Warning...I'm apparently having a bad day...bad mood...

I lost two good friends when I went through my divorce after being married for 20 years, I lost my singles group friends when I married my sweet hubby partly because he didn't want to go to a mega-church of 3000 people (which I understand completely) and partly because most married couples hang out with married couples and most singles with singles.  I'm so glad you don't think I am being selfish and you understand.  You used the exact right word...stuck...I want to get unstuck!

NOOOO It's not just you!!!!! Ok so put me in this circle of no friends! I have sat here, as usual, all alone all day long and look forward to all evening too and tomorrow....day after day.  I used to do things. I now hide. I don't even like talking to myself because I personal am down. I am or was a very out going fun loving person. People tell me I am very funny....well ha ha. It doesn't matter when you are alone. My Gonna be EX drove off every friend I had and now I  have no idea how to reconnect with friends......I so understood everything you are saying....I find sometimes, my issues are so overwhelming that I can't take on anyone elses! That sounds so selfish and so not me! I am a service oriented person!! I love to do things for people.....I want to go out and have a fun time....doing what?? I have no idea as it has been so long since I have done anything....One of my issues IS self image. I don't know what to do about it at all....Maybe we need to discuss this issue in a support group or something. Thank you for showing me that I am not alone in this!!! I so needed that today....now I'm crying....I cry alot too. Anyone else do that????????  I see the psych. person on the 17! lol    Sherry

I understand.  My ex husband was an a$$ and drove off everyone too!!!  One of the friends I lost when I went through my divorce was too needy and I just couldn't take it because I could barely keep my own head above water being a single mom and not even having a date for 2 years!!! She would call me crying about how awful her husband was....when in my opinion she was just spoiled and bratty.  It was too difficult.  I started dreading her calls.  Once, I was in church on a Wednesday night and had my phone turned off for obvious reasons she ranted that a good friend would answer her phone calls when she needed to talk to them.  She didn't even think that I might be in church or have a reason not to have answered her 6 phone calls in an hour!!!  It was the last straw.  I told her she was too needy and demanding and I couldn't do it anymore.  Maybe that makes me a bad friend?????  not sure but I felt very disrespected that she thought I should be there for her whenever she demanded it.                          I'm sorry that you have been crying.  I didn't mean to make anyone sad.  I am sure there are more who feel this way out there.  It probably is a good thing to discuss in support group.  I should go to one.  I've only been to 3 in the 6 months since my surgery...shame on me!  I think we all have issues with self esteem to some degree.  I was hoping it would get better but I guess it is a struggle for some of us.  I hope the replies on here will help you also.  It always helps when someone understands you.  {{{HUGS}}}

I wouldn't say I'm friendless, but my best friend is 1200 miles away and has two small children and a hubby (who is also a good friend).  I just moved to OKC from Dallas, had WLS, work out of my home and spend a lot of time with my elderly parents and sick Uncle.  It's hard to figure out how to get out and meet people.

I'm thinking of taking some classes and I just bought a motorcycle and want to start going on day trips.  I ride my bike and I'm looking at kayaking.  Maybe I should take motorcycle and kayaking classes.

I have people I can call if I need a heart to heart talk-I just wish I could find people to go to the movies with.

All the okie "snake people" I know are married men-so that's not really a good fit.  LOL.

Ironically, I was alone raising my child as a young, single parent and now that she's raised, all my rowdy friends are having babies?????????? 

Ok, I've wallowed in self pity all I'm going to, but it was kind of fun-let's do it again.

I'd like to take some dance classes.  I think dancing would be a great way to burn some calories!!  I love all the dance shows on tv now.  I love movies about dancers/dancing.  But have I ever danced...only when NO ONE IS LOOKING!  lol 

You should really look into the dance classes. When I was a little thinner me and my mom took some dance classes. Me and DH took one together also. They are so much fun!! I think you would have a great time, and your right it would be great exercise.

I need to take a scuba class too.  There's a place by Hefner that has their own lake in town so you don't have to go out of town for the weekend to do your open water tests.  It's a little pricey, but probably about the same as if you had to go away for a weekend.  With my family situation, getting away is tough right now.

I've never thought about scuba...I think it's the swimsuit or the wet suit that gets in my way!  I love swimming but it's kind of like dancing....I like to do it when no one is watching...lol  I am very claustrophobic and don't think I could handle scuba....I did get used to the CPAP mask but I think I handled that because I closed my eyes and turned the lights out and could kind of block out that something was all over my face!!!  I don't use it anymore thank goodness....I like to sleep on the left side and then the right and then the left and that CPAP was not very accomodating for my flip flopping ways!!!

I'm 33 and feel as if I don't have any friends.  I am not married, and have no children.  I work a lot of hours and when I am at home I'm busy catching up on cleaning, doing laundry catching up with family and getting prepared for the next day.  My one and true bestfriend lives 800 miles away and she is busy now in her own life with her kids and job and I have only really spoken to her maybe 3 times in the last 4 years.  When I do feel that I connect and make friends it just never seems to work out.  Monday is my surgery and I'm grumpy and sad.  Being on a liquid diet sucks and I miss chewing food.  I wish I had a friend to come over and feel my pain but I'm on my own.

Diana, First off, don't feel bad about not walking this morning -- I did not go either!  LOL. I got up and it was storming so I went back to bed! With that being said, I know exactly how you feel. I too am shy and it does take me a while to get to know people. I would be very open to meeting in the evenings to walk also. I would love to increase my exercise but hate doing it alone. We live so close to each other so I am sure we could come up with something if we put our minds to it.   Nancy