Message from Amy's DH....

Hello!   Amy's DH here, which I am told means "dear husband" but have my doubts as to the true meaning of the acronymn.  Thomas (Cowboy), I believe, offered a possible alternative the other day.  Well, I'm new at this posting thing so bear with me.  I just have a few thoughts to share before Amy's surgery date.  First of all, let me say that I was 100% against surgery as an option for many years, but Amy and Dr. Broussard finally turned my thinking around.  I am simply amazed at the support Amy has received during this process, which also turned around my opinion about the internet as a social networking site.  Let's just say, DH has learned a great deal of late. Amy and I have been married for 19 years and I almost lost her on April 19, 1995 when she was trapped in the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building after falling three floors as the result of a madman's attempt to get even with the government.  While she was trapped for over six hours, I had no clue if she was dead or alive and it was the most helpless feeling I have ever experienced.  That being said, we DH's like to "control" things but life teaches us that we cannot always control cir****tances.  That is where my faith in God was strengthened, knowing I have to rely on Him and having faith that He has everything under control.  I'm employing the same faith as Amy goes under the knife this week.   For anyone that doesn't know Amy, she is an incredible woman.  She recently completed her bachelors degree while being a mom, wife, and very busy business woman.  Now, she is working on her MBA, doing weight loss surgery, speaking often at the OKC National Memorial as well as to schools, churches - anyone that will listen.  She is the most giving, caring person I have ever met and I will be the first to admit that I "married up."   I have this fear that one day she will realize that and I'll be thrown to the curb!  :-)     I am so proud of this woman.  She has been the best wife any guy could ever hope for and our son adores her.  I don't know where all her energy comes from and it scares me to think what she will be doing after losing the weight - yeah, like she needs more energy.  Look out, she may be the next Hilary.....although please don't take that comparison too far!   Ok, before the sappy talk goes any further, let me end simply by saying I appreciate what all of you have meant to Amy and thank you for your support and prayers from the bottom of my heart.  I will of course be posting updates after her surgery.  You guys are a terrific bunch of folks! Randy  (Amy's DH)

Randy that was very heartfelt and Amy is blessed to have such a caring man as a husband.  You are the type of husband i want to be someday man.  God is amazing is He not?  He has a higher purpose for Amy and He will guide her surgery and watch over her.  I can tell by your words you are so greatly proud of her and all of her lofty accomplishments.  She is one of us here and we love her dearly.  Look forward to your updates on how she is doing.  Best wishes and God Bless. Dan

I can imagine how hard it must be to sit by and feel helpless when you don't have a choice, and I imagine it's even harder when you  know she is volunteering to do this.  The only thing I can tell you is I don't regret for one minute that I did this.  It's not important that guys pay more attention to me now or even that I feel better about myself and can look people in the eye now and don't have to wonder if they are disgusted because of my weight.   What is important is I know that I will be here for my friends and family, that my quality of life is 360 degrees different in such a short time and my health will be immensely better.  Hold her hand, tell her you love her and support her in her choice and do the same when she wakes up.  She'll be feeling a little rocky, but you're there.  Everything is fine.  Lynette 

Randy, I'll be keeping both you and Amy in my prayers and will be anxiously waiting to hear that she's back in her room on Wednesday and that she's done fine!

Your words about her made me tear up ... in such a good way. We're all so thankful she survived the Murrah building tragedy and we are glad we have gotten to know her.

Yep, we're probably all going to need new tennis shoes to try to keep up with her after she recovers!!! And, I think she really did good when she married you, too! Hubby and I feel blessed like that with each other, too. ; ) 

What blessings we all have to count!

Hubby and I will be keeping both of you in our prayers.

Shelly

Hi Randy; let me be one to say that I think Amy is an exceptional lady, who has overcome struggles and obstacles just to get to the point of being able to have the surgery. I know that she will do wonderfully in this weight loss journey that she is about to embark on. There is no doubt that she is committed and in my opinion has already come so far and it shows that she is definitely ready for this and that she is a very strong lady. It has been my pleasure to be able to give Amy any suggestions/encouragements that she has needed so far and will be even happier to be there in the future. Just know that the support will definitely be there.   I sure hope to be voting for her one day!!! - Anna

Randy, Now that's impressive.  When a man can say such terrific things about his wife after the years go by, you know he still has that extra love burning in his heart for her.  You're probably one of the lucky guys who found that one person who defines what it is to be a soulmate.  And just think.....we know she's a tough cookie....so it's about time that she has the rest of her life enhanced to make the rest of her days more enjoyable with the family that she adores and a man who understands the meaning of love.  I try to make a difference in people's lives when I can do it, but it seems like she's made that difference in yours.... And just think....you're not losing an eating buddy....you're gaining a happier woman who will want to thank you for loving her like you do.... Your buddy, T.

Randy, you consider yourself lucky, but I believe Amy is even luckier to have you. I can't imagine my husband getting on here and writing the things you have. He still does not understand these online support groups.  I will be looking forward to hearing that Amy's surgery is over. Oh, and thank you for keeping me distracted during my visit with Dr Comp!

I love Amy too!  She has an awesome sense of humor which is something I really appreciate.  I always enjoy her posts!  I'm so happy we got her to this point and that her special day is just around the corner.  I know you have concerns but please know that she is in the very best of hands.  I, too, always was adamantly opposed to surgery!  It took me a long time to get to this point.  But a month after surgery, I'm feeling like this is the best thing I've ever done.  I know I'm not an old hand yet so you can take that for whatever it's worth. I will be seeing you on Wednesday as I come by to visit my little buddy.  (and getting littler!) What sweet, wonderful words you had for your woman.  You are both very lucky to have each other!  Please know that Amy is in our thoughts and prayers and that her OH family is here to take care of you both!

Randy, after reading your post I am confident that you and Amy deserve each other!  You are so sweet and you love your Amy so much!!!  I don't know Amy as well as others who have responded but from what you wrote I can tell that you both are wonderful people!!  We will be here for Amy all she has to do is ask.  You will both be in my prayers.  She is in GREAT HANDS!  I love Dr. B...he is AWESOME!  NO WORRIES!!!

You just made me miss the last of the Bachlorette, because I was crying and reading your post!! it was wonderful! I always wonder if there are real "men"out there who think like this, I have never known one.  I have seen some very precious men on here who are amazing in their thoughts about women and it gives me home that someday way way far away, I might meet one. I am so glad that Amy has you....It is wonderful to hear the love in your words....To use Tom Cruise's words...kinda. You seem to complete each other! That's a good thing! (oh that's Martha's words!) Anyway, our prayers are with you both and the family. Do keep us posted! She will be in the best hands.....God's and a great Doctor!  Sherry