Forgot to mention.......

I am in the clear.  I forgot with the hustle and bustle of school that I am not going to be a father...yet.  I am still friends with her but she knows I have to move on with my life and concentrate more on school and not on women (thats not that easy to do though, lol).  She had a tramatic experience 5 years ago and refuses to get professional help and i simply told her i could not invest in a relationship where i didnt know if her demons from her past would come out and end up breaking us up 5, 10, 15 years down the road.  I could not risk that. 

I have decided I am going ot wait AT LEAST two more months before I even go out on another date with someone.  I need some adjustment time.  I have had some prospects yes but none have panned out.  Maybe I was just trying to hard.

I'm glad you are not going to be a father now.  Or I'm glad that you're glad!

I'm so proud of you to realize that you deserve more from a relationship!  You are a great guy and you should never settle for less than a totally incredible woman.

Happy to be in your harem,
Kim

 Your plan of action is right on.  I think the best relationships start as friends and then you build on it.  donna

Dude! So happy to hear that you're not "in the family way" with that girl!  Too bad that I won't be in Tulsa to womanize with you.  There are so many terrific girls around here that would like to have a great guy in their life, so it shuldn't take you long to find a keeper!  I'll be giving you a shout in a day or two!

T.

Dan...  I'm glad that you are in the clear as you are not going to be a father... yet.  You are smart to put your concentration on school and wait a couple of months before going on another date.  Just think of what a hottie you'll look like in a couple of months from now with the weight loss.   

Still in the harem, as well, LOL~

Renae

Really, don't even THINK about going out for two months-then proceed with caution.

And, watch out for the just friends thing-it's pretty easy to fall into a familiar routine......

So you can breathe now and concentrate on what's important...you!  Just the fact that you were playing the waiting game about fatherhood is a HUGE wake up call.  Thank goodness it turned out the way it did.  Meaning a baby is a lifelong comittment and the best way is with someone you love and adore by your side.  It's great to know that now you will be able to step back and take the time to find that special person when you're ready.  Congrats on living the single life again!!

Hey there- Glad things are going well. The idea not to date for 2 months is a good one. I had decided about a year and a hal*****hat I wasn't going to date for 4 months. It was one of the best decisions of my life. And...quite frankly, I've only been out with 2 guys since then! lol It's by choice, though. When you take time off to focus on just you for a bit, it makes you realize everything you REALLY need or want in a relationship and there just aren't a lot of people out there that meet that criteria!!! I'm okay with waiting around...heck...I'll never date again if I have to! I'm just not gonna settle. Of course I've thought about settling....several times. lol Then...I snap out of it and realize it's just not worth it! Hang in there...you will find someone some day that is EXACTLY what you're looking for...and she'll be perfect for you.

Hugs-

Liz

Way to go, Dan the man, both on your attitude and your not being in the family way yet. I found my DH when I had decided to swear off men for awhile myself.

You should never settle for anything than the best. Rest assured, you won't have to be the one pursuing...you'll have to beat them off with a stick if you're not already. Heck, look at the classes you have! One day when you least expect it, there she'll be.

Anyway,  one word of advice: Not all women like womanizers unless they're not looking for a commitment. Date around. Be choosy (sp?), but first you need to decide what you want in a mate and what you want in your life. You've got a really good start, and maybe this is your wake up call that you're worth way more than you were getting into.

I am so glad it worked out the way you wanted it to.  I think it is a pretty smart decision to wait on dating.  It is important to focus on school but also on your weightloss journey.  I spoke to a lady at support group right after having my surgery and she told me that she had made the decision to focus the 1st year after her surgery on just herself.  I can see where she is coming from.  I think it was pretty mature decision.  I know that since my divorce in November and having surgery in February that I have been forced to focus on myself and get to know myself as just me, not someone's wife or mother.  Letting someone in right now would take the focus off of where it needs to be.

Sherri