Tonight is the night!

Tonight is the night that I will show up at the group of knitting friends at the bookstore. I'm trying to keep my calm and hoping it goes well. I will be showing up friendly and with my knitting ... and hopefully the person that  doesn't want to see or hear from me since I had surgery will handle it. All of the other members had contacted me and wanted me to return....so I'm hoping for the best. If you'd hope the best for me tonight, I'd appreciate it. I'm already a bit nervous.

Shelly, you have nothing to fear.  Just walk in there like you belong, because you do.  You are still the same person on the inside.  Be gracious to the one that has issues but don't let her run you off.  It might be awkward at first but just be persistant and keep yourself in the conversation.  I bet after a few minutes it will feel just like the old times.  Maybe be sensitive to the person with issues and try not to discuss the weight loss past the initial comments and questions you will most likely get from those who haven't seen you.

That "B" can get glad in the same panties she got mad in!  She is the one with the problem - not you!  You belong with that group every bit as much as she does and maybe she should be the one to hit the bricks.  (took my aggressive pills this morning!) Just be your usual sweet self and everything will be fine.  Don't be nervous!  These people are your friends.  I would kill that gal with kindness - she'll melt!

Shelly, Remember to bring your fangs.  i hope you bite that ***** personally, but hey that's me...  You know you've got friends in the OH group you could bring with you....and hey I know I've got like 3 or 4 bats hanging around the house.... hehe T.

You gotta love a male's perspective!!! 

I will be thinking of you and  wishing you the best tonight. I know it will be a little tough but you can do it.  Don't give your power to that woman!!  You go and have a great time with your friends!  :o)

The big old grump can get over it!  She is NOT queen of the world.  Go knit and have a good time!   Denise P.S. maybe she needs some big girl panties????

you go girl! knitt me a pair of booties!  you will be fine and she will just have to get over herself.

Shelly, you know that you did what was best for you.  You didn't need anyone's approval and you most definately have the support of all of us and it's quite evident that of your DH!!  What more could one ask for.  She is a shallow person if she is handling your situation in this way.  After all, it is your situation and business as well as health!!  I have a sister-in-law that had decided that I offended her because I didn't let her and the rest of the in-law family know what was going on.  She found out because she "assumed".  I really don't care at this point.  It's my life and I figure at this point it it their problem not mine.  It was my life just like it your life and unless you've walked in our shoes you have no idea what it like....my inlaws are all small people and I've only felt criticism from them all these year...why don't you just push away from the table....REALLY...it was just that simple, NOT!  Go have a great time with your "friends" and don't worry about ONE...  Debbie

You go girl. When working with an agressive dog, I visualize the outcome I want, not the outcome I fear.  Visualize yourself walking in, everyone smiling and greeting you, and complimenting you on how great you look.  Say thanks and do not be self effacing-you do look great, you've worked hard and you've earned it.

Don't spend a lot of time trying to figure out what Ms. Nasty might do, or why she might do it.  Figure out how much snark you are willing to take, then look her right in the eye and in front of everyone say "can you please explain the problem you seem to have with me, I'd like to understand." in your best neutral voice....then let her explain and go from there.

I'd lay even odds you'll  never have to say it, but if you do, do your best to let her talk and listen and work it out.  I've given up understanding all the crappy little facets of weight loss and how it affects others and have moved to the simplier-this is how I want to be treated tactic.