.

Denise,

I am so happy for you.  It sounds like you have gone through a LOT of changes in the last 3 months - positive changes.  And you've kept a happy, upbea attitude.  You have a lot to be proud of!
Robyn

How exciting for you Denise! Your new love of life is clearly evident. It gets me so excited for my future. Thank you for posting this!

Congratulations Denise!!!

I'm so happy for you ... and for all of us!

I'm hoping you find the man of your dreams with a gentle and caring heart, honest to the bone, and a hunk, too!!! ; )

Denise, I just read your post this morning and I so needed to see it.  I have been somewhat down for some reason or another.  I feel like I am loosing it sometimes and feel all shakey inside.  I need to constantly remind myself of all the good things (which are many, many, many) that have come about with my WLS.  Like John posted back a few weeks ago we still have problems, still have to work, still have to pay bills, still have struggles with family and our jobs but...we have at least one problem that is getting better by the day and that is the disease of obesity.  We are winning that one and our health is all so much better because of it.  This makes handling all the rest a little easier.  Besides all your things you have listed I consider myself so very lucky to have so many many new wonderful friends who have something in common with me.  The commoness that other family and friends could never relate to or understnad.  You are awesome...my friend!  That special someone will be here before you know it.  I'm praying that God is making that arrangement as we speak!!  That perfect gentlemen will be here before you know it!  You go...girlfriend!!!