Got the Answer

Well hubby finally talked to his brother and he said NO, he cant help us with the loan for the surgery. It's just not meant to happen for me. I give up I can not deal with the disappointment anymore. Thank you all for being there and being supportive of me.

 Hi, Sherrie, Its got to be really hard to keep going and hoping with all of this.  I will keep you in my prayers and hope for the best for you.  donna

Sherrie, I am sorry about the surgery.  Please don't give up on health.

Sherry, I'm SO sorry.  I know you have been working for this for years.  :::Big hugs and a shoulder:::

kat

Sherry,  I'm so disappointed to hear about the news.  I wouldn't give up if I were you.  I've always made things happen when it seemed as though life was pushing me away from my goals. 

You've got to make a choice to continue to find alternative routes you can take to accomplish this goal.  I'm assuming you have no insurance?  How's your credit?  If it's bad, you can get it repaired and take good care of it for a year or so, then put the surgery on a card....  or mortgage the house...um.. get a different job that has better insurance.  Start seling stuff you don't want or need.   There's always a way, you must look harder and deeper for the answer.  Luck doesn't determine the outcome, your actions and determination dictate what will happen.  So pull up your bootstraps and get angry and get determined to make hardcore, positive changes in your life.  If surgery isn't the answer, then living low carb, should be the next step.

One reason why Doc B knew I was a good candidate for surgery was due to the way that I chose to diet.  I would go on a militant version of atkins 3 times per year pulling off 80 pounds each time, then going off diet I would gain like crazy, then go back on the atkins method to lose it again.  So it's hard, and it's not cool giving up on all of the foods you want, but if you want, I'll coach you on how I did it and I'd be there if you need me through email or phone calls to keep you on track.  It just takes your commitment and dedication.  And just think, other methods of getting your surgery financed might come up, and in the mean-time you could still be losing the weight.  I'm willing to give you my time and energy and dedication to helping you lose the weight.  it's a sincere offer and not lip service.  The choice is always yours, but I really hope and pray that this is looked at as a challenge that you can succeed beyond.

T.

Sherrie,

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I agree with Cowboy though, DON'T GIVE UP!!  Use all your energy to work on things to help you move foreward like working on your credit, etc. instead of letting your emotions pull you in the wrong direction toward the fridge!

Keep your head high, you've gone this long and done so well!  Remember, it WILL happen along God's plan.

Dot

Sherrie~ I agree with Thomas on this one.  I wouldn't just give up, girl.  I would get angry and determined and start trying to find out all my options from financing to finding a job with better insurance to low-carbing it.  I am the same way as T, I don't have it in me to give up easily either.  We are all still here for you and I know I'll help you brainstorm and think of ideas in any way I can.  I am over 4 years post-op and I spent years prior to my surgery figuring out what to do. 

Sherrie, words can not express how sorry  I am about this!!  My heart is hurting for you right now. I know how hard it must have been for your hubby to ask for the help. I know how you are feeling. I really hope that some day, at WW we can start a scholarship fund to help people in your same position, even if it's just for certain parts of the surgery or tests.
I will say the same things to you that everyone else is saying....Don't give up, be willing to wait a bit more until things fall into place. The phrase that has kept me moving and not giving up is this:"You have not because you ask not."  If I got a NO answer...I asked somewhere else.
I humbled myself to ask my doctor if she could help me with the cardio doctor to get a cheaper test....I'm getting it for free. I am going to beg that same cardio to let me off the plavix until he says yes...even if I have to hold him down until he says I give up!! I'm not a begger type person. I have worked for everything I have without any help from anyone! Now, I have had to ask for help and it sucks....but I asked!!  Sherrie, you will get your surgery....just not on your time frame....
I swear after I am done and back to work...I am going to save some money each month to help pay it forward for others who are going through this....
I know how hopeless you are feeling right now...I do know. I also know that you have been hoping for so long, which even makes it more hard. My heart goes out to you. I know there are no words to comfort you....I know that. I wish I could hug you to make you know how much you are cared about by all of us.  Some how it will happen....Please step back for a few days and just let go of it....then begin thinking of fresh ways to make this happen. I am so so sorry?   Sherry

In know there are two options out there for funding.  One is through Capital One and the other is a medical credit card.  If you are interested in information on either of these two, let me know.  I'd be happy to get you the info.  In the meantime, keep your chin up. 

OH SHERRY PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP. I WENT THRU CIR****TANCES LIKE YOURS ABOUT 5 YEARS AGO WHEN I FIRST WANTED TO HAVE GASTRIC BYPASS. I HAD INSURANCE COVERAGE THRU MY JOB AND MY HUSBANDS AND NEITHER ONE WOULD PAY ONE PENNY TOWARDS IT. I HAD BASICALLY GIVEN UP AND MY JOB CHANGED INSURANCE COMPANIES AND I TRIED IT AGAIN. BUT I GOT THE SAME RESULTS. SO I SAT AND BROODED AND POUTED ABOUT IT FOR 5 YEARS. I HAD CO-WORKER GET THE SAME SURGERY THAT I WANTED ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO AND I AM EMBARASSED TO SAY THAT I HATED HER FOR IT. I TRIED AND TRIED NOT TO BE BITTER BUT I DIDN'T THINK IT WAS FAIR. SO AGAIN I SAT AND BROODED AND POUTED FOR 2 MORE YEARS. THEN MY HUSBAND AND I GOT SOME THINGS PAID OFF AND WE DECIDED THAT I COULD TRY FOR A LOAN FOR THE LAPBAND BECAUSE IT WAS CHEAPER THAN THE BYPASS. WHEN I FILLED OUT INFO REQUESTS FROM SEVERAL DIFFERENT DOCTORS I GOT THE CALL FROM WEIGHTWISE INFORMING ME OF THE GASTRIC SLEEVE AND I FELT THAT ALL MY PRAYERS HAD BEEN ANSWERED. WE HAD GONE THRU BANKRUPTCY SO I WAS HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS ABOUT GETTING A LOAN THINKING NO ONE WOULD LOAN ME MONEY AFTER THAT. BUT MY WONDERFUL PARENTS CO SIGNED FOR ME AND I WAS ON MY WAY. WHAT I'M TELLING YOU IS NOT TO GIVE UP BECAUSE WHEN IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO HAVE THIS SURGERY IT WILL HAPPEN. IT DOESN'T ALWAYS HAPPEN WHEN WE WANT IT TO BUT IT WILL HAPPEN FOR YOU. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP AND YOUR FAITH AT THE READY. PRAY A LOT AND KNOW THAT WE ARE HERE FOR YOU. GOOD LUCK!