Bad Week to a good weekend, sorta

 Last week was so stressful. First off my mom and I have not been getting alone.. she is driving me nuts! Then a "so called" friend of mine tells me that it makes her mad that i can sit at home on my fat a** (yes she put it that way) and get the whole IRS stimulas check , while she works 2 jobs and only got a 1/3 of what we got. Well hello Scott works! keep in mind that this is the lady that i babysit her daughter for her alot and dont charge her. anyway a few days later my aunt calls to tell me that she asked the "so called" friend to work at the daycare and she is making her director too. wow what a blow, do i want to be director? NO but since I have worked there for 6 yrs shouldnt I have had the choice??? Then my aunt informs me that they didnt ask me because in her opinion I am to heavy and if a kid gets hurt how can I help them? But she still wants me to work for her as an assistant. hmmm.. if I am to fat to help as a director then wouldnt i be to fat to help as an assistant? seeing as an assistant spends more time with the kids than the director? Basically she thinks I am to fat for the director job but not to do the assistant job, makes no sense to me. When I called her on it she got very defensive about it. and she keeps saying 'you know i wouldnt hurt your feelings on purpose" HELLO!! I am not usually sensitve about my weight but this really hurt me. I think mostly because she isnt just my aunt she is supposed to be my friend too. Now i am feeling double whammied. She kept going on and on about how she is worried about me (which is nice of her) but she keeps talking about how big I am and how I need to get off my ass and excersize and diet. Like I dont already! Besides she and I have talked about how when people upset me about the weight i tend to overeat and get depressed and how it just makes matters worse. now she just doesnt understand why i am so upset with her! I spent most of last week crying and eating! i am stilling crying because when i think about it, it hurts my feelings all over again. Anyway, Scott seeing that I was stressed out yet again decides tht a mini vacation was in order! WOOOHOOOOOOOO so off to Branson with Scott and the kids! We had a blast, we went to silver dollar city and to the titanic, not really my cup of tea but it was kinda neat. Scott and DJ enjoyed it.  When we got to SDC we were on our way to buy tickets and a lady actually gave us some for free! now that was awsome! i had called the day before to reserve an electric cart.. they said they didnt have any.. but when we got there they did have some so i got to ride through the park and it was so much better than being in pain and trying to walk it. I really enjoyed it. it was great to spend a weekend with scott and the kids like we used to when the kids where younger.  Even though the problem with my aunt kept coming to mind and reminding me that I am a FAT A**. i would have had alot more fun if I didnt have that on my mind but bless scott for trying to get my mind off it. ok enough rambling... see ya all soon.

No comment about your friend and Aunt except to say People SUCK sometimes!  I'm glad that Scott took you away for the weekend and you had a great time.  Sometimes just getting away can really help clear your head. kat

I am sorry that your family and friends are being so thoughtless and mean.  You take care of yourself...I hope this week is better.

Let's take the fact that this lady is your "Aunt". If she were a prospective employer in the work world. She could be hit with a lawsuit for discriminating against you because of your weight! The thing is many of us ARE actually turned down for jobs or whatever, because of it and it just flat hurts....It is true, but it hurts. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I too am glad you got to go enjoy yourself for a few days....Now get back on track and soon you will be the person you want to be!!  Sherry

I understand your pain.  I have been turned down for jobs that I was clearly the best candidate simply because I was too fat.  Of course I couldnt prove it but it was pretty clear what happened.  I finally gave up  interviewing for a promotion.  Much easier on the emotions. I am so happy you had fun at Silver Dollar City.  I love that place. In this country, fat is the last socially acceptable area of discrimination.  It is so unfair!

Dang-thats a tough bunch of things.

My intincts tell me that your aunt was just using the director's job to "motivate" you and she's probably really concerned for you-but from your standpoint, it probably didn't feel that way at all.  On a good day I realize my MOm's annoying behavior comes out of love and concern, on a bad day, it's just annoying.

The big truth no one seems to get, is that we have to do it for ourselves and in our own time and the best motivation would just be love and encouragement no matter what our size.

My husband's uncle used to delight in telling me how fat I was when I was a size 16, so you can imagine I didn't see him by choice for many years. I'm thinking a viist to Bristow is in order so that he can see me now. Then again, why should he? I went back home to Enid for Father's Day with my DH and son to see his dad and our daughter and her dh and in-laws. We went to church yesterday for "Dad Fest 2008" which is a great day b/c the sanctuary is decorated by the dads "(deer, quail, bears, wheels, etc.) and a Harley (drool city) was in the lobby. Car show outside. Anyway, we hadn't been back to church there since we moved to Edmond 2 years ago, so people were blown away when they saw me. Except one lady who said, "Well, you did it the easy way. I'm doing it the hard way." I said, "Believe me, this wasn't easy. Losing weight isn't easy no matter the process." She just stood there, and I turned and walked away to speak to someone else. Now, had I NOT been in church, the answer would probably be different!

Good for you cat-seriously.  That easy way thing really pushes my last button, because I did well in school and was always told "well, it's easy for you....".  While her comment may have been out of envy or whatever, she is still responsible for what comes out of her mouth, and that is rude.

Thanks, Hoodoo..

I'm so sorry you had such a bad week last week. I'm very happy you got to have a fun weekend and hooray for a caring husband to take you away! I hope this is a much better week!