OT--DEPRESSED

You would think that since I have had this amazing gift of WLS, and been able to lose 65 pounds in 3 months, off all my medicine that I would be in a better mood.  But I have noticed that in the past 2 or 3 weeks I keep feeling more and more depressed.  I have a wonderful daugher, a nice home, and great job.  But I still feel empty inside.  I know that DH and I have not always had a good relationship, nothing to terrible, just nothing good either.  I am not sure what else to do.  I look to this website for inspiration alot and there are people such as glittergal, and happy, and Rita that seem like you are always in a good mood, and I want that.  I am tired of feeling down in the dumps.

 

Oh Well

Thanks for the vent

Weight loss seems to open up more things to deal with-I guess we were eating to cover up some of those things.  Depression is such a nasty thing-and you are doing exactly the right thing by talking about it and reaching out.

Have you had a chance to exercise?  Sometimes even a quiet walk, connecting with nature.  Maybe a bit of counseling would help as well.  I'm a big fan of counseling for all kinds of life situations-it really helps to have an objective party to bounce things off of-friends are great, but I've found counselors to be more objective.

It's Ok to have a down day every now and then, but a down week is a bit worrisome.  I hope that you get some relief soon, even if its just a respite.

if a down week is worrisome, what about a down 3 years

Ok, now that reminds me of the line from Steel Magnolias....."I'm not crazy, I've just been in a very bad mood for 40 years....."

If you've had a down 3 years, you really need to get some kind of help before it gets worse.  The fact that you are opening up about it means you are strong enough to deal with it.  I had severe post-partum depression w/ my youngest child and was depressed 2 years before  I got it under control.  And about 6 weeks after the surgery I felt myself getting down again, and it was a real battle to pull out of it.  I had several different medications to help me those 2 years, but was able to pull myself out of it this time w/out them.  No matter how you decide to deal w/ it, just remember that children need happy mothers to feel happy, safe, and secure themselves.  I don't know if you need to change some aspect of your life that's really bothering you, get more exercise, go out w/ friends, get a new hobby or spend more time on an old one, take medication, go to counseling, or all of the above, but you really should try to do something about  it.  I remember trying to rationalize to myself too, about how lucky I was and how I had no reason to be depressed.  But depression is not logical.  It can affect anyone at anytime, and it doesn't matter how happy you think you should be.  PM me if you want to talk.  Diana

Hugs kiddo (((((((HUGS))))))) I have to be honest with you and tell you that I have felt the same way lately. I have these feelings of gloom and doom quite often. Usually it is just a phase and it passes****il the next time) lol. Seriously, If you think that it is getting worse, please try to see a professional about it.  I am sure you have had to make many adjustments in the last 3 months just like most all of us have. Any kind of surgery takes it's toll on you, but you have to remember we also had to give up something we enjoyed. The comfort of food.....OMG that's enough right there to drive one crazy.

Also keep in mind, just because everyone else seems like we have it all together, sometimes that's not always the case. We are all human and have our trials and tribulatuions. Anyway, hang in there and when the world gives you 100 reasons to cry, show the world you have 1000 reasons to laugh, Rita

Another thing you might keep in mind is the drastic change your body is going through.  You've dropped a lot of weight and I'm sure it's wreaking havoc on your hormones  !!  I, too, have gone through some ups and downs over the last months and just figured it, too, would pass.  Do talk to your doctor.  There are tests he can run to determine if your hormones are out of whack.   Keep your chin up !  And when things get too overwhelming just play Scarlett O'Hara -- Think about it tomorrow !!

Trust me I have had them lately too Karen.  I had to do one of the heardest things relationship wise I have ever had to do in my life.  Let someone go.  I hated it too but I cannot allow myself to get into the depressed low I was in for nearly 8 years of my life from 1997 to about 2004 or so.  I was LOCKED inside Laureatte hospital twice and was an outpatient once.  I will not let that control me anymore.  I saw myself spiralling that direction with this relationship, loving and not getting it back.  And i have been stalled now for about 2 1/2 weeks and its due to all this (at least part of it). 

So yeah I guess I just said it for all to see.....the Sultan is back on the market and back on the menu.

I also wanted to point out that most of have this is common-we ate to feel better, and with WLS that is no longer an option.  It's just a matter of finding other releases.  I called what I experienced Band Rage-because I spent a good month beng angry, and to be quite honest (which I usually am)-it felt GOOD.  I didn't act on my anger, but I did fully experience it, learn what it was about and came to realize that if I got mad about something, it wouldn't change the world a whole lot in either direction.

For me, sadness was the only safe emotion-but I'm learning now about the others.  Don't know why I wanted to tell you that, but I did.  *hugs*

I don't have much to add that hasn't been said before. So, I'll just give you lots of ((((((hugs)))))) and urge you to take care of yourself.

Playing the piano was always a good stress/depression buster for me. I"d go pound the hell out of it until I started feeling good again.