Anybody else get depressed right after surgery?

I am really fighting the blues tonight.  I know I should be so thrilled to be on my way to a smaller healthier me, but tonight I'm not.  Hopefully, my spirits will improve as I finally get to eat.  It probably doesn't help that we've watched about 5 food shows.  Some of that food sounds so good and then other stuff doesn't.  I'm sorry to be so down today, but I can't seem to shake it and I ws hoping you guys could help me through it.  My DH doesn't understand.  He tries but he tries to tease with me and it only irritates me further.  Maybe that is part of why I am mourning my comfort foods.  It sounds so stupid to me to feel this way, but I can't help it.  Someone, please shake me so I can get over it already.

Thanks again for listening.

I had a small dose of that 3 days after surgery.  I was really pi$$ed that I couldn't eat and feeling really sorry for myself.  Then my brother-in-law called and asked me, "Are you happy?"  For me, that was an easy answer as it was a resounding YES!  So that shook me out of my funk!  We laugh about pulling on our big girl panties and that is the only thing that got me through liquids.  I did not want to  make my husband miserable since he had been so wonderfully supportive.  I figured the least I could do was suck it up and be happy I had a new chance at living as a normal weight person.

All I can say is that you will feel so much better when you can start mushies.  You will feel like a real person again.  Until then, try to be patient, don't kill anyone and keeping drinking those dang liquids!

Good luck!  You have made such a smart decision!

Hang in there!  This is really one of the hardest parts of the journey!  I somehow got through it on SF popsicles!  My husband was so cranky that we just avoided him all together.  There was just no talking to him!  I mourned the loss of food...he kind of got mad about it!  lol  But once you get on mushies you will feel re-born and when the pounds start melting off, you will be happy again.  When you face the hard times, try to focus on the positives.  There are so many.  We have been there and know the torture of liquids only...trust me...if I can do it ANYONE CAN!!!  I am so glad that you are better from the dehydration.  Take care of you!!!!

I do understand and I am sure when you have had a complication, even if "just" dehydration it is even worse. You are almost to mushies and will feel better. I would avoid the food shows for now. The commercials are bad enough! The hardest for me was that I tried to avoid the dinner table but my grandson would push me and tell me "eat". So I would sit there with my broth wishing for what they were eating. It is much easier now -- except that now he wants what I am eating. LOL. Jello and broth is what helped me. I can still do the broth but I don't think I will ever eat jello again!

Hang on!  There is a light in your horizon.  You will feel sooooo much better when you start eating soft foods.  It is still hard, but much more tolerable.  Honestly, there are lots & lots of soft things you can try and you won't feel so deprived.

As for the teasing thing, using food to tease a person w/ weight issues, who has gone to the lengths you have to lose weight, is NOT COOL!!!!!!!  You need to talk to your DH about this difficult period you are going through.  How would he like it if the situations were reversed and he were in your shoes right now (struggling to be good) and you were teasing him about what he can and can't have?  He would not like it one bit!   He probably hasn't given that much thought to what he is doing to you or how you feel when he does it.  Teasing in not support.  You may need to remind him of that..............gently.

Heck yeah!  I had to "fake" it because like Kim, my DH and family had been so supportive I didn't want to make them feel bad so I kept it inside.  Probably not the most healthy approach but then I would come on the VSG and OK board and read similar stories and it would make me feel better.  I will be a month out this Wed and I feel like a new person already so yes it does get better!

I was sad, and then I got pissed off.  I called it BAND RAGE.  It was a combo of hormones from weight loss, hunger, and frustration at NOT being able to eat, yet having well meaning people constantly monitor what I was eating.... and endless and I mean endless discussions about the band, WLS in general, what people SHOULD do to be thin, and the always popular "it's losing the weight it's keeping it off".

In other words, it was people who didn't need to lose a 100 pounds, had never lost a 100 pounds, telling me what it was like to be ME.

I hope it has made me more sensitive to how it must feel no matter what the issue.  Now, anytime I get the urge to say "Well, what I'd do is......" I stop myself and ask if I really do know what I'm talking about.  If I do, I explain why I do, then give my advice.  If I don't, I shut up or say I don't know.

Tell your husband you are having the WLS equivalent of PMS and for his safety and your sanity, he needs to treat it just like PMS......he'll get the message pretty quickly.

You are probably having a little bit of buyer's remorse at this point.  Liquids are horrible!! Once you get to mushies you will realize that life is once again worth living!  You will finally feel for certain the restriction that comes with the sleeve.  It is reassuring to feel that restriction.  It gives you hope that you WILL be thin and healthy.

Turn OFF the food shows!  You are watching food porn!!!  I found that even comercials were torture while I was on liquids.

You are also dealing with a hormone storm in your body.  Hang tough.  Mushies are coming!  Come post any time you need to vent.  That is one of the reasons we are here.

Denise

Thank you everyone.  Today we are watching Home Improvement shows!  That should help some.  My DH is really a sweetie and I think he means well but he sometimes just gets a little pushy about my drinking and his well-meaning teasing irks me.  Maybe it is just weight-loss PMS.  At least I know it is a normal feeling to be depressed.  I am better today.  I know it will get better when I can finally eat again, it just seems so far away (I know it's not).  I did finally tell him late last night that I was struggling and fighting depression and he was understanding.  He is also recuperating from a major back surgery so it is very hard for him too.  We are used to him being on the road for weeks at a time so having us both couped up together not feeling our best is already a little stressful.

I really appreciate everyone's encouragement.

Good to hear you are feeling better today and that you and your husband talked about what you are going through.   Sometimes you just have to s-p-e-l-l it out for them (men) before they get it and sometimes that doesn't even work.  I'm glad it worked w/ him.  Keep up the good work!  You've almost got the liquids-only-NIGHTMARE whipped.